Yo!

Not sure right place to ask opinion, currently planning a proposal.

1. Rooftop proposal during dinner via vacation
2. Dinner by beachside with romantic setup via vacation

Above will cause me a bomb. Air tixs + accomodation + setup = 2K to 3K depending.

3. Ignore all the above, save the budget and do a simple high class dinner proposal in KL. Use the money for wedding rings or wedding preparation.

Ofcourse, budget matters la. IF doesnt matter I gonna propose in the moon.

Kaw tim de jewellery shop first + de flowers too...

Then pura pure make an appointment with ur gf at that shop but U gotta b there first la...

Go in de shop, look see look see, de shop sales distract her with Blings blings and she will lose focus on U...

Than U surprise her....

BTW, I did dat for my wife.......

bro, macam not so convincing woh. It could be once in a lifetime thingy... Abit the simple?

I know, sometimes simplest thing can be sufficient. Love matters blah blah, but.....

sure or not?

Rent / borrow a projector somewhere, watch something then suddenly propose by covering the projector with a card board pre cut with wording will you marry me, once surprise her with the wording open up the covering board and the movie you are watching edit it with photo slideshow and your fave music.

Friends hiding somewhere.

Location can be anywhere cozy

Bro, how much you got? You know how much wedding cost in total? I didn't do much on proposal other than simple dinner. Something always DIY cardboard... the photo sessions cost me a bomb, the luncheon cost me a bomb, the honeymoon the biggest bomb... not include the ring yet.

The proposal ring cost 8k, photo sessions plus upgrade on wedding dress (limited) cost me 10k [when she ask for nicer dress/limited edition, will you say no? ]

The lunch cost me 16k in total plus almost 800 just GST. 18 tables. But I got half of that back via ang pau. That not include the wedding preparation if you are chinese, cakes, candles etc.... can't even trace the final cost...

well, I must said the final 20k spend on honeymoon worth the money though. 2 weeks in Japan (Tokyo-Kyoto-Wakayama-Osaka)

Planned it out with jewellery shop manager, they will definitely help U out.
De jewellery shop people is important, they R ur wingmen... it will b ok...
Just go with de flow...

I was out of ideas too at that time but it just worked fine at that time...

Everyone wants perfection cause its a once a lifetime thingy...

Relax, bro... have fun and enjoy it... all de best to U...

so that means you agreed that save up on the fancy things?

I have roughly 25k excluding rings and etc.

My parents rushing me to tie the knot ASAP. My excuse is i havent really saved up but they will sponsor me 100k ask me not to worry. My gf and i sort of talked about it and agreed to have a simple wedding. Btw, we are Buddhist and come from traditional chinese families. My idea is to have a nice place with buffet style, a stage, a band and everyone just makan and drink, chit chat.

Thinking to go away with traditional sit down chinese style dinner. Both of us really felt sayang to spend luxuriously on wedding where we can save up the balance and dp a property or something for our future. Ofcourse we still have out photoshoto, maybe 1 outdoor and 1 studio. No need travel to Japan or Korea just for photoshoot.



Actually my thread is just a beginning of my plan, the proposal.

Just want to get opinions on my ideas.

1. Beach proposal or a rooftop bar proposal via vacation.

or

Cincai do a fancy dinner in KL and save up.

This post has been edited by Halls1234: Jun 27 2015, 11:55 AM

no need so fancy.. save the money and propose with something memorable but not wasting money..

ur effort to arrange it make it sweet..

since you got backup in finance, then can go to beach lolz... nice and romantic enough .

I know you want to propose, but I just want to remind you that nowadays, marriage really cost a bomb!! My proposal ring cost a lots as well. Did not expect such a huge expenses needed for whole wedding. Just wanna share bad financial planning from me cause did not expect all of the expenses needed. AND both my wife (gf that time) and I said exactly the same thing - we want it simple... and then, pressure from both parents, and then aunties/uncles add salt and vinegar... I considered simple liao, my friend even hired Wedding Planner with 60 tables!! Oversea photoshoot some more - wa piang eh

No offense brother. All the best in your proposal.

U r damn lucky to have parents sponsoring 100k for the wedding while most of us have to pay everything ourselves.

Exactly the problem I am facing now! LOL

25K for holiday to europe (honeymoon before ur wife preggy and after that diff to go holiday)

50K wedding dinner, band, sound system, souvenir, etc)

10K wedding gown, pre-wed photography (give to wife to decide)

35K savings (can be use preparation for children or saving for house D/P)

Breakdown above similar like my budget, but i dont have that 35K saving.. LOL

Btw lol, why your parents want you to wedding ASAP?? And more weird, your parents ready and willing to sponsor 100k for it wedding??

I not want to kepo, but usually, when it comes to wedding, parents sapu tangan and expect son/daughter to prepared money de......

usually type of parents who have their money ready and prepared for the wedding, and also can't wait to have grandchildren..
+ usually daughter in law approved dy

oh OK ok, no the reason i ask is because my parents different from the other, they say if i never get married also never mind, as long as give them money when they old enough already...

they also say if can, no need married and born useless child(grandchildren) for them,, lol that's what they say to me lah

anyway TS, sorry for hijack your thread

This post has been edited by Kanan Jarrus: Jun 28 2015, 01:10 PM

LOL... hahahah how your parents can say no need married and born useless child. luckily u still alive in this world

lol i forget what already, but they said something about reducing world stupidity population bla bla, and this process can be started by making me childless lulz

yeah, i just live my life and see where it goes

maybe he felt that younger generation nowadays is a spoil brat and the world is getting stranger for him.. all the norm, tradition, attitude is no longer acceptable for him which in the end he felt that way

thanks bro, yeaps.. really need to discipline on planning and spending. Spend those that I can afford and try not to care about other ppl's influence.

Gonna only invite close families from both side and buddies from both sides. Not even gonna invite colleagues/bosses.

Maybe i am lucky to have my parents whom can afford to sponsor. But its not easy, having to use parents money for own marriage.
Gonna try to cover as us as possible. Worst come to worst if they insist traditional sit down chinese dinner and invite everyone then the 100k will be used for it. IF angpao can cover then no need use it.

Just an insurance.

Thats why i said i came from very traditional old generation Chinese family.

I am the last in the family, so once done. all done and settled. They can retired and nothing to worry.

for chinese its always about next generation.

Spot on. My parents saved up for all of us. Education, wedding and maybe their future grandchildren's education? lol

I am the youngest.

I really need opinion, especially those that had done a proposal by beach or fancy rooftop diner?

Maybe i should post in CC. here is all settled and about wedding

Wah piang eh, respect your parents, in my case, my elder brother and I have to work for months first, and even with that, we still need to borrow ptptn for education.... I think when grow old I don't want to get married laa, too troubling for mid-income ppl like me

i need to do n save all by myself..

sobz

it depends your partner's preference.

is she someone who prefer quiet environment or merry environment with tons of friends. It is not necessary to be expensive

I done mine on 1/1/2015 in bkt jalil park with using jogging training as excuse. She is a person who likes running and natural park.

Helium Balloon (30 peaces about RM180 if not mistaken)
36 roses (RM120) - friends is a florist
support crew - friends = free
photographers - friends = free
lunch after the proposal = RM200

it is memorable bcos it was the first place where we have our first run together.


All the best TS

This post has been edited by frequency: Jul 2 2015, 06:19 PM

please la,

But i know it can be done according to own's affordability,

1. Ignore what ppl will think.
2. It's ur wedding not theirs
3. Mutual understanding of current financial situation btwn you and ur fiance. Lets not use money as excuse of not having a family

This post has been edited by mugenz: Jul 3 2015, 01:41 AM

not bad..


This post has been edited by mugenz: Jul 3 2015, 01:41 AM

Fiance un...

In law x un...

Thanks for the input.

For me i am hopeless romantic kind of person but i do surprise her with some romantic events and stuff. Both of us would prefer a quiet environment.

But now i headache how to get someone to help take pictures or video of the moment. Flowers and decor hotel can help.

Another problem, i am bringing the wedding ring along to the trip and worried it might get lost. Takkan spend additional just to buy a presentable spare to bring there.

my hubby proposed to me on Phi Phi island beach.....with him down on bended knees, the angmoh crowds whistling and clapping hands...I can't say no...
something I can never ever forget in my life cos of the feeling at that time

hi sifus, going to propose to my gf soon. WTA what kind of speech did you all give..
like those you watch in the movie long ass speech... or something short and simple?
could you enlighten me for some ideas?

it would be on our holiday without any friends or family. just the two of us.
kinda concern that comes the day. words wont be coming out my mouth.