May i know why people keep saying they need to change the bottle? I understand if the nipple, but what about the bottle? May i know how do you know when the bottle doesnt suit your baby?

In most cases, the teat comes along with the bottle & it can't be used in any other bottles of different brand. Therefore when the teat doesn't suit your baby, you have to end up changing the entire bottle to another brand.

ooo..means...need to buy in set la?cannot buy per part?

In most cases, the teat comes along with the bottle & it can't be used in any other bottles of different brand. Therefore when the teat doesn't suit your baby, you have to end up changing the entire bottle to another brand.

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Owh, sorry on the car seat part, but delaying on the stroller would be good choice

But as for me, even when my baby was 1month, she still wasnt really strong enough to sit on the car seat, what i did was i asked my wife to sit at the back and drive real slow     i know still it wasnt safe but that was the only way, before your baby strong enough to actually sit on it....

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1.stroller - a cheapest at rm140-180 will do
2.baby seat@car seat - let your baby try it out before decide
3.baby bed - sarong with motor will be a better option most of the time
4.newborn diaper - don't waste money on this, buy S size
5.baby cloth - ask around your friends and relatives
6.mittens - is this North pole?
7.Baby towel - normal towel will do, more important is change it regularly and don't wash it with normal detergents.
8.Blanket - cotton towel will do the trick
9.Netting - get number 13 will do
10.Rubber matt - if using cotton diaper, yes this is needed.
11.TYT oil - can get few bottles, at least 1 big for house use, small bottle when you are going out.
12. milk bottle(stainless steel or glass ones, avoid plastic) - getting plastic with BPA free will do and do not buy the Avent, sometimes babies don't like it.
13 Mosquito net - repeating stuff
14 baby lotion, rash cream, baby oil - can get anywhere
15 maternity pads for ur wife - 1 bag will be enough, make sure give your wife "sang fa" soup to clear out all the dirty blood.
16 baby bath tub
17 socks and hoods
18 cotton diaper, for daytime usage(disposable ones R expensive, only for nite time)
22. Spare some emergency funds - spend rm1600 in GH for C-sec(if some complications) is better than waste >rm5000 in private hospital will keep your wallet full.

BPA free is still plastic...
Straight from de source is still de best... glass is still de best choice for substitutes, followed by stainless steel...

sterilizer for milk bottle ,teats etc

Sterilizer is waste of money...

Used hot water is good enuf...

was your baby car seat those convertible ones or infant carrier...? imho, i think infant carrier is more suitable for nb babies til at least around 6mths+.. even though convertible car seats normally caters for babies from nb, i feel that it's better for them to sit from 6mths+ instead.. 

list :
1.stroller  -Delay until baby is born
2.baby seat@car seat - Delay until baby is born, it's not like you and wife will be going out often during her confinement and that way, you'll be able to get one that fits your baby well.
18 cotton diaper, for daytime usage(disposable ones R expensive, only for nite time) : memang cheaper but are you willing to wash 10-12 cloth diapers everyday?

OK, as a fellow father, I want to help you save wherever possible.

1. Delay the purchase of baby stroller.
I might catch some flak for saying this but baby stroller is not a necessity. Some babies hate baby stroller due to our hot & humid weather so they might get a tad uncomfortable. Moreover, baby strollers don't really age well with your baby & by 1.5 or 2 years old, your baby would most probably want to walk around by themselves instead of being straddled into the stroller.

As an alternative, if you plan to bring your baby around for sight-seeing, you may consider baby carrier instead. It allows you better bonding with the baby & it's cheaper too.

2. Delay the baby bed too.
If your wife plans to breastfeed, there's a high chance that she'll have to breastfeed the baby in the middle of her sleep via the lying down position. Once she gets comfortable with this style, you're pretty much guaranteed that your baby will be co-sleeping with your wife most of the time & your baby bed will be rendered redundant by then.

Invest heavily & smartly in items that promote safety instead. Car seats are no joke. Before you buy one, I strongly suggest you to Google for reviews to ensure that what you bought is worth the bucks you paid for. If your car has ISOFIX mounts, get ISOFIX car seat.

Some other items that I don't see in your list are:
1) Breastpump if your wife is a working mom & plan to breastfeed. You pretty much have 2 choices only; Medela (pricy) or Spectra (economic). Both are good brands & I'll let you Google their pros & cons yourself.

2) Baby milk bottles?

3) Spare some emergency funds too, especially for jaundice related issue which is pretty common.

4) Last but not least, do remember to pamper your wife too. It's very easy for us guys to forget about our wife since we're anxious with the prospect of having an additional family member soon.