Need some advice

got many ...

Why ?

Ya i know got many. But any forummers here that can give advice?

my mom catholic married my dad who was a Buddhist, and me a Buddhist married a Christian, 1 Malaysia

Ya but I think catholic and christian different. Christian shud b haf more rules compared catholic.

same one la both catholic/Christians... the only difference is the level of faith of the person oni

what do you want to know

I am guessing this will turn into something of a "if u are not of the same faith with me you will rot in hell" kinda scenario...

Ya im not into the faith discussion thing. Just the procedure before marriage, what is allow, not alow i think is different between christian and catholic.

U r catholic marry non catholic? I wanna know the preparations and what is need to do for such kind of marriage and what to expect. Those experience before easier for me to ask the question

actually what kind of preparations are u talking about? care to be more specific?

so many of my catholic/Christian frens had both catholic and christian weddings too

i'm catholic marrying a buddhist

I have few questions but maybe ill start one by one so not to confuse.

If catholic marry buddhist and want to wedding in church, is it need to attend a course for 1 year?

The buddhist is not convert to catholic. Still remain buddhist but just 1 to make the wedding in church.

kindly be more specific, u are asking whether there is a need for the Buddhist or the catholic to attend the course?

This post has been edited by adam_lss: Jun 24 2013, 11:07 AM

ya is it a requirement?

As i heard both couple must attend some ind of course as a requirement to marry in church? But Im not sure if one partner is buddhist then need or not.

both me and my dad didn't attend any, but some may do it to please the partner. in many ways, it is entirely up to the couple, for us, the question of why need to go n attend course since you are not going to convert? if you think you are not going to change ur faith, then my honest reply is that u do not need to attend coz you will be lying to urself and ur current faith, end up u become a hypocrite

You'd have to consult the parish priest

usually ME is encouraged though

i am not going through ME nor a church wedding. but you could check, which parish?

Couples must register with the parish church for CMPC course. Not one year, just few weeks only. Attend the course, obtain certificate then can pick your wedding date. Book the church and everything. You still need to do civil registration.

Can. Same for everyone. Catholic and non-catholic. Both must attend the CMPC course.

Thats my question! lol.

If i do not need to attedn the course then I will skip it. Not sure if that is the requirement for marry in church.

I think thats the difference between catholic and christian they haf different rules some need to do some no need

Catholic must attend the course to get married in church.
Don't worry, the course is very modern and not really teaching about religion. It is like marriage preparation for couples. No test, nothing and you will do it with other couples. It is quite fun actually. Relax.

This post has been edited by barista: Jun 24 2013, 11:24 AM

PM'ed you ... cheers!

Is it u din marry in church due to many restrictions? If got many that we cant fulfil i also think just skip church and do the chinese style.

Other than the course got any other rules need to follow for marry in chruch?

Just get the certificate and you're good to go.
For Catholic marrying non-Catholic, you don't get a full mass that's all.

church wedding or simple Chinese style, I can only say that it is a joint decision, coz u wont know whom u may "offend" for skipping such important ceremony

my answer to u, again, do discuss with ur partner and the parish involved. some may allow, some may not... if church wedding is something ur partner would like to have, it is just a small sacrifice for u to do for ur love ones

What the difference between full mass and wedding service? No gospel, no communion and stuff like dat? Then will be shorter? SHud b a good one if finish fast lol

Ya i know will offend some relatives who r like fanatics. But for parents both already confirm ok. Just cant please everyone la. Marry is between my family only la. Relatives all dun care offend or not.

Without eucharist, slightly shorter only.

This post has been edited by barista: Jun 24 2013, 11:35 AM

Please take note also, Catholic weddings are usually held on Saturdays before Sunset Mass

This post has been edited by khool: Jun 24 2013, 11:37 AM

why not do a garden church wedding? then no need to do in the church d

ME 1 year.. only then can go church marry

i urgent case lol so cannot qualify

A Catholic wedding can only be held in Church, no where else.

similar to a airplane can only fly in the air >.<

hehehe!!! ya, true!!!

Actually I find it less stressful. Just follow what they tell you to do.
If Chinese customs, so many people say so many things. I'm glad I had a church wedding.

Agreed. Less stressful then marriage with all the customs involve.

I think it is already mentioned a couple of times here that you just need to attend a short pre-marriage course to allow you and your partner to marry in the church, so that the wedding will be valid.
Now, if you don't get married in the church, then you are denying your partner the chance to attend a full Mass as usual after you get married, means can't receive communion.

Question is, do you want that? Both are free to practice their beliefs. But if you do not do the necessary things your partner needs and preventing them to properly practice their belief afterwards, don't think its right? right?

not one year ... few days .

There 2 types of Catholic Marriage Preparation Course a.k.a CMPC in order for you to get the cert. Its either you go for the weekly one which takes about 6-8 weeks (once a week class) or there's another which is 3Days2N session..

Barista is right that you can only go for wedding service and not a full wedding mass...

Church wedding is morning ma. My bro just got married in church and is morning.

Oh urgent case

But yours is both also catholic la not so complicated

I'm a Buddhist married my wife who is a catholic.
went to the marriage preparation course too. I think for 6 weeks around 1 1/2 hour per session. nothing much religious thiugh. just went there for some discussion.
and the church wedding, it is shorter too.

depend on the parish priest. i got mine on sunday, that day also was christ the king

i'm Buddhist and I married my Catholic wife 2 years ago. i don't need to convert to Catholic and is still Buddhist up till today.

We went for a pre wedding marriage course for 3 days 2 nights a few years earlier. do note that this cert has expiry date.

u need this cert to get married in church. of course u need to do your rom separately. church wedding is not long. 1 hour max. if u select popular day, u may share the ceremony with other couples. for mine, have 5 couples getting married at the same time.

usually is on saturday morning. not sunday as usually sunday morning is mass.

it's your option if u don't want to marry in church.

This info quite up to date and relevant (even though this is for SFX parish)

http://www.sfx.com.my/v3/index.php/wedding...n/wedding-guide

I too married a non Catholic in church.

It is something to do based on your faith not to please elders....

Hi bro, my advice
1. Consult your partner / both parents where & how you want to held you wedding
2. If the answer is church, be prepare to attend pre-marriage course 6 months before your marriage date. Watch out for announcement during mass. This course is normally held for 2-3 days only with minimum religious thing but more to life after marriage.
3. Consult the priest in your church on your wedding date. Priest may want to interview you and your partner before wedding day.
4. Catholic marrying non-catholic - not full mass so no holy communion.
5. On the wedding day sign the wedding cert at church and then priest will pronounce you Husband & Wife and your life will change FOREVER ..LOL.

Good Luck !

i am a catholic from baby - baptist and confirmed during form 4. i married my husband, a buddist (from a family who believe in chinese tradition alot) - we did not undergo the catholic ceremony by choice:

1. We think we will incur alot of money if we do so - church deco, flower gal dress...etc
2. We want a simple wedding as possible
3. If we want a church wedding, it would mean that we have to go through classes - which would be good for some; but we don't think it was necessary for us
4. During catholic wedding ceremony, we sort of "promised" that we will have our kids as catholic as well - this will definitely be a "controversial" if we oblige - as in laws will definitely object to this

Anyway, my mum was catholic and my dad was buddhist, married in catholic church - therefore, i am a catholic...after 20 years, my dad decided to convert into catholic

Can't believe I'm posting in a parenting section in LYN for the first time. Dunno if it's too late coz the first post is more than 2 months ago. Anyway, here it goes.

Before the wedding, a catholic and the his/her spouse must attend a course regardless whether they are both catholic or only one of them is a catholic. The word 'course' might not be a good way to describe it as it's not some exam oriented stuff or something with a deep study. It's mostly just a few session where they prep you for married life. And also for you to find out for yourself if you are indeed ready for marriage.

Unfortunately, to many parents of the non-catholic side, they are afraid that these 'courses' are meant to convert their sons or daughters into catholics. And so, that's why many have doubts and wondered if they will be forced to convert.

I believe they are most likely confused with another course. In catholic church, there is a course called RCIA where they prepare those who wish to convert. But it's a totally different thing from the marriage course and NOT related at all. Infact, they are even held on different schedules in different rooms. So, there's no way the conversion course is linked to the marriage course.

Once the marriage course has been completed, you will be given a cert. With this cert, you can request for a wedding ceremony in a catholic church.

On the wedding day itself, anyone from any religion are welcomed to attend. It's actually a religious event but the non-catholics can just sit down during certain parts. Well, usually either the priest or commentator (someone like an emcee) will let the guest know which part is meant only for catholics. It's sort of like when you are going to a chinese funeral but just sit down and watch when they starting the chanting part.

How do I know? Coz I've already done close to a hundred catholic weddings.

do you guys know any catholic girls, can intro to me..
TQ

basically this "course" is to help this couple from different beliefs to stay married to each other?

can you tell me some of the contents of this course?

It spans into 7 sessions. Therefore, the number of topics are quite extensive. They are mostly questions being post to you and your fiancé. Questions which are meant to be answered between the couples, not to the facilitators. These are not "right and wrong" stuff. It's not a test. Here are some sample contents:
- What is your definitions of marriage?
- How would you react during a quarrel?
- How well do you know your spouse?
- Do you intend to have children?

As you can see, those questions does not matter whether both parties are catholic or it's a mixed marriage. It's for the couple to discover whether they are truly ready. For example, if you discovered that you want to have children but your fiancé doesn't, then it's time to have a personal discussion on this matter. Then ask yourselves, will this decision affect our marriage?

From observation, most couples enjoy the course. It's a light and friendly session. You can buzz me a pm for more details.

thanks for the explanation.