In this time period, try your best to win her heart. Do not argue with her again. Take note, however, don't make it seem like you're super duper desperate. You should give her some space also. Try to care for her more.

Strengthen your heart and fight for the win!

Good luck

I have an exact encounter like yours.

Sad previous relationship, the girl I loved so much dumped me because I'm not studying medicine. (I know WTF ryt?) Because she insisted she will only marry a doctor. After that I'm really really careful, making sure I don't commit too much in a relationship. Until, I met this girl while having my internship. I entered the company few months earlier than her and so, she's like my junior. Firstly, I have no intention at all towards her. I never even thought of coupling up with her. Just like you, she was great. She was so caring, so understanding till certain level that it's hard to decline the fact that she has feeling towards me. I refused to get involved at first, because, firstly, she's 2 years older than me, and another reason, she's studying abroad and I've never tried LDR before. However, action speaks louder than word. I was really touched and finally, I stepped out of safe/friend zone, and we couple up in the end. For a while. Then it's finally the time for her to leave, for studies. Firstly, I'm the one who are afraid of LDR, and she's the one who keep on comforting me, asked me not to worry. When I gain some confidence, she lost her confidence pula. In the end, we just ended up being friends back and see what happens after 10 months. It hurts me so much.

All right everyone,this is my story. I need your opinion and advice what to do since i find my life right now is not peaceful and hard to do everything even sleep. Hope you guys give a positive comment. 

I've been with this girl for almost 5 years. We start being couple after 6 months i breaking up with my first love. I love her from the moment i met her but i take things really slowly and doesn't want to commit so much because i'm afraid that i will be dissapointed and heartbroken if things don't work out. It just a cautious step and experience from my first love,since i've been really committed with my first love but in the end we broke up.

I'm her first love so the first 3 years,she was great. Really great until if we had a fight,she's usually the first one who will say sorry. She also usually call me first,text me and asking me to hang out with her as much as possible. She's also like to give shirts,I had like 12 shirts that was given by her. She's always there for me and she chose me over her girlfriends. While on the other hand,i find her "merimaskan". I love her,that's why we holding on but I can't commit too much. I treat her "gitu-gitu" only but sometimes i bought something, call her and other stuff but only SOMETIMES. She treat me like 100 times better than I treat her.

As time went by,I've changed. And she was too. I've became like her and she became like me. She doesn't do the usual thing she does. She like to be mad at me,she like to hangout with her friends,including boys. She doesn't like to call me anymore,blaming me I'm the one who taught her that way. In fact,she's blaming me for everything that made her now. We usually argue and fighting,even for something small and stupid but i'm the one try to hang on to this relation and she like to use "how bout we break up". Seems she can move on but I can't  . I love her so much and I regret because not committed 100% from the very first moment we were together. Is it wrong to be cautious??????

We had a big fight last 2 weeks,and after a long talk,she said it was better for us to be separated. But i said i don't want. She said she was heartless,confused and don't know what to do. She realized she had changed a lot and the best way she wanted was to become a friend for a while. She said she doesn't want to hurt me since she's like to start a fight and she's not the girl i met 5 years ago. But she's willing to think and decided until july whether or not to hang on to this relation. It's really hurt for me to wait for her answer. But i still want her and hope for a positive answer. Now she's in Mecca for 2 weeks and i really miss her. The last time we sms,she said she still had a feeling for me but still didn't want to give the yes or no answer whether to stay with me. But she's afraid that if we really break up,she might come back to me after 6 months or so. At this moment,i dont is she is my friend or my ex or my gf.

What should I do now?? It's really hurt to wait... It's really hurt to see her happy while i'm not..
Should i try to "ngorat" her once again and make her fall in love with me like we used to be??

Sound fair to me.. U treated her cold and she get tired after giving so much. And then u realised and its abit too late.

Your option now is to keep trying or just move on.
However though, if u chosed to move on, im sure the next girl will get the same thing from u.. ie cold treatment by using this ex as an excuse.

So your choice

Yea,i know it was my fault at first because not committed enough and that was the thing that i've regretted so much. If we're not meant to be (which i will try to avoid it), I will make this story as my lesson for the future. So that i will be more appreciate towards my partner. And now,I want to appreciate this girl.

Good luck then. Start from scratch again and build up

Im in the exact situation now, i know exactly how you feel. i was just like you, didnt commit as much as my gf and now she changed and also blaming me. we always fight a lot and she always says we are not gonna last, but we didnt break up though. even when she is hurt from some mistake i did, she still wants me back hoping that i will change. but now i still havent and we are still fighting, instead of being sad now, she's always just fed up of me and tell me that she wants to stop being with me soon. she just asked me to change right now, and im trying my best to do that cause i dont wanna lose her. maybe what you should do is show her that you care, do some little things or gift her something that she would like, show her that you care. after we fight, i would sometimes take her out and buy her favorite food and she'll cheer up. when she is sad or something bothering her, you have to attend to her quick and cheer her up. all these little things really matter. maybe she'll remember all those good times she had with you and give it another chance. just dont make the same mistake again after that and give her the attention she needs. Good luck bro!