Recently I'm so stress out on studies, accomodation and also some issue with my parents. These are driving me crazy lately.
I have a few sleepless night that I get insomnia due to too much things trap in my brain, but physically I'm already very exhausted.
Once in a while I will feel like I can't really breath smoothly and my heartbeats go faster then usual.
Also, when I got nag, my tears can just rush out from my eyes like nobody business. I can't really cool down myself when I faced some problems, I will be very scared, mad, angry, sad, emotional very easily.....

I know it is not right, I think I'm not so okay.. But what is this?? Is this anxiety?? Or something else???
What can I do????

This post has been edited by fannyong8512: Jul 25 2015, 08:47 PM

realized you have problem and seek for help is the very 1st step you need to take, congratulation yourself on taking the 1st step.

now if you willing to tell more about your problem, i willing to be read it , i think some other people might too, so take your time and tell you problem, me or somebody else might provide you the solution of your problem.

I don't really know how should I explain everything to you.
But I will just tell you what I can.
For most of the things I do, I will have a plan as well as a time limit to finish them up, just to keep the efficiency to complete a certain duty.
Recently, things just don't go with my plan, but is okay, there will always be a possibility to go crap for some unexpected reason. But just a little thing I can just go mad or get very extremely worry that I can just burst myself into tears. I can't cool myself down, I just can't control myself. I will just go mad and feel everything I done will never success... I will blame myself for being useless, I can't even do well in such a little thing. Ofcourse my parents blame me for not doing my things well, complain that I'm not into my responsibility at all, which I swear I swear I had really try hard for it. But no matter how I explain, they just feel that I'm being lazy and not motivated to do things properly.
I really really hate that when people judge all my efforts without knowing anything. I'm afraid of not doing things right.. And just randomly I can't breath well...
I don't know.......

I hope so too..
Thanks for your reply..

one way of helping you is for you to express your feelings or your problems, as detail as possible, and anonymously if you prefer.

Just express all your problems, all what you have been through here, even if it is not good. People who has experience would come here to give you some advice.

To make it anonymously, just simply create another account here

well, from now on, you should have prepare for plan B and C if plan A failed, prepare for the worst , acknowledge that sometime ,something will be out of your range of control. example : raining, you cant control when it raining start, but you can always prepare for it, take an umbrella.

failure is the mother of success, so dont be afraid of failing , the more you failed, the more you will understanding the problem and eventually you can find a solution to it.

temporary blaming urself is fine, but after that you still need to find the solution for ur problem.

the way you describe your parent kinda make me feel like they're not a good parent, but thats okay, you just have to ignore them, dont let their negativity affect you.

hater gonna hate, you cant control how people view about you, so ,stop care about their judgement, it is you, you're the only one that is true to yourself, and it is only you that you should mainly accounted for.

apart from all the above mentally works, you still have to eat well, sleep well, a healthy soul can only be maintain by a healthy body, if you interesting in some diet advise, i think i can give u some, only if you're interested. ( i dont like to waste my time typing then only to be ignored by the person)

Ok.. I will delete it after I get some recommendation.
I'm that I don't know by doing this is not good.
Thanks for reminding me

Just proceed. Throw all out rather than keep in urself.
Probably there are people out there experienced worst than yours.
Pretty sure there are at least 1 people who can provide you assistance.

Thanks so much for you patience to read all my problems~ I do really appreciate it.
But the thing is, I can accept failure last time, but not recently. A thing hits me a little can good enough to bring me so down.
I just can't cool myself down.
But if you would to be so kind to share your advice on diet that can help me to calm my emotion, of course in will be truly appreciate it, very much.

Ok~ thank you and I will keep waiting..

seconded.

Life is up and down.
Not everyone will have the time to monitor someone if they really work hard or not. This is the thing you must learn to accept.
For instance like me, I work on programme code most of the time.
When sometimes there are some hard task assigned to me, I would spend double or triple time to work on it, but people would never see it.
When I manage to overcome, they say "aiya easy job" and that's it. No affirmation or appreciation.
If fails, they would get furious and angry, even I did tried super hard. But who cares?
But as I failed, i learned at the same time. This is something we need to build within ourself. Mentally strong and stay optimistic.

As more events happen in your life, you would experience more. Prob the worst still hasn't come yet.

Sitting in your room or lying on the bed, keep thinking on the issue wont work too. Go out, travel, do some leisure activities, to relax your mind and body.

Infront of the others, I'm a very happy and positive person. All those emotions that I mentioned earlier is all when I'm alone. So no one know if I'm okay or not. No one knows I'm like that. But I know that is not a good sign is not a good habit to have, that's I'm here to seek help.
I can be very okay but can be very not okay in a sudden
And this never happen to me last time when similar situation happen.

okay, lets hit with ur depression 1st, the best food to fight depression , i would suggest u drink cocoa powder + brown sugar (* not milo, take note, milo contain barley which is bad for the body) go get a cocoa powder and mix it with brown sugar, best remedy to lift up ur mood, and eat omega 3 food, e.g sardine is the best source ( warned : it taste very fishy you might not like it ) , but sardine is still the best, free from mercury contamination , dont fried it, if not the omega 3 will change to omega 6 , so steam the fish, and cover it with.. anythings you like to make it taste better, omega 3 is the food for your brain, you want and well oil functioning brain, omega 3 is the best.



if you have time, do check out other video on recommend.

okay, healthy diet, in short, you have to stop eating all of this kind of food, foods that make from wheat, rye, barley and oats , wheat is the major here, bread biscuit cookie noodles pasta, you have to stop eating ' completely. rice and bihun is okay.

replace bread biscuit cookie noodles pasta with rice , bihun, sweet potatoes , yam, tapioca , potatoes.

and dont eat fried foods, any fried foods is bad, it will put stress on your body.

ok it gonna take a lot time for me to type, i give u an link The 10 Bad Foods (and Good Foods to Eat)

then you have to take 90 essential nutrients every now and then, if you can absorb it daily then it gonna be best

you dont have to buy their supplement, but you will need to consume a wide range of natural food to obtain the nutrients ( im not a salesman , dont worry )

so , you have google up the food source from all the 90 essential nutrients.

there is really a wide range of food, in short, i would suggest you consume the according food as these are superfood that contain wide range of nutrients, e.g : egg, broccoli , apple , sardine , almonds

i wish you get well soon.

You might wanna read this
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/depressi...-depression.htm

From the article (Some good point):
1) Allow yourself to be less than perfect.
2) Eating
3) Enough Sleep

If you don't mind, you can tell us one or two detailed problems.

Btw, do you feel heart pumps faster than usual when you're in the mood?

Besides tears drop, emotion crack,
do you feel any place uneasy physically..

like dizzy, feel vomit, hand shaking, cannot stand up etc.

Do you that I have a mild depression??><
But is surprising that bread is one of the food I should avoid. Basically at my home, my family and I consume quite healthy food. But recently I crave for French fries so much><
Ok~ I will try to change my diet from tomorrow onwards, since is kinda late already. But thank you for your kindness for being so helpful. You are nice
And I hope I can get well soon too~

Oh ya, you remind me. I do feel my heartbeat faster, which I think is normal because when somebody is angry or panic, their heartbeat will beats faster. However, in the same time I will feel nausea, keep like wanted to throw out when I'm nervous or worried, especially when my heart beats faster. Hand shanking, sometimes but I didn't really think it happens often. And one main concern is my chest will feel sudden pain(just a small area of the chest. Not left chest tho, so I don't think is related to heart) which last for a few seconds. To explain the feeling will be mild electrical shot. Chest pain problem had started since about a year ago

This post has been edited by fannyong8512: Jul 26 2015, 12:46 AM

If this is the case, it might be something not right going on.
I do feel anxiety sometimes, and feeling a little dizzy and heartbeat fast but I do not feel chest pain or nausea.
I think you should check out with doctor sooner. Just to be sure it is just stress, not other health issue.
I can't comment further on health issue because I have no experience in medical aids.. sryyy..

Have you try to voice out to anyone what EXACTLY is bothering you in ur mind? pin point the events.
This would help too, sometimes speaking out is a way too..

Carbohydrate cravings are a surefire sign of serotonin deficiency.

If you go to a psychiatrist or even GP, he might put you on
antidepressants, These days, they use the newer class called SSRIs,
or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors - Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil, Lexapro.

SSRIs delay the uptake of serotonin into the brain, resulting in
higher levels of serotonin circulating in the bloodstream.


However, too high levels of serotonin can cause osteoporosis in the long run.

(Depression and anxiety themselves are also linked with lower bone mass.)




Major depressive disorder and bone mass in adolescents and young adults.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/24723424/



Association of depressive symptoms and anxiety with bone mass
and density in ever-smoking and never-smoking adolescent girls.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2660672/



Bone mass, depressive, and anxiety symptoms in adolescent girls:
variation by smoking and alcohol use.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3200526/



Medication-induced osteoporosis: screening and treatment strategies.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4206646/



Use of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors and
bone mass in adolescents: An NHANES study.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/25940460



Serotonergic antidepressant use and the risk of fracture.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/26126579



The association between use of antidepressants and bone quality
using quantitative heel ultrasound.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/25586753




Antidepressant medications and osteoporosis.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/22659406



The adverse skeletal effects of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/21295451



Depression, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, and osteoporosis.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/20809204



Evaluation of the effect of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors
on bone mineral density: an observational cross-sectional study.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4286623/





This post has been edited by Tham: Jul 26 2015, 10:35 AM

Try using supplements to increase your serotonin levels.

5-HTP
St John's Wort
Magnesium, as taurate or glycinate




The Anti-Anxiety Mineral.

http://www.anxietyzap.com/30-the-anti-anxiety-mineral.htm



'' No meds, just magnesium. ''

http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=107581



Magnesium - The Missing Link to Better Health.

'' It's also a precursor for neurotransmitters like serotonin. ''

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles...h-benefits.aspx



Rapid recovery from major depression using magnesium treatment.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/16542786/



'' I began taking this product 3 weeks ago for panic Attacks and anxiety.
After YEARS on various prescription drugs I recently heard about the
effects of Magnesium Taurate on panic/anxiety.
So far I have cut back to half the dose of Zoloft (which I've taken for
the past 4 years) and 75% LESS Clonazepam ! ''

http://www.amazon.com/Magnesium-Taurate-12...s/dp/B00014D5TS


http://www.iherb.com/Cardiovascular-Resear...-Capsules/64018




Other supplements you can try.


http://www.iherb.com/Nature-s-Way-Mood-Aid...0-Capsules/2004

http://www.iherb.com/Natural-Balance-HTP-C...eggie-Caps/4605

http://www.iherb.com/MRM-Relax-All-60-Veggie-Caps/4842

http://www.iherb.com/Now-Foods-True-Calm-90-Capsules/841




How to increase serotonin in the human brain without drugs.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2077351/



The Life Extension Foundation's Protocol for Anxiety.

http://www.lef.org/Protocols/Emotional-Health/Anxiety/

These people advocate the Paleo Diet, which is a high protein, high fat,
low carbohydrate diet. Many here seem to following it.

http://robbwolf.com/2012/10/05/serotonin-d...-food-cravings/


However, these women advise their Serotonin Diet, which is high carbohydrate,
low protein and low fat.

http://www.serotoninpowerdiet.com/

http://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/s...depression.aspx

http://bebrainfit.com/serotonin-deficiency/

http://bebrainfit.com/serotonin-foods-mood-brain/



I would prefer a more balanced and moderate diet - Barry Sear's Zone Diet,
also called the 40/30/30 diet -

40 % carbohydrates
30 % protein
30 % fats


In terms of the Asian diet, this is roughly, at each meal -

One fistful of rice
Two fistfuls of meat
One fistful of vegetables


http://www.zonediet.com/

http://www.zonediet.com/blog/anxiety-and-o...-3-fatty-acids/



'' ..... a woman who’s brain fog and depression disappeared
when she started the Zone diet. '


'' I purchased the book ''Enter the Zone'' and started to follow the programme
in mid-February 1997. I noticed an improvement in energy levels from the
third week. By mid July 1997 I had lost 3 stone and all my other complaints
have disappeared. Back pain, sore knees and all pain and stiffness in my
muscles have gone. I feel happy and optimistic, I sleep soundly five or six
hours a night and am mentally alert the rest of the time. I wake feeling
refreshed each morning. I have heaps of energy for the first time in my life.
My blood pressure is normal. I have never felt so utterly WELL.”

http://paleozonenutrition.com/2010/12/10/g...in-quick-links/



Many celebrities are on the Zone - Madonna, Tom Cruise, Jennifer Anniston,
Sandra Bullock, Drew Barrymore, Bill Cosby, Charlie Sheen, Kevin Costner,
Ben Stiller, Tiger Woods, Renee Zellweger.



Other useful sites.

'' Best Diet for Depression, Anxiety and Bipolar Syndrome. ''

http://www.balancingbrainchemistry.co.uk/p...-,-Anxiety.html



Diet Can Help You Cure Your Anxiety.

http://www.anxietycurezone.com/anxiety-diet.html

I did went for check up regarding on my chest pain issue. Everything is fine, the doctor gave me some medicine but the pain still come back.
And yea, I speak to my best friend, and I'm glad that my friend is really supportive.
Thanks Alvin~ you are nice

Hi Tham, will these supplements have side effects??
I don't really believe in medicine/ supplements especially in tablet form, because I'm really afraid of side effects.
Are you familiar with all these??

sometimes stranger are easier to talk to, since there are no commitment in between.
Last time when I has major breakdown I just google some random forum or social media, then post all problems there.
People eventually will come and give advice.

But just do not get too attached to them. Haha.

Yea..can't agree more.. At least I wouldn't need to worry if the person takes my problem as a joke or whatever..

Since you are so apprehensive about supplements, you
had better not take them.

Just follow the advice of the others.

Ok...I will try different and see how it goes~
Thanks Tham

Your problem is biochemical, not psychological.

You have too little serotonin circulating in your system, especially your brain.

Too little serotonin can cause enxiety and depression.

That is why supplements can help to increase the serotonin.

Those supplements are quite common, well-known and quite safe.

I have taken 5-HTP before, 100 mg before bed. No side effects.

http://www.iherb.com/Now-Foods-5-HTP-100-mg-120-Vcaps/306


Some of them here are also taking St John's Wort, well-known herb for
depression and anxiety.


Anyway, you may also try hypnosis. There is a practising psychologist
trained in hypnosis posting here, Mr Hiro Koo. His center is at the
former Galleria Complex in Jln Setapak.

http://www.newmindcentre.com/p/contact-us.html

His user name is Zeropoint9. You could try messaging him.


If you want to consult a psychiatrist, Dr Cheah Wing Yin at Sunway
Medical Center also knows hypnosis.



Mental Health and Hypnosis.

http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/m...th-hypnotherapy



Hypnosis as a Possible Treatment for Anxiety.

http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/treatment/hypnosis



Hypnosis and Anxiety.

http://www.triroc.com/sunnen/topics/hypn&anxiety.htm



HOW DOES CLINICAL HYPNOTHERAPY TREAT DEPRESSION ?

http://web.wellness-institute.org/blog/bid...th-Hypnotherapy




This post has been edited by Tham: Jul 27 2015, 09:33 PM

Hypnosis in the management of symptoms in a young girl
with malignant astrocytoma: a challenge to the therapist.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/2925295



A hypnotherapy intervention for the treatment of anxiety
in patients with cancer receiving palliative care.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/22399044/



Use of hypnosis in the treatment of combat
post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/24167937



Impact of Hypnotherapy on Examination Anxiety
and Scholastic Performance among School Children.

okay... Since you said there is not side effect so far, I might try on the supplement den..
But may I know why are you taking that supplement?? If you don't mind?

I was taking it more as a sleeping and calming aid, and I'm
also an anxious person like you.

You could try 50 mg for a start.


Preferably take an enteric-coated tablet or capsule to minimize
stomach discomfort.

http://www.iherb.com/Thompson-5-HTP-50-mg-...ggie-Caps/14536



Country Life's product is expensive, but seems to have good reviews.

http://www.iherb.com/Country-Life-Gluten-F...-detail-reviews

Yea..I have a weak stomach..
Most probably will start with lower dosage and coat.
Thank you Tham for your kindness for sharing this to me~

Your brain is made up of billions of brain cells called neurons, which use electricity to communicate with each other. Your beta brainwaves might be highly active (beta waves are often associated with active, busy, or anxious thinking and active concentration). Normally you can know more about yourself after an EEG biofeedback assessment session.

You may want to consider self-hypnosis. Self-hypnosis is a naturally occurring state of mind which can be defined as a heightened state of focused concentration. With it, you can change your thinking, reducing stress and anxiety.

Make sure you find a Licensed Hypnotherapist in Malaysia to help you (In Malaysia, Hypnotherapist is regulated by the Ministry of Health)

Can you explain more on self-hypnosis please??

I have a slightly different approach.
To analyse the brainwaves, I will use the neurotherapy technology, whereby one can observe the brainwave going into different state such as delta, theta, alpha and beta brainwave while the suggestion is being given by the clinical hypnotherapist during the therapy session, personalized self-hypnosis method will be developed based on the brainwave observation.

During the self hypnosis session, electrodes are applied to the individual’s scalp, which allow the patient and therapist to “listen in” on brainwave activity. The electrodes do not hurt and conduct no amount of electricity that one can feel. The person’s hair is not removed or shaven during the electrode placement. This is done in “real-time,” so the person sees exactly what is going on in their brain as they think certain thoughts, feel stressed, or feel relaxed. After you learn how to do self hypnosis, You will learn how to regulate your brain naturally, without pharmaceutical medications.

You can read this case:
http://www.newmindcentre.com/2015/04/testi...t-malaysia.html

Although I can suggest you take some B complex & calmag D supplement to improve your emotion and calm your mind.

But the most important , you need let go. be a WATER.

And ask yourself , these problem will haunt u forever of your life? If answer is no, then let go.

Ok, thanks a lot! I will read through it~
Thanks for the sharing

Yea.. Sometimes I really have to learn to let go.

u should. If you feel cant let go urself , then change environment, attend more positive place. like seminar , positive talk. Join more ppl with happy & positive face. Where u living ?

Ok, you don't like it when plan don't go your way right, instead of planning one plan plan extra backups. I am also like that so i changed my way of doing thing for the better me.

Sound like depression rather than anxiety

I'm from Johor.
Yea.. I'm leaving to UK soon.. And I hope new environment can help me a little..

I'm worry if I have depression too...
But sometimes I can be really really fine..
Sometimes I think I might need a psychratic to help me up too...

I know things usually will go different from my own plan, so I usually will have a few back ups.....
But........
All just useless that really makes me so lost

Hang in there, try to think and feel different.

Yeah I would like to know too... if its okay I also don't know if this is anxiety or just normal...


I worry alot about my future.. about my career my life in the next 5/10/15 years if i will be successful. About my future partner... and many other things in the future basically, like family wise, where i'll be staying. It's weird because i'm only 17 I don't know whether if its normal or not. I also worry about my spm soon. And the course i'll take next year... I worry about it almost everyday. Sometimes to the point I cant't sleep but not to often. Yeah so if anyone can help tell me if this is anxiety or just normal that would definitely be great

I think in your case should be anxiety..and a little paranoid..
Does this affects you very often??does that affect your life?v

I see. Im from johor also. Just remember one rules. You're the magnet , if you want happy , do something can make u feel happy or forget everything bother you. such as listen the music u like , but dont emo music la..Instead of focus those things will make u crazy. YOU ARE MAGNET, YOU CAN ABSORD ANYTHING WILL MAKE U HAPPY

Yea... I'm trying to control it...
Is tough....

you no need control. just focus the things u like , that's all. listen the happy music is the simplest way