QUOTE(LimauKanker @ Oct 29 2018, 12:56 PM)
people actually use services like this? im really intrigue to know, what makes you guys to approach such services? how desperate one have to be to approach such services?
Depends on your situation in life.
Issues faced by 20s + 30s:
1. Some people after growing up to a certain stage (late 20s, early 30s) their social circle is so small they barely able to meet new people.
2. Exhausted the pool of potential mates from friends and mutual friends.
3. Some are extremely introverted to a point that it's super tough to find someone in a social setting where they usually aren't present.
4. Bad luck in general as dating is a numbers game. Odds are stacked against you.
5. Most women cave into pressure and understanding their biological clock is almost up (around 30s) incentivises them to have an extra outlet for finding a potential soul mate.
6. Online dating is a very superficial world. There are more bad experiences than good ones.
7. Some really high paying job workers really don't have much time to socialize outside, they rely on these agencies to intro them potential mates to cut the time wasting of meeting people in social setting. Higher chance of a better potential partner if introduced based on what you and the potential partner is looking for matches. (Numbers game)
8. Frustrated women who met endless of needy guys, or the too nice guys until let me walk all over him and men who are never strong enough to put me in my place if I start testing him to see if he's alpha and centered. (You'll be surprise how many women cling on to their relationship with these men because of this spoiled milk thinking and then regretting later in life).
9. Frustrated men who have been brainwashed by the media into being feminine, needy, chasing women and putting them on the pedestal. (Most will learn after many rejections)
Issues faced by late 30s to 60s
1. When your partner left this world and you feel lonely, going back to the dating game at this age, especially if you're a woman is really tough as your looks is no longer there. There's a saying where men age like wine and women age like milk. (Women only have 1 SMV which is their looks)
2. Same goes with divorce families for point #1
3. Tensions in relationships after being together for many years and going separate ways. Tough getting back in the dating game and point #1 applies.
4. Usually men who are afraid of or do not want commitments
5. Very small social circle and very unlucky of finding someone who fits them.
All in all, think of it this way. If you wanna go visit Europe, do you go alone or approach a local travel agent to show you the places?
You can do both. Going to a travel agent saves time and cost money.
Going alone, is cheaper but more time consuming if not familiar.
After all, no one is forcing or putting a gun to your head to sign up. When there's a demand for this service, people will provide it with a fee.
To put into context where I am coming from:
When I was in my teens to early 20s, I didn't know I was being a feminine guy, being needy, seeking approval from women, worshiped them like a goddess and put them very high on the pedestal. I was in category #9.
Around my mid 20s, I started to learn my mistakes and have the IDGAF attitude. I approached any women whom I feel attracted to in public and was very assured of myself. I know exactly what type of lady I was looking for. Dated many women even juggling a few at once to get to know them to find out. Bad luck, most of them turn me off. (Lots of women especially here in Malaysia that I've met whom I find attractive are very superficial who care more on likes/views on their instagrams) I was in category #4
At this point, I've exhausted the pool of potential partners from my friends. I was category #2
I signed up for few dating agencies in Malaysia and paid a little over RM20k and looked at this as an investment. I was still approaching women and see this as an extra arm of finding a potential someone. With the service, I could tap on the potential of meeting women whom I would never cross path ever if I didn't go actively looking. Casting a wider net per se.
Around this point of my life, I started my own business, have passive incomes from few assets and drove for e hailing in my free time and make probably 5 times the average Malaysian makes a month. I am still registered to their services. They've introduced me to several women who were more or less of what I was looking for but chemistry and whatnot isn't there. To put it bluntly, none of the women I've met be it in public or through the dating agency will be an asset to me, based on the few dates getting to know these women, they were going to be a liability to me.
I hope you get a better picture on this and not be very critical or ignorant in your views. Won't deny that there are some who are desperate but the agencies will weed the creepy ones out so you don't have to deal with them. After all, there's no guarantee you'll find someone. If your game is bad, very likely you'll be wasting yours and the potential match's time. Best is to read up and work on yourself to improve your SMV and game before signing up so you don't waste your money. Someone can bring the food you want to your table but if you do not know how to eat it, you'll still be hungry. Or the donkey to water story but you get the picture...
Disclaimer: I do not work for any dating agency nor were they paying me to post here. This is purely my very transparent view of their services.
Oct 21 2014, 10:01 AM, updated 12y ago
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No wonder population shrink and old folks home are thriving there because nobody is going 2 replace them 
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