before that, did you get any idea whether you have to pay for the girl side wedding dinner? their tables.
Coz most of the time.. dowry and tables both have almost similar weightage.

Some parents want tables only, no need dowries. (therefore usually they will take the angpao for their tables.. and groom pay the bill)
Some parents want both tables, and dowries (angpao collected from the dinner.. depends.. if they wanted it also.. then too bad.. coz they earn double fr u)
Some parents want dowry only, they will pay the table using the angpao they collected.

Whatever dowry or angpao get from the table that groom paid, sincere parents should return it back to the newly wed couple in other form such as jewelry, furniture, honeymoon gifts, etc.

Anyway, be careful.. if your MIL say ok for 5K but requested you to give her 15tables.. then you'll be dead.

6-10k is reasonable.

just think your parents in law also need:

- banquet
- prepare gift for you both
- decorations
- etc allowances like petrol,phone

if your in laws retired or poor. where got money to do all those?
Be considerate. Unless they really use it for their own benefit.
Then feel free to wrath!

If marriage is like trading, then of course there is a market rate.
Like, "Here's RM10K, your daughter is now mine. She will no longer take care of your household, but will instead take care of mine. Oh here's a cow to help you tend your field too"

Live single life. Be free. Travel the world work only when need money. Don't buy house, buy car or all that liabilities or you will be working for it.

But if that is the dream you want. House, car, family.. you got to prepare to be able to afford all that and take care of everyone financially. If not better be selfish and stay single forever.