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 losing interest in life, feeling depressed, need advice in life

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cksiah
post Jul 1 2014, 10:09 AM

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QUOTE(Derp Derpington @ Jul 1 2014, 08:13 AM)
hi all.

1st and foremost, im a 20 y/o male, currently studying in a uni in KL.

i can say im a (usually) jovial kind of guy. whenever our group of friends hangs out, i usually be the centre of attention, the one who usually makes the crowd livelier.

but lately (idk, for the past 5-6 month or so?) i kinda lost interest in life. day in and day out i always looking for purpose of my life. i woke up feeling depressed and go to sleep wondering what my purpose of continue living. i think it has to do with me failing in my final exam last year, idk.

i consider myself lucky being blessed with a gf, an understanding parents, n a group of close friend. i didnt feel like this when im with them, but whenever im alone, especially at night, im always be overwhelmed by the feeling of wanting to end my life. i closed all my windows (i live in 6th floor) just so that i dont think of throwing myself out of my bedroom window.

i tried to confide this to my closest friend, but he just scoffs and thought i was joking. when he realised i was being serious, he told me to go out more often (which im trying to avoid, since thats the reason why i failed in my exam), count my blessings in life (which i do). pray to god (which i cant, coz i dun really believe in god) etc etc etc.

idk. being a lurker in kopitiam (was introduced by sum1 to kopitiam, saying that its malaysian version of  4chan. haha.) , i know some of u might think that im a pathetic guy (which i agree)

i just feel so depressed. i was a plump person before, (average weight  at 75kg) n i lost 15kg of weight in a span of 5-6 month. i cant sleep normally.

i need help. what should i do? i wanna be that kind of person i was 1 year ago.

please help
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1) go do some charity work (old folks home, foster home, soup kitchen...etc) that will give u a little more perspective in life and how lucky u r.

2) depends on ur height, losing weight could be a good thing. though the sleeping part is an issue.

3) hang out with ppl who are positive, lively. even though u might find them irritating at this stage.

4) idle mind is the devil's playground. read a book, play a game, learn a language. or in ur case, study.

5) if u do all those things that /k members advised and still feel depressed, pls go find professional help.

This post has been edited by cksiah: Jul 1 2014, 10:11 AM
cksiah
post Jul 1 2014, 02:27 PM

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QUOTE(Derp Derpington @ Jul 1 2014, 02:22 PM)
talk about it alot with my gf. but lately i didnt coz i think it bothers her too much.thanx for the links. gonna try it tonite.
1. gonna try that
2. im 5'5". yeah thats the only good thing came out of this 'ordeal' that im having
3.4.  done that
i got myself some fishes tongue.gif
im trying not to go to a psychiatrist. money doesnt come easily in my family. same goes for travelling
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sometimes u need to bid ur time until u find ur calling and purpose. tht is the hardest part and most mundane.

being alive is great. so much challenges, so much uncertainties, so many experiment u can do.

and as for ur gf, i think if both of u r not tht close or there isn't any plan to get married, u have to becareful wat u share with her. some girls are made to be with u no matter wat, but some, well, they are only suitable on good days of ur life.
cksiah
post Jul 1 2014, 03:47 PM

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QUOTE(Derp Derpington @ Jul 1 2014, 02:45 PM)
actually my gf still asks about it from time to time. its me who choose not to talk about it.

coz, before this, i usually talk to her when the thought 'attacks'. n it is usually past midnight when everybody already sleeps.
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good to know u have a supporting gf. it helps.





 

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