dear Evangelistica

im a new user. i saw this thread by accident, and gotta say im quite interested at this topic, cause im pretty much in your situation, still am actually.

just wanna say i feel sad for you, i dont know how long you have known this angelic girl, but if she treats you as her very good friend, she should not break it to you like this, i dont think it is worth it for Her to lose this friendship with you as well. If it doesnt work out as a couple, try to be friends again...try. Perhaps give her some space, she needs time to think properly again...and then try start talking over again.

I know it is hard for you to eventually lose those feelings, or even keep the feelings away for now. you just want to make her understand that you care for her...to appreciate her. But yeah you gotta try, try not to be insane and dont blame anyone, no one is to be blamed in this. Get your friends together, they do help ALOT. they helped me when this happened to me.

Can tell you that mine didnt work out for certain obvious reasons, but my feelings just made me do stupid things haha. Well since getting her for now is out of the question, try to keep friends with her. She will realise how silly it is to ditch a very good friend just for relationship, and yeah i think she will try to be friends with you.

Im just voicing out this opinion because it actually happened to me, maybe even worse then yours...she had a boyfriend...boyfriend was insane and the boyfriend is actually one of my very good friends, and i lose him and nearly lost her bla bla. but yeah in the end everything worked out okay im still one of her closest friends. i got that our friendship back by compromising and patience and absolute tolerance. so yeah cheer up try not to be emotional and focus what is more important in your life for now.

sometimes somethings just cannot be prevented. for guys that fall for their close friends, they were dreaming that should this work out it will be worth the pain and agony and so on. they want to go after the dream of loving the one that you understand most the one that you can totally click with compared to the other girls and so on so forth. it is a dream that yes hard to be pursued, very rare to achieve it, but for people like evangelista, they wont feel relieved at all if they dont try it. when you are out with her and going out with her you want to hold her hand sooo badly but you cant at all...it hurts. its hard to let it go when you are at this stage already

close friends become lovers, very hard. eyes are oblivious on the way they look at their friends already, among my friends only one couple have been successful and theyre practically stick to each other for life already

find someone that will save you from yourself, get to know more people, never know might be another angel that comes by. all you need now is someone that cares and appreciates you, its tough, but gotta try...orrrr youll be stuck in this void for a very very long time, not a good thing.

another thing is you should try to find the truth from that girl that ditched you. she telling you the answers will make you feel better. it wont solve the problem but it will help