for one month baby, I use lampin and those washable diapers, to save cost. Besides, once the lampin is wet, we can know immediately and change it out. Hence, reducing the risk of bacteria infection except only at midnight. For midnight, I use Hughies.

wow... congratulations... take care of diet and work.

congratulations bro~ all is well

I think sjkc also depends on where is the school. Not all wiill have things like this. Perhaps wet tissues will be your best bet

Congratulations

My daughter who is 5 years old this year cannot cope with me being away (I worked outstation and return home forthnightly for two days). The teacher put a remark in the report card stating Need more attention from parents. My wife busy working and taking care of 5 months old son. She always feel lonely. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law stay at my home. But the impact of my daughter is quite huge since I started this job, plus mco, the time spent with my daughter really limited, causing she seeks attention whenever I am home, be it throwing tanthrum, do not want to take dinner or etc.

Seeing the impact to my daughter, I tender my resignation to move back to my home. Currently serving notice. And yes, I resign without any job on hand, I still got enough saving. For me, I think it is not worth it to sacrifice my family for higher salary elsewhere.

hei, is your wife pregnant? if she is, just visit the gynae your wife is comfortable or any gynae family/friends recommend

I guess you already given the solution

I am a father of two, and like most of us, I am working too. I do not earn 20k per month. I finish with my Master and looking forward to PhD (currently preparing my research proposal and IELTS). Besides all that, I am UN Online Volunteer, supporting a non-profit organisation from Papua New Guinea in their research paper on sustainable development. Of course, I can see my daughter throwing tantrums sometimes, and I believe I am not perfect. But at least, when I am around, in the evening I spent time with my kids gardening and walking. I always travel outstation, Johor, Sarawak, Pahang for work. The weekend is a big no-no for me to work. It is either family time, or if I am rushing on my thesis, I will work on it for a couple of hours. Sometimes, we spent time going to have a walk at the park. In my daily routine (If I am around), normally after dinner, I will prepare my kids to bed, around 9pm, my wife will let my kids sleep and I will continue on my study, personal me-time until 12pm. I try to ensure I get 6hours of sleep daily. Very rare I sleep later than 2am, and honestly, sometimes, it does happen when I did not sleep at all and straight go to the office. But it happens a couple of times. If you are wondering what is my age, I am in my mid-30s. My rule set for my family is - All meals must eat together at the same time, especially dinner. On the weekend, normally I will work on my personal stuff after breakfast with the family. For 2-3 hours after breakfast, I will work on my personal stuff. After lunch, I will spend an hour or two with my kids on their activities. Then continue on with my personal stuff again.

And yes, I do not watch TV (or netflix nowadays). I no longer watch football. You have to sacrifice something. There is never a work-life balance. It is how you juggle in between the load. When you spent time with the kids, you have to do something together with your kids. Drawing, painting, Lego, Playground, heck, I even bought some science puzzles and match them together with my kids. When I am accompanying my kids to bed, I chat with them, asking about their friends, food, schools, etc. At your kids' age, I guess they are entering teenage, getting rebellious. But you should be able to salvage your relationship with them.

I do not know how heavy your workload is, but for me, the work in the office will never end no matter what. No matter how well I perform or spent time on the reports, there will always comment and negative feedback on how they should be written. So, nowadays, I spent more time on my personal goals rather than on the company. After all, the day after I quit/die, the company will have another 100 people queuing up for my position.

Best of luck.

ok, now I see your problem. So, is there anyone in your mind to get married again? Perhaps, if you do not mind; may I suggest:

1) Doing laundry once a week, or every 2-3 days once.
2) Train your kids to help
3) Cut out tuition if it is not helping financially.
4) Meal - perhaps can do some simple meals or train them to help you cook rice. Daily can buy some additional dish. Can cook extra for tomorrow. Or kept in the fridge, tomorrow can fry rice. Housechore wise, maybe once a week cleaning?

I am sorry you have to go through alone, but stay strong. You do not lose interest in many things, it is just that fatigue sets into your mind. Try to have a break. Go to the park with your kids, spend a day on weekend having a walk and breakfast nearby. You may feel refreshed. Or you can join some classes, or clubs, or community service. By speaking to different people, you may feel relieved.

If you mean directly near Old Klang Road, I guess it is hard. But if you expand your range to further around Klang Valley, there are many places to go. I do understand financial may be a problem for you, but most of the place with animals charge a small fees such as Zoo Negara, Taman Burung, Taman Rama-Rama or Selangor Fruits Valley (Bestari Jaya). I know an Orchid Nursery at Ulu Yam do have some koi and ducks, but that is primarily for people to buy orchids. If you like dogs, Desa Park City's park, there are fish in the pond and people bring their dogs around. I am sure more dads around can tell you better.

It does not matter what you do, relatives always look down on you to boast their own ego. Ignore them. Try get those with same mindset together.

How do you measure the lack of response?

I am sorry to see this. Honestly, while I am having fun with my family, sex really goes down hills. My wife never touch me if I initiate. Even I did initiate, she hardly responds. Perhaps too tired with two kids now. But I did taking care of the kids and send the kids to bed. In the end, it is always men's fault for looking for other relieve method.

Do you check with doctor? is it medical issue?

Boy or girl?

I am glad to see this. Happy New Year~

I got a father of two, one age 7 and the other 2. While I appreciate the baby bed, I prefer my kids to be sticky. I mean, how many more years they will stick to you? At least for now, I prefer my kids cuddling me to bed. In the end, I guess it is all down to parents' preference in bringing up the kids.

How old is your son? Is she still under baby blue? It may takes up to 1-2 years for woman to get used to it. Just take over the responsibility of taking care of your son and let her rest for few days a week. Alternate the responsibility of taking care of your son.

the cost to raise the kids is not cheap nowadays. my daughter per month in international school over RM 1.4k. And some cost even higher. I just do not have enough confidence in Malaysia's schooling system, as of now.