This calls for Gambir Jantan!

I don't think there's a problem with that sort of comparison.

Isn't "Love" the determining factor and "Sex" is just the compliment? If one gives too much weight to "Sex" in a relationship, not only it will wear down the relationship faster, the parties in the relationship will feel extreme stress because not every individual has the same sex drive. If we placed emphasize on the latter then the relationship is no different than a customer with a GRO. If that is the general notion of what "Love" is then please let me fall out of "Love" because I can find elsewhere for same with less commitment.

Sorry to say this but if women stray because they aren't "serve with Sex" enough or in the right manner then please allow me to call them "whores/sluts". Definitely not wife/girlfriend material because eventually, men will get old and "Sex" will definitely be served in a less appropriate manner and the frequency will reduce. Based on the aforesaid logic, all couples will break up/divorce when "Sex" reduces or the quality deteriorates. Then again, this equates "Love" with "Sex" which is wrong.

Also, this understand gives men reason to cheat on the basis that "he wasn't serve Sex in the manner it should be served".



It actually takes more than just "rub one off" during masturbation. First thing first, how long is your boyfriend's penis because the shorter it is, the faster he will cum because he will come in contact with the glands more often than someone who is longer which they could stroke the less sensitive shaft. For better understanding, imagine and compare the sensation you derive from rubbing your clitoris and other parts of your female genetalia.

The general rule is, the more sensitive he is, the faster he cums. Maybe you can take this into consideration during foreplay.

There's no "ideal cumming time". My question is to sprout an answer on the average time your boyfriend cums during masturbation. From there, you'll get an idea why he cums fast. If it's a habit for him to finish in 10 seconds then he should be able to fix what he is currently encountering. Cumming is all about control, he needs to hold back the urge of continue rubbing until he cums when he knows he's about to.

It's natural for men to keep going when he feels it is cumming. It's like how men tend to push deep during penetrative sex when he cums.

At this juncture, i don't think your boyfriend is suffering from PE. It's just about the state of control.

At this juncture, we need to look into all avenues no matter how trivial there are because studies actually shows circumcised men usually last longer in bed. So with TS's boyfriend not circumcised, there is still hope but that doesn't mean TS's boyfriend MUST got for a circumcision

TS mention that her boyfriend cums even by her sound of moaning. If dirty talk i think before even TS laid hands on the penis, explode already XD

Sounds like you're experienced. Work together. Don't give up. Just do it.

I think he's just inexperienced and hasn't has much experience with many girls yet.

ask your bf to visit www.nofap.com or reddit.com/r/nofap as well as http://yourbrainonporn.com/, he must have had excessive masturbation habit as well as watching too much porn.

from tcm perspective, his condition is 肾虚 which is caused by excessive ejaculation resulting in loss of libido. symptoms include - loss of morning glory, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, profused sweating, loss of stamina, premature grey hair / balding, bad breathe, bad temper (easily go on fire), loss of socializing, bad memory.

usually for guys they mostly reach their 'menopause' period after 70 of age. but most guys today get those symptoms @ 15 / 20 / 25 / 30 due to porn being too easily accessible. All ejaculations result in loss of sexual energy, and for guys, its the male hormone that is affected the most.

I know the feeling and how badly it affects all the lovemaking sessions, but i ask you to give him a chance, visit those website and read how porn affects the guys and make them prematurely sexually impotent and then talk to him about it.

I am also one of the victim of porn era, being addicted as early as 2002 when i was 12, and spent most of the time watching porn and masturbating, in just 3 years time i had all the symptoms of male menopause aka 肾亏and my gf has experienced similar things during the early days of our relationship, and it badly affected our relationship and i felt shit of course. However, ever since i changed few years ago (basically no more porn use), i started to enjoy normal sexual life again, and there is no more premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction problems. My grey hair, from 40% at the age of 15, to now less than 10% in age of 25.

finding western docs and taking viagra wont solve it but will only make matters worst.



This post has been edited by darksider: Oct 16 2015, 12:45 PM

My answer:
1) He gets too exited too quickly. that's why he ejaculated too quick. He needs to calm himself.
2) Put some lotion like gambir or something to numb his bird bird. Then he wont shoot too fast.
3) Circumcision is the best. No more that sensitive anymore.

TS = Thread Starter = you who start this topic.

wow!

so... what was your solution?

I think people expect instant result when they consult doctor as a final remedy. Some men are just that sensitive to woman touches, moaning etc.

Why not try your own remedy like how to get him to get used to all these turn on? Instead of having sex, you would help him overcome his over excitement by rubbing him, stroking, blowing etc, but tell him to warn you when he's about to come. Stop and dont let him come so easily. Let him get used to the sensation. Try it for 2-3months on regular basis (3-4 times a week) and see it gets better gradually. Maybe at later stage can let him penetrate but dont start pumping. Just cuddle along with small movement getting a feel of your grip.

I dont think medication is good for long term. I also tried those condoms with delay cream but actually it was not satisfying. I end up feeling nothing although I did climax. What work for me was regular sex (3-4times a week) and try going raw at first at a slow pace (sensitive yes, but stop before it get too excited). Then put on a condom and continue after the urge subside a little bit. After that you get a reduced sensation due to the condom but you still feel it unlike when using delay cream condom.

This post has been edited by andrekua2: Oct 16 2015, 10:33 PM

Ts why u pressure him like that.

If he fast climax ka...pe ka...tak boleh naik ka...


Just accept him as he is...you shoulf be inspiring confidence in your bf...not taking it away.

I think my bf has the same problem.. He ejaculate when putting on condom. And we haven't even started anything yet

This post has been edited by cutiepie1992: Oct 17 2015, 10:13 AM

u should be partially happy (not entirely) he has that premature ejaculation thing..

this prove that he has least or even no sex experience with other girls before you (can hardly find these type of guys now day)...

guy who can last long in bed (>90%) has ëxperience with many girls before..in other words..dump many girls before that also after doing it..then they finally reach you..


so, my advice is..just be grateful you have a bf that love you.. he will get better eventually dont give him too much pressure, sex is not everything, love is

probably u r too hot and ur moan too sexy that men can't stand.

by medicine you mean dapoxetine?

I hope some comment from all the helper here can help you to solve the problem. Don't give up Keep it on practise with the correct way.

he tried on the delay cream before. It is not working for him. Sometimes he in good condition, bj was ok, but come to penetration, it fail.

sometimes have think about seek for chinese medicine to strengthen the health. He heard about acupuncture may help. Anyone heard about this?

Your brother should reduce on masturbate & adjust to the proper schedule of intercourse. Delay ejaculate may course dyfunction. Sorry for my serious word. Mindset controlling physical. Less porn watching. He is lossing his part of sensitiveness.

look like now u become expert liao. for my case, i exercise and practice health care and my problem get better. now days can do for 10 minute - 1 hour depend on stress level

You both guys?