Looking for a headphone with budget RM1000 below. Hope to get some advice, & suggestion.

Few headphones looked into after few days research:
1. Philips SHP9500/9600
2. Philips Fidelio X2HR
3. Sennheiser HD58X

My usage: Youtube, Movies, Gaming, Casual listening when working long hours.

My past Headphone/earphone history:

1. Koss Porta Pro (semi open back). This is the first "more serious" headphone I owned. I loved it. I actually used it for 3-4 years, changed the earpad 2-3 times, and finally spoiled after much abused. Listening to this , I do not feel ear fatigue when listen to music for long hours, but I still need to remove them once a while to let my ear breath, since it is an on ear. Is really good for the bucks, and do everything rather well.

2. 1more triple driver (earphone) I never like this despite many positive reviews. It is so ordinary that I suspect I might even get an imitation copy. Or is just very hard for me to get back to in-ear after using Koss for many years. I sold it after 1 year. No love here.

3. Edifier X3 (wireless earbud). Bought this super cheap during sales at rm70. I just need something I can use on bed, and convenient to bring around. I still use it today...  anywhere when I just need to hear sound... Never have any proper music listening with these.. Also cant stand wearing them for long.

4. Airpods Pro (true wireless earphone). I bought and used it for only 2 weeks and sold it.  I thought this would be my "endgame", and took me by surprise that I never kept it. Sound quality is just ok... I don't even think my Edifier x3 is anything inferior in comparison. I test around with its ANC and transparency mode for a while... it is is amazing when first experiencing them, but later feel that it is more of a gimmick for me. I thought I would be using the Transparency mode all the time, as I prefer to be a little aware of the surrounding sound, and prefer a less catastrophic experience.. It works in someway, but still not in a way I am hoping for. I constantly still need to remove the earbud every 5 minutes, but the main reason I sold it is because it just feel painful around my left ear when using them. The plastic housing actually touching the inner part of my ear, causing discomfort. As for ANC, do I need them? At the moment when I am stuck at home 100% time, there is no way I can tell if I will ever need them. When used at home, the ANC does block my aircond/ceiling fan really well, but I don't find myself enjoying them. Maybe I just dislike the sensation of ANC, especially when music finish playing, and I am feeling this empty white noise sensation.

What's next?

Sony MDR1000XM4. After I sold Airpods Pro, I thought I should just try the xm4 (It has always been in my top list every since I tried it the XM1 many years ago in Sony store) And the brief experience with it, I really love the sound quality and soundstage it delivers. I really want that wide sound separation.

But before I jump in and buy it, I RE-ANALYSIS everything from scratch to see if this is really what I need with the budget I have to buy the XM4 (RM1000), or I could actually get something better for

Thank you.

1. Comfort
I'll start with my first major gripe of this headphone, that is the comfort. I read lots of reviews about how comfortable this headphone is. But after wearing for 2-3 weeks, I still could not tell if it is really comfortable. Wearing it for few hours each night, I could really feel my head/neck feeling stiff and tired especially the next morning.  Could blame it on my lack of exercise since MCO 2020 & stuck at home. I feel the headphone weight (360g) could be the culprit here. When wearing it, I am self aware to not move around much, basically without myself realised it, I have stiffen up my neck & head, because I find the headphone weight is a bit unbalance, especially the top headband. A slight tilt on my head could result in the headphone shifting in front/backward. I can't drink or eat properly with the headphone on. And I feel like every few minutes, I'll have to adjust the headphone (earpad) position to a more comfortable position. It is as if there is a lot of room within the earpads, that I am constantly looking for the best center position for my ear. I am not even sure if it is because of the hard clamp force, or just because the heat building up within my earpad. Or is it because my head is too small, and the suspension design , didn't support by my upper head, and the whole headphone just keep moving around.

I must say that, this is my first over the head headphone, previously using Koss porta pro and a 1more Triple driver, airpod pro.  So it could be just because I am not used to headphone , Yet.

2. Sound /soundstage
I choose this headphone over others, primary due to its impressive soundstage. I always think I prefer a very wide open sound , and not in my head or ear kind of sound. I like the listening to speaker kinda feel. And this headphone definitely deliver in term of soundstage. But I do realise because of my preference, it brings me other issues that I am not aware of.

I see reviewer saying the mid is a little recess in this headphone. And probably because of that, I feel like I ended up increased my volume louder than I should, just to hear the softer sound (especially the beginning of some songs), but once the song reached the "loud" part, I have to turn down the volume because it suddenly becoming unbearable and fatiguing (it could also because of Treble or bass)

I also think part of the reason i bump up the volume, is due to the openback nature of the headphone. I never thought it could be a problem before this, since I used it primary in my room, at night. BUT, in fact, the ceiling fan in my room actually is quite audible when I try to listen to song detail at lower volume. Ends up I have to increased the volume quite a bit... and end up becoming fatigue after just sometime .. or just too troubled with volume up and down in each songs. and end up stop listening completely.

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I really start to wonder if I should even get an Openback headphone to begin with. Maybe I should get a closed back, or even just stick with IEM. But I don't really like the feel of something stuck in my ear for too long neither (but I never tried any good iem ).  Or I should just go closed back headphone, but that I feel like it will heat up my ear pretty fast.

So, I will continuing to search for my ideal headphone... I really just want something that I can wear for long hours, without even realise I am wearing something, and get focus and dive into my work (while enjoy the music , without being overly analytical with the sound detail). Comfortable & not fatiguing is my goal here.

I will like to hear some suggestion /recommendation based on my preferences above.  Can a good IEM be comfortable.. and sounds good at the same time, without sounding catastrophic? Should I try another open headphone , just to be sure open-back is simply not for me? I am looking into HD6xx or HD58X due to its Light Weight (260g). And I know these 2 headphones sounds intimate, and like right in front of you (which is the opposite of what I thought I want), but I am willing to try , maybe it suits me in the end as I no need to bump up the volume too much compare to a very open soundstage headphone like the X2 ? Or just get closeback headphone..