Dear mommies/daddies,

I have a situation here. My son frequently having fever and sick after been sent to nursery, it was like 2 weeks once for now. Been to nursery for about 2 and half mth, since then sick for 3 times already. Fever, flu and cough. Got fever again last night so been brought to doctor and doctor asked do we send him to nursery. So he said is common like that when they started going nursery. So I am wondering is there any better way of prevention or anything that I can do to avoid my son getting sick frequently? Supplement or any dietary plan that I need to feed my son. I'm very depressing actually as my son is a picky eater and I'm trying so hard to feed him timely. Lots of people commenting that he is very thin and that makes me even more sad. Sigh. I need help.

give multivitamins and if possible feed him on cod liver's oil or something similiar to that. Another possibility is that his nursery is dusty and he is allergic to dust or pollen.

Such nursery's hygiene are very poor.
That's why for first 1-2 years, not much people willing to take care except those just want to earn money.

give ur son more supplements, vitamin C, cod liver oil and good quality honey...
cut his junk food intake and he has eat his meal regularly ( that u gotta b strict with him la).

my son also goes to nursery and he is 3 yrs old...I gave him all the above supplements and I am strict with him when it comes to meal time...

ooohhh... ya, veges r important... not to forget his regular milk meal daily...

personally, I believe junk food is the root of all this... if they start to eat junk food, they tend to b picky eaters...

Hi Loki, thanks for your suggestion. I will give him supplements after this. What brand of multivitamin is good? Any recommendation?

Sigh. Hygiene is very important. I decided to send him to nursery also because of previous babysitter's hygiene is poor. Thought nursery is ok. Even worst than sending him to babysitter. I think only thing I can do or try is give him supplements.

I think I will try to give him supplements. Any recommendation on which brand of supplement is good? Agree with you though. Junk foods are bad. Make his taste buds goes strong. Actually my son took milk more than daily meals. If at nursery he is taking his daily meal well. If at home, I gotta run and chase him for feeding. Or make him sits and placed the food in front of him for him to eat. But it doesn't works all the time. Always ended up the food finished half only. I'm thinking am I bad mother. Sigh. Seeing those mom prepared home cooked meals perfectly and their kids finished all. I'm a full time working mom. Only able to cook on weekend. Sometimes I'm stuck and totally no idea what to do next. On the other side, my husband keeps saying that I'm not putting effort to feed or accompany my son. Sorry a bit out of topic. I should stopped here else. Just kinda depressed sometimes. Anyway, thanks for your suggestion. I will try those ideas.

my daughter also the same. my dr also said it's cause of school hygiene and of course, because of other kids being sick. u can try CHAMPS. it's good enough. my daughter becomes LESS sick after taking it haha. no guarantees lah.

chasing after him and feeding is normal to some mom. my sister in law can chase her kids and feed them. i think she treats it like her exercise but if her kids are eating then who am i to judge right? so long as ur kid is eating then i say it's fine. u're doing good.

dont be so caught up with what other 'perfect' moms are doing, you only give yourself unnecessary stress. u are only human.

next time, ask ur husband if he has better ideas to feed his kid. if not, ask him to feed his kid try one time. if everything he also dun wan to do, ask him keep quiet enough.

At that age, the need solids other then just milk.

Try using a slow cooker, throw in porridge with some veg (I usually use kai lan, brocolli, or spinach), add pumpkin/carrot/sweet potatoes, meat/fish, and 1/2 egg yolk. Dump it all in before u go to bed, come morning u can feed him, otherwise pack it up in a heat retaining container and let him take it along to the nursery, more nutritious food then compared to the stuff they feed him there.

Also the porridge u can make more, keep the rest in the slow cooker, u will have another portion to feed him in the evening.

Remember to give him some fruits every day, I try to give half a pear/apple/papaya/banana a day.

Hang in there... you wouldnt believe the feeding habits of my daughter initially.. we tried out best and today she is 15 months and improving, her weight caught up to the average and things are progressing well.

Give probiotic. Best with combination of multi vitamins + lysine. My daughter use to beexposed too, but under control after taking probiotics. Some times they eat better at nursery since they tend to follow other children. And best if you identify what their favorite meal is. My daughter loves roti canai. So I will persuade her to have other meals for couple of days and then roti canai every third day as reward.

I'll make it very simple, taking care of 1 person are much more easier than taking care a group.

I wouldnt recommend any specific brand as long as the vitamin C is for toddler and children and WITHOUT coloring (some vitamin C are very colourful), as cod liver oil, I dun think there are many brand out there, my son is taking scott's emulsion and good manuka honey will do...

Nursery food is important too... u gotta be sure that they dun cook their food too salty or add MSG into his meals (I will try to buddy buddy with the nursery fella, try to find find out wat my son like to eat). then, I will try to cook wat he like to eat

u gotta b strict, REALLY strict, when it comes to meal time...

u r not a bad mother, ur doing de best u can for ur child and husband plays an important role too... Being a father in 21st century is different from 50 years ago... my wife is working full time too and works really late. I will usually pick up my son from the nursery and I will cook dinner for my son and wife. a modern day father just cant talk only but gotta do a lot for his child...

keep ur chin up... u can do better...

BTW, how old is ur son???

Everyday make it a point to let him hav a portion of fruits. And do give different kind of fruits daily. As fruits itself have the required vitamins, boost immunity, help digestion,etc. And it does contains fiber and liquid that supplement alone is still not enough. Of coz supplement is to ensure the kid have extra boost.

What I given my son last time was only daily fruits and he indeed drank plenty of water, a habit that was built since young. On top of that, we only give him Scott emulsion (but quite inconsistent due to we forget ). Yet fruits never miss out coz we adult having it together. I did not get him any candies, hence only have some chewies vitamins at home if he wanted some candies... and of coz, he dun fancy about it.

speaking from experiences, my daughter do felt de same. during 1st 3-4month in nursery, 2-3days sick every week, EVERY WEEK for 3-4month.

So ussually saturday sunday at home getting better and no sick. Start monday -ok, tuesday symptom came.

Doctor believe baby are adopting to bacteria in their environment. Should be ok after day, after baby naturally develop immunity. As for now, almost 2yo, she's fine with nursery env.

**p/s, didnt used any supplement/pribiotic,or antibiotic since doctor suggest below 2yo age prefer no medication accept for mom's milk. only few time cannot tahan kesian my baby gave her flu nose injection(given from doctor for toddler)

Agree with you. Sometimes when stressed out and saw all these perfecto thingy indeed make me even more depressed. Anyway, im feeling great now as there is still a lot of parents out there that like me. Thanks for your reply. Truly appreciated.

did that before but then, my son started to reject porridge. Then i try with giving soft rice. sometimes he is fine with it but sometimes he rejected it.
He is 2years old. But for the fruit part, i think i did a mistake there. i didnt feed him fruits regularly. I guess i need to start it now.
Thanks for your suggestion. It really helps a lot.

I started probiotic for him last night as prescribed by doctor. I bought Seven Seas Cod oil + multivitamins. Really hope it will works.
Thanks for your suggestion. I will identify his favorite meal. Also, i agreed with you that they tend to follow other children especially when eating.
he is doing good in nursery, no feeding problem but when back home,i have a problem feeding him food. he always rejects the food that we gave. but in nursery, teachers told me he finished his meal clean. =(

if him being sick is not very bad (eg fever is high side but not extremely high) and you can make him comfortable about it, then let nature take it's work - his body is building immunity naturally (as opposed to unnatural dangerous methods via vaccines and flu 'medicine')

Looking back in the years to come you will see that this is a 'good' thing and as long as it was manageable his built up natural immunity will help him A LOT in his future

Get him lots of alkaline water and probiotics (get really good ones and not those freeze dried ones and NOT yogurt or vitagen (all tipu))

I bought him Seven Seas as i saw cod liver oil + multivitamins that comes in syrup form. so i thought i give it a try.
I agree with your idea on finding out his favorite food from nursery. i should do that too. i tried before the nursery food, they cook without any MSG not even salts for taste. so i think they are doing good in that.

Everytime when my husband commented my role playing as a mother, he tends to give me negative comments. that is hurting actually. It seems like for him, i never do any better for my son, but he never try to understand my situation. honestly sometimes when back from work,i really tired. As i need to do housechores everyday. cant miss it not even one day as im staying with mil. i think you understand. so, i barely have time to check out my son's need. there is a time i thought maybe he is right, i should care and spend more time on my son. but when it comes to reality, it seems like i dont have enough time. after housechores done, i need to spend time with my son and then put him to sleep then i need to tidy up the mess and prepare his school stuff for the next day. plus now i need to spend time to cook at night or the next morning. sometimes i really just need a break u know. but it seems like it is hard to make ppl understand our situation.

my son is 2years old.

Y u need to do so much housechores when staying with MIL? Shouldn't she help? But as what you explained, it seems that staying with her had become someone QC you to ensure you finish all chores of the day.

Sigh...Mrs.. please don't do everything just to pls ppl. You know you did your best and if need to, let go of the housechores and only handle your kid as we only have very short evening to spend with them. As for the housechore, leave it til weekend. If anyone complaint and cannot tahan .. suggest them to do it.

Hubby is suppose to share your workload and the responsibility. Next time, if he trying to give you negative comments. Do tell him that you know you are not perfect in handling the role but you still doing your responsibility. If he sees something need to be done to improve the kid, he being the father should have done his part equally as you did.

i see..thank you for enlightened me..i understand now..
jst got him started probiotics that prescribed by doctor. yes, i believed those vitagen or yakult are not as good as advertise so i never give any of them for my son. i prefer he takes water..

Actually my mil cooks everyday's dinner. So i wouldnt want to be a bad dil. i help her to wash dishes, sweep and mop floor. sometimes with laundry. she is working too(own business). i have no issue in doing those housechores..just that sometimes im very tired and i need to rest. i think compromise is very important in this issue.

for my hubby part, he did send my son to nursery everyday cuz he works flexible while im not and sometimes i fetch my son back from nursery. that is the part that he helps.

at de age of 2, u should b spending more time with ur son and husband (QUALITY TIME). it very important for ur child's development. I believe u wouldn't want ur son to follow ur husband's bad traits (if there is any). I can only suggest to u that u should try to talk it out with ur husband, he may b rite at times AND he also may b wrong too... but I am not here to judge anyone. to bring up a child nowadays needs de mother as well as the father... it no one man show...

as for ur MIL...I have never lived with my MIL, so I cant say much... Personally, I strongly believe that a kitchen can NEVER have two cooks ( hope u can understand wat I mean).

again I as said earlier, quality time with ur son and husband is de key here... if ur husband shares some of ur burden, I believe 90% of problems are solved... there rest is some small issue nia... for me, my wife and I will do everything within our ability to give de best to our child. I believe as we watch our child grows, our is also watching us in return, they are also trying to understand us and at times they tend to abuse it too...kids these days are smart than us back then...

as for housechores, I used to clean it until its is sparkling clean BUT then what the purposes??? ur house wont say thank u to u... now as long as my house is clean, it is good enuf... JANJI ADA KEMAS RUMAH, I would rather spend more time with my wife and son.

work in de ofis is already tough, y should our housechores b tough too??? relax...take things on de lighter side...

Main content in Vitagen and Yakult are sugar, next is chemicals.
If you really want your child to have better digestive system and healthier body, take natural yogurt.
Children's antibody system are not that good, so any fever also must not treat it lightly. If the nursery always have children getting sick, you shall lodge a complaint to local council or Jabatan Kebajikan. Not listening to some said, let them be.
My wife are running day care, every morning she is doing fever screening, who ever that being detected 37.3°C, will not be allowed to enter.
Fever among children can be very serious, I have a friend's son ended up with brain damaged because of prolong fever due to negligence.
Taking supplements won't really help improve their condition.

being offensive with ur spouse is not the way to solve ur child's problem...

true...vitagen and yakult r filled with sugar... Natural yoghurt is best. my son usually have them with fruits in it.

Because natural yogurt taste not that good, so need to add in something, fruits, coco powder are some good option
To have our children to grow up healthily, avoid bringing them to eat junk foods

Yup, junk food is definitely NO NO...

Yes, being offensive with spouse won't solve the problem. But is her man's negative comments that put her in stressful mode and she really take his word that make her feel she's really not doing a good job. Her man need to stop that and help her to find solution instead of putting any single blame. There is a message she need to her man to understand.

Totally agreed. Is just the matter of whether her hubby willing to help.

who r we to judge who is rite or who is wrong...
put egos aside when it comes a child interest, we r only doing our best for our child...

her husband MAY BE lousy with words BUT that doesn't mean he is wrong OR she MAY BE too stressed out seing her son falls frequently. I will only encourage her. if she calmed, relaxed and a have peace of mind, I believe she can even better, then of cos her husband play a crucial role too... its no one man show...

telling who is rite and who is wrong would only tense up the situation, it will not help a stressed out mother OR father.

It is NOT just a matter of whether her husband WILLINGNESS to help...

the husband has GOT to help... HE is de father of the child... there is no either or choice for him to choose...
the moment his wife got pregnant, his paternal instinct has gotta kick in already...

it is for him to perform his duty as husband / father to the fullest...
there is NO two ways about it...

being father in 21st century is NOT same as 50 years ago.

Yup, that's right. Keep on stressing on this bullshit won't do much good. Like my mother-in-law like to take care of my son, I just let her be(even know she doesn't know how to take care of <1 year old baby as she never take care of her children also) as if I talk more, she will fire stone my wife
So now my task are more on buying groceries for my wife and other not important things. But as long as my hands are with my boy, I'll try to correct back shit left by her. Some of the people says my boy are very soft and can't stand up properly, so I have to make him stand as long as possible.

Yup... sometimes de simple things U did for ur spouse actually help them a lot...
Like buying groceries, hung up de laundry wash up plates after meal.

They will appreciate ur help very much...