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zhou86
post Sep 23 2015, 02:06 PM

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QUOTE(Kanan Jarrus @ Sep 23 2015, 02:02 PM)
i see, wah, you both must have experience sweet relationship with your couple before, no wonder can give so deep and enlightening advice smile.gif

yeah,@ flamephotography advice's remind me of someone in internet that says that "even if you yourself are not content and not be able to make yourself happy, then how others are going to make you happy??''...

@zhou86, so, relationship is about "giving " and not "taking", is this what you trying to say?

like many couple nowadays expecting great things from their bf/gf, but end up get disappointing, because they didn't get what they expected(like care, affection etc....), is it??

sorry for asking too much stupid questions.. sweat.gif
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Yup, relationship is always about giving, always in the mindset of "what can I do to build him/her up?" "how can I be a better person for him/her?". If both side think like that, the relationship will always grow and be stable.

If the mindset is "What can I get out of this relationship?" "What benefit can I get?" then it will lead to disaster because of unfulfilled and unrealistic expectations. Expectations is a major issue in relationships, not to say its wrong to have expectations, but its important to share each other's expectations and what is realistic and what is not.

I heard a saying..."Marriage is not a 50/50 relationship, its a 100/100 relationship", meaning its not both side doing 50% each in the relationship, but its both side giving 100% to the relationship. smile.gif
zhou86
post Oct 2 2015, 08:24 AM

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QUOTE(princessgalaria @ Oct 2 2015, 01:48 AM)
If you don't mind reading my long story.

Hmm yea, we didn't know that when we got together. That time we thought we met each other at our workplace.
Then after about a year, we were on our way back and suddenly there was this old distinguished red van on the road and I pointed and said that hey I used to take a similar van during my primary days. Then he was like hey, I used to take that van too. Then we went more in depth, memories was vague and then realised that we actually know each other and sat in the same van for about a year. I discovered that he was the chubby boy who was always late for school and made us wait, and he sort of remembered this timid lil girl who always fall down and ended up with bleeding knee walking back to the van.

Sounds like a typical drama love story.
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Haha, very nice! rclxms.gif
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post Oct 2 2015, 06:02 PM

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QUOTE(Kanan Jarrus @ Oct 2 2015, 05:22 PM)
hello there,....

if remember correctly, you say that you sign papers already and now only waiting for wedding in next year izit??

so, when you say sign the papers do you mean the ROM?? but normally people will choose date(rom) that are nearer to wedding mah not meh?? unsure.gif

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Yeah, but depends on the couple. I got friend already sign, but now only start planning the reception.

As for me, I sign and reception on the same day. Church ceremony morning (sign), but evening/night reception.
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post Oct 2 2015, 08:22 PM

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QUOTE(Kanan Jarrus @ Oct 2 2015, 06:35 PM)
ohhh i see.....

so what you mean is ROM & wedding ceremony/banquet at same day is it??

i see.... but sometimes don't you  think that ROM take a lot of your time, so, in the end, making you and your wife tired( if occur in same day with reception)?? hope the process is not long/tedious tho...
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Yeah same day. The signing of ROM is part of the wedding ceremony in Church. Haha wedding day is always tiring, it's the excitement and adrenaline that keeps you going. You need to learn how to calm yourself & not to stress everything yourself, get people to help you.
Many couples overtire themselves, and got sick right after the wedding day, and if they go honeymoon immediately... More cham, sick during honeymoon. sad.gif
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post Oct 3 2015, 12:07 AM

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QUOTE(Kanan Jarrus @ Oct 2 2015, 08:39 PM)
yeah haha lol....

sorry for asking stupid questions zz.... I'm very ignorant about the ROM thing....

so, for signing the ROM, need how long?? are there any other things 2 do like, give oath or something.....???

oh ya, very tiring lol, some i see is that the bride and groom prepare from almost 3am to night within a day just for the weddings ceremony!!

and me wanna ask, especially for Christian like you & your wife, when you both walk the aisle, do you both kiss?? unsure.gif

idk if Chinese wedding got couple kiss or not, i mean is like kiss in front of ppl, family, friends etc.....maybe princessgalaria know about this.....

if you kiss your bride/groom in front of all people, don't you feel shy??? sometimes got ppl shy until red face and pengsan........ blink.gif
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Haha your questions are not stupid at all, interesting questions.

I see typical ROM just oath, then sign and exchange ring, with witness and the person in charge of the registration. That's all.

For Church signing, usually is the minister or pastor who officiates it. For Christian wedding, after the whole thing, the minister/pastor would say "You can kiss the bride", then will kiss lor, before walking out of the church in the wedding march as husband and wife.

Haha, sure got shy abit lar...Malaysian culture, but is officially husband and wife already, have to get used to it I guess. smile.gif
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post Oct 3 2015, 12:24 AM

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QUOTE(Kanan Jarrus @ Oct 3 2015, 12:15 AM)
owwhhh, nice answer, thanks rclxms.gif

and hey, remember to kiss your wifu everyday lol,....you nid some " glue" to strengthen the bond, so yeah....... smile.gif
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Haha yes, thanks for the reminder. nod.gif
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post Nov 25 2015, 12:26 PM

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Just want to add to the list: Photobook Malaysia.

It's very affordable and the quality is really good. They always have promotion, and you can get the 6inch x 6inch free if you can obtain the code, just pay shipping.

You can go to Photobook.com.my and design your own Photobook, and they deliver very fast! I placed my order on Tuesday, and it arrived Thursday.

Definitely recommended, perfect for pre-wed photoshoot if your photographer don't provide a Photobook album or if they charge a lot for it.
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post Nov 25 2015, 05:55 PM

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QUOTE(princessgalaria @ Nov 25 2015, 05:39 PM)
Yea, that day I bought this one
RM90 instead of RM359 for a 14" x 11" Large Landscape Imagewrap Lay Flat Hardcover Photobook, 22+2 pages
Super worth compared to bridal gallery charging like RM300-500 for this? Sendiri do lagi better right.
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Yea...somemore you can have the joy of creating the book and layout yourself. smile.gif
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post Nov 26 2015, 01:46 PM

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QUOTE(princessgalaria @ Nov 26 2015, 09:53 AM)
but some people lazy and don't have the time, so they pay money to get it done lo.
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If you are considering budget, then cannot be lazy lo. sweat.gif
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post Mar 3 2019, 06:43 PM

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QUOTE(euniceyew @ Feb 26 2019, 05:05 PM)
Hi I’m planning to do the ROM at my wedding dinner reception. Can I get the assistant registrar contact from ur church ?
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QUOTE(+h0m@s.. @ Mar 1 2019, 03:09 PM)
If i not mistaken the registrar can only perform their duty in their registered address.
Usually for church they need perform in their church office / hall.
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I am not sure, but I think this is correct.

Plus my church is at Melaka. smile.gif

 

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