In regard to Post 144, may i bug you with ur post above ?
bible only say about spouse:
2 Corinthians 6:14Amplified Bible (AMP)
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers [do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership have right living and right standing with God with iniquity and lawlessness? Or how can light have fellowship with darkness?
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Ok my version

agree with above, but i added some "spiritual things". The verse is below.
Psalm 84:10Amplified Bible (AMP)
10 For a day in Your courts is better than a thousand [anywhere else]; I would rather be a doorkeeper and stand at the threshold in the house of my God than to dwell [at ease] in the tents of wickedness.
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Why added ? e.g. Jane, Amanda, shien, may2x, nora, etc..etc... which bible verse tell that ngai have to married Jane / Amanda ? which church Jane is ? Is amanda already saved or "work in progresss" ?
only HS can counsel you with this... and no amount of books / hermeneutics can resolve your case above...
probably u asked. Did u pray for me ? the answer I did

... but what i got is not clear... "as of my best understanding" here is what i got:
1. Ur spouse will not be from ur local church. She is not there.
2. You need to go from church to church. Because you are a caregroup leader, i discussed with HS about you going to trip to GKDI (GKDI still ur indonesian branch right ?) and do some "preaching" there on small church... when your reputation builds up... women will come for you... networking plays...
3. Need to be brave sikit... (i don't know what brave HS talking about)
in short, please check back with HS all 3 points above. If nothing then nothing, if something then something. Be blessed and all the best... don't read book

for this case.