want wedding then don't stingy ady, be a real man please, its a must of giving the dowries above 10k.

Im getting married soon.

I also have given dowry....not only dowry, but angpows for the grandparents, the relatives, etc. Actually before that i have to sign a dowry contract, it specifies everything, how much angpow to give (eg 4 angpows of rm500 to each grandparent, 30 angpows of rm50 to each relative, etc).

Really a killer. Then add on the gold rings, the gold bracelet, the gold necklace (jewellery gold goin for $192/g also).

really feel the pinch eh, a big dent.

There is eternal shame and loss of dignity if didnt fulfill the contract. Also a lifetime of nagging.
But yeah, sometimes u give a dowry with whatever you can but people will still say many. Another danger is relatives, they will talk so much cock n bullshit to ur parent in law until their minds get poisoned. Eg they tell ur mom in law ask for this, ask for that, ask for the sky, ask for the earth.

Good thing is, some traditional things no need to do lah...like getting a virgin kid to pee in the bedside 'kong', or ask an old man to carry 'lepiah' some kind of big round chinese biscuit/pastry.

Not sure bout you all...but she does want kids (me not really lah, kids expensive lah).

Actually when sign the contract we go have dinner in a restaurant, got bring witnesses, grandparents n parents (both sides) n sign in front of them.
haha. first time i hear of this (actually first time is when her sister husband or my bro in law sign first).