Dear wassap,

I am more blur than sad now..

Joshua,

The genting trip, you are going with your god-sis huh?

Well, I understand what do you mean miyoko. I will try my best not to think too much, just give him time to think about it carefully so that he could make a decision that he will be happy in. Well, honestly, I have lost my confidence in the relationship once he said his feeling on me has faded and that's why I have put a conclusion that he would choose to give up on the relationship as his answer.

Anyway, I will choose to follow your words and let all depends on fate and his commitment towards our relationship. But what I feel weird is whereby you still see that the things are still good in my relationship, how come? Honestly, I think he will give negative answer more than the positive one.

By the way, miyoko, will you come for the gathering??

Hmn...well, I think both of you must be ready in terms of mentally. Both of you might face the similar problem as mine (distance problem) and from that major problem, all the small small problems will occur especially during those special occasion (valentines, xmas, your / his birthday etc) or when you/he is sad/facing problem. Both of you should really discuss over the matter seriously whether both of you will remain as friends / wish to continue the relationship as couple..

1) If remain as friends, then both of you are not committed to each other and have the freedom to have other gf/bf

2) Remain as couple, then both of you are restricted and committed to each other

Discuss whether both of you are prepared to meet just once in year and for a very short time and be separated for a long time then only can meet again. Actually from my experience, both must really have the same strong mentality and will to make the relationship to succeed as if one party has taken a step back/ doubt in the relationship, no matter how hard the other party works on it, sooner or later the relationship might also fail.

Good luck ya

Joshua, I think your gf lacks of security towards you because of what has happened in the past. Well, it all depends on you how to increase her assurance towards you. You can try to look from different point of view whereby she is actually very scare that the similar thing will happen again like last time, she is very scare of the hurt that she might get. Well, cant really blame her to straightly assume that the similar past will be happened again cause the little devil is playing in her heart. Joshua, it all depends on you now. Why dont try to take a step back and think of ways to make her trust more in you?

Well, what do I mean by step back is whereby you tried to contact her first cause if no one tries to negotiate with the other party, then the problem cannot be solved. Communication is important in this stage. I never doubt about your efforts but maybe you just need to do a bit more. Since she will still scare that the similar past will happen again, that's mean she is very concern and care about the relationship. So work it out together, treat this as a training for both of you to make your relationship stronger. Good luck ya!


Good luck to you! Hope that everything on your side will be working out fine.

Wow what? Haha Mandysu is back in action....Well that's what I do in last version..but in this version, I seemed like lost in action a lotttttttttttttttt.....so now want to catch up a bit..Anyway, I just hope that other couples coud work out fine cause everytime I see a LDR couple works out fine, I will feel very happy and have more hope in LDR as I always believe LDR has the same percentage to work as SDR. As long as you guys dont think that I am talking craps, then i am always willing to share my thoughts and minds..

Hello guys~ Well, Mandy's back! For my case, my bf and I have decided to give our relationship one more chance to try to make it works Anyway, this time I will try my best to treat him well (Cause last time I took him as granted). Anyway, for other couples..

Wassap, sometimes girls really unsure what they really want (me too). They just feel they need something but if want to put them in words, they dont know how to express it to you. But this problem not only occurs at the girl's side but also guy's side too. Maybe you should communicate with your gf and see what's the real problem. Especially both of you just started LDR, maybe she is very confused and insecure now. Spend more time with her so that she will know you still care about her even though both of you are far apart. If you want to pay her a visit, that's a good idea too. Anyway, all the best to you ya.

Well, for nuclearbom, since your gf doesnt treasure the relationship with you, maybe you should really consider whether she's still the one for you. She has made her choice but how's about you? Do you still think that she worths your trust and faith? Do you still want to be with her after all this situation? Well, I think you will have the answers yourself. Try to treat yourself better as I always believe "No one deserves your tears, the one that deserves wont make you cry " It's ok to be sad at this moment as it's very natural to be sad. Dont run away from your true feelings, if want to cry, just cry. After expressed all your feelings, you would feel a lot better, trust me

Dear nuclearbom,

That's why I ask you to consider whether you are still willing to accept her back after all that has happened? Do you think you can trust and love her like before? Do you think both of you still can be as close as last time? Are you willing to give her one more chance and forget what had happened? Most importantly, do you still love her? Well, why dont take some time to think carefully?Try not to contact her for a while so that you have time to consider it carefully. Good luck oh!!

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Added on March 6, 2007, 8:32 amHey guys, all of you no need to specially allocated that date for the gathering. Suiteng, I think better you discuss the date with them again as I scare later the gathering turns out like last time ..If all of you want to organise some other day, is ok for me

This post has been edited by mandysu: Mar 6 2007, 08:32 AM

Dear BlueWind,

I understand your feeling cause I have faced a similar problem like you before. Actually in LDR, like you aware, we cant do much (even when he/she is sick/sad) as we are separated from each other and restricted in our actions. Anyway, I believe what your gf needs now is your caring..Actually when a girl sharing about her problems, they just need someone who will listen to them only..they do not expect that someone to be able to help her to solve the problem..You just need to lend her your ears and always give support and encouragement to her. Believe me, she will feel better after sharing out to you cause she knows there's someone still supports her though everything might seem go wrong.

Girls are different from guys as actually they do not need the solution but they just want to SHARE and TALK about their problems..Actually we know how to settle or face the problem but because the stress is too much, that's why we want to share it out to others so that we could feel like there's someone else willing to share the problems with us. Try to spend more time with her and give her advices IF she asks for it! Dont straightly jump into conclusion or giving advices when she doesnt need at all. Just let her say all that's in her heart.

About the calling that part, well, this one is a tough one as I dont know how you can solve that problem. Well, there's no other way both of you could communicate with each other besides calling each other handphone? What's about IDD card / other telephone card? Well, your decision to buy the microfon is correct, if can, provide her the webcam too. Both of you could choose a time whereby her parents are not at the house or after they have slept to discuss the problem.

Well, hope that you could understand what do I mean.

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Added on March 7, 2007, 8:55 amWhen's jdreamer birthday? Today huh? Happy birthday jdreamer~!!!!!!!!!!!!! May all your wishes come true, stay forever happy and handsome. May God bless and shine on you always!

This post has been edited by mandysu: Mar 7 2007, 08:55 AM

Suiteng ah..bluewind cant go woh..

Emn, suiteng ah....I might not be able to join the gathering oh...A little bit changes in the plan....I am really extremely sorry....

Ya, I am really really extremely sorry. An unpredicted problem~By the way, there are also some who cant make it to the gathering on that date oh..So maybe you need to discuss with others oh...

Wa wa wa...what happened here? Just few days didnt leave any comments here already seem like lots of problems occur.

wassap, you also didnt state clearly what happened..we cant comment much leh..if not mistaken, you just started LDR not too long ago, what happened exactly?

Walaoweh~~~!!!! Dont because I didnt go then the gathering is cancelled eh!!!!!! I will feel extremely guilty!!!!!!!

Jdreamer, so quietly started and ended a relationship huh? Why did you get suspended? Trust in God as He will prepare someone who is the best for you k No need to rush as when God thinks that you are ready, He will provide to you without asking as He always knows what's in our heart and mind even before we ask for them.

Hmn..LDR..like I said before, not all suitable for LDR. LDR needs more efforts, patience, abstinence, trust, faith, consideration and most importantly LOVE to make it work. There are actually lots of successful LDR in the world so why should we put so low confidence in it? Ya, I know that everytime when we meet with our love one after being separated for long, there will sure be an awkward moments but it really depends on either one of you to start to make the move to make the situation better. My friend who also involves in LDR for almost 4 years is still going strong with her relationship. Just try not to doubt too many things and trust in your loved one with all your heart. If he/she in the end chooses to leave you, that's his/her loss as he/she loses someone who really loves them.

Keep in mind that LDR has the SAME percentage to work as SDR!!

Morningggggggggggggggggggggg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I can understand why you call sui sui sui sui suiteng la...but why when calling me also need to add that "sui"? haha, this jdreamer!!!

Let everything that has past be past tense. There are a lot of future tense in our lifes so dont sad for the past and be hopeful for the future k

Jdreamer,

I can fully understand your feeling. But do you think that after you have blocked her MSN, deleted her from your friendster list, deleted her contact from your hp, you could totally forget about her? Honestly, I think even you have done so, you will still try to find her name in the friendster or even can memorise her hp number directly from your heart. No need to lie to your own feelings ok. If you think after you have done that, you will live happier, just do it ok?

Try to immerse in other activities that you enjoy doing and not to think of her. Trust me, time can heal your heart, but you must give chance to it you know? I will always support you here. Cheer up ok

Halo everyone!!! Hug hug all first

Well, Joshua, dont think too much. Treat her like how your heart tells you to. No need to consider so much cause when you truly want to treat her well, sure she can feel it. Give her freedom but not too much of freedom till she feels that you dont care about her anymore. All the best ya!

Gambade to all LDR couples !!!!!!