back in action!!! reporting in. hehehe... have a nice week ahead, guys. going vacation with my dear soon. so happy.

haha... somewhere near only. so, wherever we go also nevermind geh, it's the moment to be together with my dear that makes it so valuable.

reporting in!!! beep beep.

something to ponder ---> loyalty and trust VS betrayal. It takes forever to built loyalty and trust, but it just take one betrayal to ruin it. which is more powerful? Loyalty and trust are some of the keys to a good relationship. Betrayal is one of the keys to the end of a relationship. which is more powerful?

^^be strong. how long does she still needs to be there? time flies fast if we didnt wait. hope you can understand what i'm trying to say.

how you know if he/she didnt tell you? hehehe...

anyway, no problem for me. i absolutely trust my bf. wont think so much. if wanna think also think the positive ones, such as ---> maybe he went out to get some gift for me and wanted a girl's point of view and wanna keep it as a surprise for me? hehe... anyway, so far, my bf never hide lah... if he go also he'll tell me before hand. he said, dont wanna create unnecessary misunderstanding.

dont always think negatively lah, think positively lah...

i tell you, sometimes, girls feels more comfortable being friend with guys than other girls. cos when with girls, so much gossips and comparisons. so, sometimes, girls will feel more comfortable with guys friends. anyway, i personally have got a few good guy friends. and my bf knows about them.

actually, being in a relationship is about trusting. sometimes, our mind just play a fool with us and make us think lots of negative thoughts. try not to let our mind lingers and spoil the relationship. sometimes, it's really nothing, but it's just our mind which tells us there's something. just trust and think positively. things will be alright.

no, i dont expect to get it back from my love. when i say "i love you", what i meants is just "i love you". no other intention behind it. i found that if we put expectation of our partner replying "i love you too" or things like that, it would not be a "spark" but instead it's just merely a reply. so, me and my love only say it when we really mean it. hehehe...

may i know what are you thinking about? maybe can share here and i can help shed some light into you?

yeah, i understand it. that's exactly like what i say lorr, she wanna say it when she really mean it lorr...

i give you a scenario. would you like for her to say it just to please you but she dont mean it, or she say it from the bottom of her heart?

also, some people just couldnt say it from the mouth. not even write/typed it into paper. they just couldnt. so how does this type of people express their love? ---> by action. some people can say so many "i love you" and all sorts of things, but their action just doesnt show that. which one would you prefer?

not saying the 3 words doesnt means she dont love you. i'm sure you could feel her love, eventhough she's not saying it. dont think so negatively. it's bad for your health and bad for your relationship too. all the best yeah.

anything will do, as long as do it together. maybe cook a meal together, vacation or have a whole day together doing anything we wanna do such as PS2. but i'd love going to the beach and cooking meal together.

ok, jdreamer, mind to tell me where are you and your girl? let me have some idea of your distance, then i give some suggestion?

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This post has been edited by miyoko: Aug 24 2006, 12:27 PM

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This post has been edited by miyoko: Aug 24 2006, 12:27 PM

mandy,
congrats! so sweet of you. and really patience oh...

jdreamer,
yeah, i was looking for the website that mandy gave you. that's the webpage. go check it out.

hello everyone, holiday tomorrow. happy merdeka day everyone!!

LanEvoX,
from your story, i guess you could be some kind of flirtatious guy, thus causing your gf feel insecure. try to give more sense of security to her. doesnt mean that giving sense of security to her means you have to stop flirting and stop looking at other girls (i know guys just couldnt stop that). but perhaps, you should try building the security and trust within her first. after you have built the trust and security within her, i hope she would be able to control her jealousy lorr...

wish you all the best, yeah.

i dont know how to explain. but sometimes sensitive girls just couldnt take it when you go over the border with your friends who are girl. some girls dont even mind if you put your hand on other girl's shoulder when taking picture. but some who see it might go ballistic over it. honestly saying, i'm ok with it. i mean, the trust is there, the commitment from both of us is there and the understanding between both me and my bf is also there. so, i dont mind that much about it lorr...

as for your girl, i guess maybe you ought to talk with her. get to know how she feel everytime you be too close to your friends (girl). then, maybe explain to her what you think and both of you come to a term of agreement agreeable to both of you. dont pick a fight and dont fight fire with fire. fight fire with water. sadly to say, if your gf really really cant accept it even after you discussed and talked with her, then the last resort will have to come from your side whereby you might have to look into your acts with your friends (girl).

wish you all the best, yeah!

This post has been edited by miyoko: Sep 5 2006, 10:15 AM

i know what you mean. far in distance, but close at heart. that is why you dont consider your and your gf LDR. am i right?

anyway, things that you could do are such as writing a diary for her. or make a diary from pics that both of you took. this is one of my suggestion lah...

i wish you all the very best.

that's so sweet of you guys. anyway, welcome to the thread.

opps, dont lah make me look like i'm the only expert here. there's so many other members here who are willing to share advice with you. maybe you can post your problems here and we'll see how we can help.

right? guys (all LDR fellowship members)

personal stuffs? hmm... how personal? how abou pillow? hehehe...

i have an idea. maybe each time when you go shopping, or any outin, you buy something for her and you note it down in the diary when you buy it, why you buy it and things like that. then when you guys meet with each other, give her as a surprise lorr...

at least can show that she's always at your heart eventhough for from each others and you always have her in heart, even when you go enjoy yourself lorr...

anyway, the things can always be a cheape thing. no need to be very expensive one. this is my idea lah... hope it works for you.

all the best, everyone.

opps, did i get your gender wrongly? hmm... sorry yeah. but the idea that i gave can be done by bf to gf or vice versa.

wei... dont lah say like that. I'm just another member, sharing ideas and advices and opinions.