I am a single mom I have an 8 yr old son who is diagnosed with ADHD. he's been having problem in class and do not want to do his work especially what was written on the board. he's having problems writing it down on time. and lately he always having problem listening and behave. i have no clue what is ADHD at first, until i bought a book about it. need advise how to handle him better and where can i go to to help him gets help. the hardest part is that, i have no support from my family, coz' they keep cricised me and denying that my son is having problems. sometimes i cried all by myself in my car. dont know who to talk to.

thank you.

Care to explain more bout ADHD..i also 1st time heard of it..

erm... meaning they can't pay attention. always run around.
for example, if u're talking to them, they wont listen to u or pay attention.
something like hyperactive.
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

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Added on June 21, 2012, 10:13 amdid u bring him to see a doctor?
Doctor can give u a better advice.

This post has been edited by littlealan00: Jun 21 2012, 10:13 AM

Owhh..thanx for explaining

Yeahh..u should get an expert advise on this & my advise is..dont listen to others..u should concentrate on ur son the most.

He rili nid ur support now..if u break down..who's gonna take care of him..?

Be strong mummy..we're here

u can go to government hospital to seek advise.
they have a long term treatment if i not wrong.
this kind of kid cant teach them with normal method.
normally ur kid is entitle for OKU status but still subject to his condition
be strong, mummy

Ya better see doc to confirm as some is just plain hyperactive. Read wikipedia on ADHD saying that its hard to differentiate if toddlers has ADHD or is just plain hyperactive. So better seek expert advice.

i hav no idea what is ADHD about at first until this thread. i think it will b good to consult a doctor or expert b4 too late

ADHD is quite a common developmental disorder and can persist thru out life. There are quite a number of celebrities with ADHD as well if you look it up on the Internet. They can still live a very normal life as long as they have it properly diagnose and under control. Many parents think that the child does not want to listen to them or is naughty but don't realise that they have ADHD. It's good that you have already found it out.

It's best that you get professional help on this on how to handle children with ADHD. If not mistaken, some doctors may recommend medicine as it has been found to be very effective to control ADHD.

Don't bother about your other family members, in this country, mental disorders are not very well accepted in our society, especially the older generation. You have to be strong and love and support your child. Try to get some professional help for yourself too, you may go into depression or stress can affect your physical and mental health if this continues. Think about your child's future.

If money is a concern, there are government hospitals with counselling dept or psychiatric departments. I believe there are also some NGOs around to help special children and their families.

Hi nazimah,
Who diagnosed your son?

good question
better be a certified practitioner

Hi dear, u can always bring your son to the doctor to help to deal with ADHD...

Usually psychiatrist will prescribe some medication for them to lower down the activeness so the child can be more managable and calm so they can concentrate more in class... (if they think it is needed after assessment)

There are lotsa degree of ADHD-mild, moderate, severe...

Sorry to say but there are no medications to treat/heal ADHD, only medications to control it...

Basically child with ADHD needs to go through behavioural training (usually they will have it in hospital), some might need medications to calm their behaviour and some might need special class. (kelas pemulihan in certain school for special kids, where there's a teacher who only take care of few students plus they have different syllabus)...as ADHD kids (usually moderate and severe are not suitable to be in usual classes as they cant pay attention). To apply for these classes, u will need a doctor to certify and diagnose the child with ADHD and u will need to deal with some documentations...

For now, I think u need to get opinion from specialist to verify that your child is really having ADHD), the reason is:

1) do not label a child with something he doesnt have that he needs to carry with him whole life long...make sure u get the specialist to have a look at him and make the diagnosis...

2) do not just go to a normal GP or any KK doctors as they are not expert in this field, they might know about ADHD but not to a specialised level...

3) If can, go see a child psychiatrist (specialist), they are the one who is dealing with ADHD, autism etc... (psychiatrist doesnt mean the child is crazy, its just that they deal with all the disease relating to chemistry in brain)

Don't be worry, u can always talk to us, we will try to help u...

U also need to be tough as your child depends on u...

Good luck

Hi Nazimah,

I think you should seek for professional help, I have a cousin bro who's also diagnosed with ADD or ADHD, he was diagnosed as small as 3 yo. The doc suggested many ways to help him develop his brain better for instance, holding onto his legs to get him into an Upside Down position. It's one kind of therapy that helps them develop body awareness.

Alot of love, care and patience have to be spent on him. Just don't ever give up on him. And don't ever think he's abnormal. He's a normal kid just like any other kid, he just can't really focus on things at times, but it can be improved as time goes by.

Professional help is key. And alot of patience. All the best!

This post has been edited by sweeboon: Jun 21 2012, 05:14 PM

Just like the rest of the forumer said, the first step is to have a proper diagnosis by a professional psychologist/psychiatrist. Many non-professional would have the tendency to overemphasis of the symptom.

Another important part is, support/help/care is equally important for the child as well as the caretaker (you). You must remember in order to take care of your child, you will need to take care of yourself. Try and gain support and talk to your friends.

Seek treatment from PSYCHIATRIST.

Please view this web site;


http://www.autism.org.my/

It's not the end of the world. We do provide rehab and medications. Go see a paediatrician, pay rm5 for government clinics.

Why only psychiatrists? Psychologists can help too. Psychiatrists will put you directly too meds and not everyone are comfortable in giving young kids meds, although it's proven very effective for ADHD children.

I had ADHD when i was young i couldnt read n write, sometimes i hear normal speeches as if they were just babbling until i was 10yrs old. Right after that I excel in my studies. How i recover? strong support from mom

ps. My dad ran away when i was 5yrs old also

Cause psychiatrist gets to make the diagnosis and psychologist don't...ADHD, autism, dyslexia are being review under psychiatrist...Can see paediatrician initially but they will eventually refer back to psychiatrist...adolescent/teenagers with behavior problem (violent, disobedient, vandalism) can refer psychologist la...but let this mom get the right diagnosis first before start anything I suppose is the best option for her and the child now...

And also psychiatrist won't start medication right away. They will assess the child first and some of them might just need rehab and clinic reviews, not necessary meds straight away...

Were you diagnosed? Did you undergo any form of treatment; therapy or medication?

If so maybe you could share with TS.