Haizzz 3 years you've waited after ROM. Just get it done. You're an adult and financially independent. Don't allow your mom to push you and hubby around like you're little kids leh. Put your foot down. As long as you don't get this done you cannot settle down and grow roots - buy house,start a family,whatever lah.

An idea - why don't you threaten her (bluff saja lah) that the ROM is enough as legally you're married. That the dinner etc are not important and a waste of time,money and energy. That the money spent should go toward buying a house and starting a family. That strictly speaking it's the wisest thing to do LOL see her reaction.

If your mom is so unreasonable,sit her down and give her ultimatum. Are you and your hubby going to let her control your life for as long as she lives? As I see it she twists you round her little finger!

The Ceylonese or Sinhalese people. You marry a girl from that race and you'll be rich lah. But remember,the money is not for you to spend but to be kept for your daughter's dowry hahaha These people are all siao.

Yahiko,

My suggestion is this - NO NEED to discuss any more. Just give her a few thousand as dowry. Tell her you and your hubby will take care of the whole affair. Therefore,the angpow for the dinner will all go to you. Just restrict the guests to family and close relatives/friends of both sides. Habis cerita. I will not allow anybody to make my life difficult. YOU and hubby take charge. Don't allow her to dictate terms. Whatever she suggests you just ignore and do it the way you both want it. You should have done that from the beginning by now your Chinese wedding would be history LOL.

time for a table of pricing liao. like Malay mia traditional.. that Wang mas thing....

still in practice with market rate goes like RM 8K onwards, mostly RM 10K... i wonder what's left for wedding dinner, bridal photos, buffet dinner.