QUOTE(Kanan Jarrus @ Sep 23 2015, 02:02 PM)
i see, wah, you both must have experience sweet relationship with your couple before, no wonder can give so deep and enlightening advice 
yeah,@ flamephotography advice's remind me of someone in internet that says that "even if you yourself are not content and not be able to make yourself happy, then how others are going to make you happy??''...
@zhou86, so, relationship is about "giving " and not "taking", is this what you trying to say?
like many couple nowadays expecting great things from their bf/gf, but end up get disappointing, because they didn't get what they expected(like care, affection etc....), is it??
sorry for asking too much stupid questions..
Yup, relationship is always about giving, always in the mindset of "what can I do to build him/her up?" "how can I be a better person for him/her?". If both side think like that, the relationship will always grow and be stable.yeah,@ flamephotography advice's remind me of someone in internet that says that "even if you yourself are not content and not be able to make yourself happy, then how others are going to make you happy??''...
@zhou86, so, relationship is about "giving " and not "taking", is this what you trying to say?
like many couple nowadays expecting great things from their bf/gf, but end up get disappointing, because they didn't get what they expected(like care, affection etc....), is it??
sorry for asking too much stupid questions..
If the mindset is "What can I get out of this relationship?" "What benefit can I get?" then it will lead to disaster because of unfulfilled and unrealistic expectations. Expectations is a major issue in relationships, not to say its wrong to have expectations, but its important to share each other's expectations and what is realistic and what is not.
I heard a saying..."Marriage is not a 50/50 relationship, its a 100/100 relationship", meaning its not both side doing 50% each in the relationship, but its both side giving 100% to the relationship.
Sep 23 2015, 02:06 PM

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