Hi guys, what do you think of same last name marriage?

This question is more towards chinese as some believes that it is not good to have same last name marriage (eg. Lee married Lee, Lim married Lim etc.).

Please also state your age and I hope there will be seniors who will also provide some of their thought.

This post has been edited by GOO: Jul 31 2014, 09:48 AM

thing thing thing thing thing thing........ or is it THINK?

Oh yeah, typo. Thanks.

Lee + Lee = Lees, mana sama...

English/Western educated might not give a damn on it

Whats the problem with TAN Ah Lee marries CHONG Mei Lee?

Tan Chong motors!!!

first name or last name ?

Chinese educated won't give a damn too....

It's not first name. That's your last name. Or surname.

They just don't want inbreeding. Same surnames of the past generally meant that you're related in some ways. Thus it's abhorred upon. That's all.
Others include olden days disputes, but those are rare.

fyi..itu bukan first name..surname is known as last name

dude, you can't differentiate between first name and last name?

i know someone name TAN married to TAN. no problem.

i heard he dun give a fark

IT IS JUST A NAME. Change the name, problem solved.

Yeah, first name would be like Chong Wei marrying Chong Wei..

Anyway, I think it isn't an issue, the only thing you want to check out is if you guys are related. So looking into ancestries and stuff like that may be important especially to appease the older folks. Like if you're from different districts in China it shouldn't be a problem.

I'm 36 btw.

first night surely he needs to giv one

apalah TS engrand fail.

LEE Chong Wei marries LEE Mei Mei would be a problem if both are also from the same dialect & same hometown.

Lol. Yeah. It has been confusing. As you know, chinese's name start with family name thus, first name seems to be the family name.

But you know, family might object the marriage though, may be from the elderly.

Great response. But I think until the marriage stage to check on the ancestories, are too late already though. And it will be weird to check during dating period. lol

And again, it's inbred issues. Who knows where your grandpa might be bonking when he's in the plantation?

TAN and CHONG is last name

unless your e.g. is Lee tan ah marries Lee chong mei

Are we still on 1900?
check DNA la

prevention is better than cure, that's what the elderly believes.

They dont want their offspring to marry with the enemy

That one i dunno lol.

i havent married yet.

As long as you and the potential future spouse are not actually related (up to cousin level) then biologically there is no issue. The only issue is socially i.e. are your parents and relatives OK with it.

its not a believe... nor a superstition...

same chinese surnames might mean they are from the same family tree... although distant but there's blood relations... its like wincest

This post has been edited by kenji1903: Jul 31 2014, 10:13 AM

The reason behind this has something to do with potential far distance incest, since chances are people with the surname has similar ancestor, but then it only covers half, since surname follows father, there's chance that a Lee marry a Lin ended up having closer blood relationship.

To be safe have to check the family tree chart.

Something to do with DNA matching for offsprings. But if both of you have leet DNA, i guess even if you are siblings the offspring should still be l33t.

In my opinion, not recommended if too close like father's sibling's children. I've heard people saying the kid will have a higher chance to sustain some difficulties from birth.

Well if it is loose one... just go for it?

If you wanna think bout it, you might actually get worried over a lot more things. Tan for example, can be easily related to Chan or Chen as all three names can be one same Chinese word, as how Lee can be related to Lei etc.

With all the scanning and testing plus the years of cross-breeding, I think you shouldn't worry too much though.

who cares?

most of us are like 3rd or 4th generation in Malaysia

similar surname no longer matters

chances of wincest is very very little

Interracial marriage ftw...

most pipul will put an english in front of surname..

so how

only problem in Korea where they got like 10 surnames.

It was useful once upon a time where we live in small clusters of society where inbreeding was a high possibility, thus the easy rule of thumb is to not marry someone with the same surname.

This is no longer relevant.

You are right....but eventhough its true, our grandparents are still attached to the culture. Kindda disrespect them if we insist marrying with similar surname.

Correct also. lol.

Explain that we all probably descended from the same ancestors anyway.

Yeah, think is also one of the reason I am asking for opinion on this. I believe newer generator will have less problem dealing with this. But older generation, I am not so sure. Thus, hoping to have some seniors to provide their opinions also.

its ok. im a living proof. have a very healthy kid also.

TS you wat school want?

ur parents didn't say anything?

your wife same dialect?

I heard If same name marriage then will come out the kid not that smart. COs due to genetics. Is like the same rrason u cannot marry your own cousin or sis

research shown that most east asian are descendants of Genghis khan because he f**k a lot during his conquest.

IMO if common surname like Wong, Lee n Lim den shud be fine la.

but if uncommon ones like Auyong den better not lo

nothing wrong with that. your parents taboo about this?

me n gf is same surname

her parents say no go.. but i insist so they say start look at ancestry.

both Lee, both same hakka lol. but until grandparents both not recognised so i think no problem

I heard from some elders that their kid will have lower IQ, then looking at my primary classmate, he memang a bit low in IQ

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the reason why chinese saying don't allow the same surname to get marry is because 500 years ago both of your ancestors might be in 1 family
in that case, i think scientifically might have some down side on your future babies (not a doctor, cannot give much comment on this)

so the first thing a same surname couple will see is their dialect, if hokkien + hakka (as in different) usually will be no problem.
although both of you are "Lee" but there're still chance that different dialect but ended up sounds like "Lee" when you register birth cert (you know last time how malaysian register birth cert la...)

if both has confirmed is the same dialect, then try to ask your grandparents where you originated from (as in china). older ppl in your family will usually know cuz when they pass away that origin place is gonna be written on their grave(or you can visit their grave during certain festival to double confirm).

for example if both Hokkien but come from different places in china (eg: FuZhou hokkien + AnXi hokkien) then most likely both of your ancestors are NOT from the same family although having same surname + dialect. in this case, you both has no problem on getting marry and some healthy babies

hope this help

just do a genetic screening for gene related diseases

all the speculation about same family how many generation before is not conclusive, even if same family, the family may not have any diseases that passes down.

Yeah, actually I am more concern about how families take this kind of matter into their hand. I suppose newer generation will have no problem taking in this kind of matter in, but for older generation, I am not so sure.

as long not your relative near near ok liao

Quite sure farking was involved.

Now ppl dun care edi.
Best celebrity couple example - Moses Chan and Aimee Chan
Married and even have bb already.

Sometime, the surname maybe different, but "behind" u never know maybe that person also related to you.
If really so worry, best is to check DNA for any relation possibility or not.

can marry, but do a blood test b4 planing baby

already got kids. haha

If you are separated by a few generations them there's no problem. Example if you marry your grandfather's brother's granddaughter.