Ladder theory is kinda like a business operations guideline, it tells you what to emphasize on.

Some guys like a girl, then they try to be her friend first, then become a good friend over a long period of time, then only try to convert into gf. Ladder theory tells us that if the girl is not attracted at the start, it's not that likely that she will change and become attracted. Does it happen? Yes. Is the probability high? No.

So the more effective tactic would be to get to know more new girls rather than waste time on someone who has already pegged you on the friend ladder. It's not a matter of absolutes but of probabilities.

why need to use theory on guys or gals?

what i know is when the time is right, step another step from fren to gf, then from gf to wife, then bb and etc....

theory are for people who talk a lot about it but never act much about it....

This post has been edited by fir3man: Aug 22 2012, 02:33 PM

Well I guess I did get really lucky, am so thankful for that.

That being said, attractiveness and preferences are unique to each person and they can change over time. Of course, I have to admit, if a guy continues pursuing the same girl for many months without the girl returning the interest, chances are he's not gonna get out of the "zone".

As for those of you arguing what people desire in their partner, I wouldn't consider myself to be good looking or remarkably fit nor rich, probably average in those 3 aspects. Nor am I tall; in fact my girl is almost my height (one to two cm difference at most!). Some, in fact, most girls actually look past appearance. Most of my guy friends who are taken do not look like K-Pop idols or whatever.