No money. Postpone until got money to marry.

Wedding (don't count marriage). Is Expensive. Include dowry, etc, all that is expenses. If lucky can cover back.

Remember to save for wedding, house, car and kids, even before you have gf! When you have a gf, or think about getting married.. too late already. Unless you are super rich.

Some people have wedding fund. since dating. put money into the account for the future. Then have house fund, children fund, travel fund.

Don't be in debt because of wedding. But you would want to let your wife have a comfortable and happy life right? It's unfortunate if you have parent's in law which "milk you for money". I've seen a few. Milk the husband for all he is worth. Quite kesian. After that also still giving money to the family... pay for renovations to their family house etc. etc.
Although it's wife's family she should also be thoughtful of her new family and husband's capacity.