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 Exhibitionism Problem, I need help. Please!

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post Mar 4 2012, 11:20 AM

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QUOTE(vanpersie91 @ Mar 4 2012, 02:10 AM)
I think rather than you going out to streets to satisfy your urge, better to close your curtain and lock yourself in your room. then you can do what u want...want naked or what not.

think of your safety first..afraid later you'll get harmed.
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but isn't this urge cause them to do it in public as they feel like they want people to see them like this?

siren: you need to be careful yeah especially if you are muslim. i am not sure are you but in case you are one. but regardless of race and religion, i think exhibitionism is illegal at here right? i mean if someone caught you naked out there, they could report to police and you will be detained or caught right?

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post Mar 4 2012, 11:58 AM

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Your urges sound like a way for you to release your sexual frustration. The fact that you get turned on by it just means you have a fetish for it. The way to deal with this is not to "practice self control". What does that even mean? Control what? The urges? The need to relieve sexual tension? Forcing yourself to control them will cause rebound effects later on. You will probably feel tempted and actually DO something you might regret.

I think you should just start a healthy sexual relationship with your partner (if you can, i.e. not Muslim or Christian or whatever- I don't want to be the one who encourages forbidden acts now) or relieve yourself erm, online or something. Like using chatroulette or w/e. You can wear a mask and just strip so your identity is secret. It's less risky that way, as opposed to doing it in public, at night, where you won't know who's lurking around. Getting raped isn't very fun.
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post Mar 5 2012, 01:13 AM

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I'm surprise u r still a virgin until today. Not becoz of anything, but the fact that u r doing that and u dun get raped, doing those kind of thing, in a place called Malaysia.

I don't mean u deserve to be raped. Seriously. What I mean is that, u r exposing urself way too much to risk and harm. Especially when some of the ppl might know ur routine and have already started filming u. Who knows if it's on the net already.

Girl, u r playing a high risk game. Stop it. Or u'll regret
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girl,,,u need 2 seek psychologist laugh.gif doh.gif even i myself had different kind of fetish 2 but most of the time i do indoors haha

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post Mar 5 2012, 02:10 PM

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QUOTE(cempedaklife @ Mar 5 2012, 01:13 AM)
I'm surprise u r still a virgin until today. Not becoz of anything, but the fact that u r doing that and u dun get raped, doing those kind of thing, in a place called Malaysia.

I don't mean u deserve to be raped. Seriously. What I mean is that, u r exposing urself way too much to risk and harm. Especially when some of the ppl might know ur routine and have already started filming u. Who knows if it's on the net already.

Girl, u r playing a high risk game. Stop it. Or u'll regret
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lol. she made the thread to seek advice to stop lo. not like wanna do more.


Added on March 5, 2012, 2:11 pm
QUOTE(cempedaklife @ Mar 5 2012, 01:13 AM)
I'm surprise u r still a virgin until today. Not becoz of anything, but the fact that u r doing that and u dun get raped, doing those kind of thing, in a place called Malaysia.

I don't mean u deserve to be raped. Seriously. What I mean is that, u r exposing urself way too much to risk and harm. Especially when some of the ppl might know ur routine and have already started filming u. Who knows if it's on the net already.

Girl, u r playing a high risk game. Stop it. Or u'll regret
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maybe already filmed. google now~~ tongue.gif

to siren: imagine me already know about u. and I stalked u everytime u did it. scared? muehehehe!!! (sincerely hope this would help tongue.gif)

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post Mar 5 2012, 03:33 PM

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QUOTE(shufaz @ Mar 5 2012, 03:10 PM)
lol. she made the thread to seek advice to stop lo. not like wanna do more.


Added on March 5, 2012, 2:11 pm

maybe already filmed. google now~~ tongue.gif

to siren: imagine me already know about u. and I stalked u everytime u did it. scared? muehehehe!!! (sincerely hope this would help tongue.gif)
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Don't do that, you might have made her have psychological prob bro.

Try to talk to someone close and which you can trust, if you can trust your BF, talk to him about it. But you've already told us, you should feel a bit better now right? Just try to talk to your BF and rather have him satisfying you instead of going out to do it again, and risk it.
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post Mar 5 2012, 05:25 PM

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You are not alone, everyone has their own fetishes and preference. Guys and girls alike. Unfortunately, in this country and society, it's not greatly embrace or talked about, it's more like a taboo and everyone prefer to pretend that no such thing exist.

It's becoming a problem for you and yes it is putting yourself in great danger considering the safety of our country. I highly suggest you to see a psychologist. I also hope that you can talk about this to someone else other than random strangers over the Internet. You can start by telling someone you know that will accept you for who you are, see if your bf is able to do this. I know some guys have the impression that all girls are pure and if you're not then they'll tell the whole world and make a drama out of it.

In psychology, there are ways to control the urges and suppress it properly in hopes that it will go away or stay under control and will not put your life in danger or affect your daily routines.
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post Mar 5 2012, 05:38 PM

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I believe the best solution to fight against these addictions and fetish is "diversion". It's the practical way to playing with your mind and thinking. If you have not enough time for your daily usage, do you think your "urge" will still surface and ask you about it?

Just try give yourself a break and occupy your precious time with some healthy and positive activities. Maybe travel with your partner?

It's not wrong to have some personal preference but always put your safety (and others) in top priority when conducting such act. Believe yourself that you can overcome this. smile.gif
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post Mar 5 2012, 05:59 PM

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QUOTE(shufaz @ Mar 5 2012, 02:10 PM)
lol. she made the thread to seek advice to stop lo. not like wanna do more.


Added on March 5, 2012, 2:11 pm

maybe already filmed. google now~~ tongue.gif

to siren: imagine me already know about u. and I stalked u everytime u did it. scared? muehehehe!!! (sincerely hope this would help tongue.gif)
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i know i din provide any solution to TS, that's becoz i really dunno how.

but i might be contributing, by telling her the risk, and make her realize and feel more compel to handle her fetish in a better way icon_rolleyes.gif
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post Mar 6 2012, 05:54 AM

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It's ok to have urges, but the way TS is doing it is really endangering her ownself. It's great too that u r admitting that this act gotta stop and wants to find solution to this issue.

Talk to someone that u really trust, or seek help from a professional (psychologist) might help. Think of the serious consequences everytime this urges come n u still go out naked, in which the consequences may result in death if meet with some crazy man.

Take a shower when such urge come, pray, meditate, calm your inner lust, stay peaceful within. Control yourself and don't let lust to control u. Good luck, TS. Hope your bf/good fren/family members can help you go thru this.
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post Mar 6 2012, 08:16 AM

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QUOTE(SirenHeart @ Mar 3 2012, 01:59 AM)
Ok hi all.

I have just made this account because I'm too embarrassed to use my original account. As mentioned above, I need help with this problem.

About 5 years ago, when I was 16, I lived in some suburban neighborhood, where we really watched the way we dress. At that age, my body was pretty well developed, advanced more than it supposed to - cut it short, I am big chested. This was not a problem for me, but I noticed something quite wrong with me since I'm not bothered by people (men) looking at my chest. I was... kind of excited and proud... and I have this 'urge' to show more. I now it was wrong, I did found it is really perverted, and abnormal, but I just can't seems to fight it. At first I was dressing normally, a plain short-sleeves T-shirt, and long pants, but intentionally walking with my chest rising up - I loved the attention I got with my male friends...

At age 17 I advanced a little bit, I'm wearing tighter and tighter shirt, showed some more skin, but like I mentioned, I lived among malays and suburban neighborhood, so I have never wear something too revealing. At this point, I think that it was normal for girls like me to dress-up sexy. Again, I loved the attention, but that 'urge' is really pushing me... Everything got worse starting from here - where I found out I had this fetish. One day, my friends was playing prank with me at school, when I was changing in the toilet for co-curricular, they somehow managed to take away my uniform top - both my school uniform and PBSM uniform. So I was left with only bra and long pants. They put the uniforms in an empty class near the toilet, and I was forced to run in that condition, and quickly dressed in the class. Of course I was really pissed at them, but that really made me turned on. Every night from that point I can't stop thinking about the prank. About the excitement it gave - and this advances the 'urge' farther.

So one night, where I was feeling so light-headed, and being pushed hard by the 'urge', at about 2am, I went out from my home, walking. I walk for 10minutes about 200m from my home, make sure nobody was there in the streets, and remove all my clothing except for my bra and panties, and started walking again for another 5minutes, then I ran back to my clothing, dressed up, and went back home. I couldn't sleep that night. I was so excited, so turned on. There was no satisfying this urge. But I felt so wrong, and so embarrassed if anybody did see me. Sadly, this 'night activity' didn't stop there. For a year, at least once a month, I will do this. And the distance I'm walking half clothed is just farther and farther. However, it stops for a while when I've entered matriculation college, but the urge never subsides...

Then when I was 19, 3 nights before I went to UUM, I have done something really radical. I've suppressed the urge so much that I really have to relieve it. So I did. At 3am, I walked to an abandoned playground, it was quite dark, but there's street lights not far. Then, I took everything off. Everything. I walk around the playground 2-3 times, felt really excited, and I did something taboo - I sat on the bench there, and began to touch myself until I 'reached the peak'. Yes. True story. And the urge subsides quickly... I ran back to my home and sleeps soundly, full of satisfaction.

SORRY BUT THIS IS NOT SOMETHING I MADE UP. BUT SINCE THAT NIGHT. I FELT THIS IS REAALLYYY, REALLLLLYYYYY WROOOONNGGG!!!! I couldn't help myself. I did it again until today, once every month. I never had shared this with anybody, nobody knew. So I can't help myself stopping it. I had a bf now, we never had sex, since he thinks I'm 'pure' and all.... I'm really afraid if anyone knew about this someday, if that happen I really would hang myself. People know me as a very shy person, never wear anything revealing (since I turned down the urge with the night activity), but this dark side of me... I just know one day I'll be exposed, and my life would be over! Please help. I have looked up through the internet and discover that this fetish is called 'exhibitionism', but them the english people, rather than do something to stop, embrace it. They just live with it, until they die.

I don't know if there's someone like me in this country... male perverts are a lot here... but girls... I don't know. I'm a girl and I really had to protect my modesty and all, I know what I did is so not normal, I'm weird, pervert whatever. I just needed help to stop. Any advice or anything to share would be really, really appreciated. Sorry for the long post. Thank you in advance.
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why not come with me? i'd support you?

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post Mar 6 2012, 08:43 AM

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Going online is good. Create an FB profile or fanpage. Put a s*l*u*t*t*y profile picture of an anonymous JAV girl, or maybe even yourself (cover your face of course). Don't put any information that might reveal your real identity to others. Do not add your friends. In no time, all horny guys will add you automatically. Post all your alter-ego statuses whenever you feel like going naked again. Perhaps even post a picture or video (not sure if FB will get an inappropriate image report or not). You also get all those honry replies and comments from all your virtual viewers. A safer way to channel your desire, I suppose. I know a lot of people are doing it. They get a kick out of it all. I know coz I added a few of them myself! biggrin.gif

Just an opinion, dunno how practical it is to actually do it .....
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post Mar 6 2012, 01:34 PM

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Thank you all for the reply trying to help me over with my problems. But alas, there's still problems about all the suggestion.

1. Other exhibitionists
For those who admit they have the same problem too, and I am not alone, I got Artemis Luna here and 2 others that had PM'ed me. Thank you for your support. But I had to make it clear here that I am not looking for someone to share experience with, because sharing what you've done got me curious to try them too - driving naked, strip in the bus/train, in elevator, at the beach, all these are like suggestions for me to do more daring acts. Don't misunderstand me, I know you guys want to tell me that I'm not alone. Thank you. I just need suggestion to stop.

2. Seek psychiatrist, friend, bf, talk to someone
Not an option because I've give it a deep thought. I will feel extremely embarrassed, and if I talk to them, they'll just give me opinion like everybody else here did. So that's why I just go public here, anonymously of course, to seek more advice.

3. Those that remind me about my safety, about being already filmed/watched
You see, the risk is a part of it. It made me turned on so much when I have the thought "what if someone see me??" "what if someone rape me??", I know all about this, and it doesn't stop me. It is part of the act. I mean, one of the most important part that made the activity so exciting. it's not that I want to be raped... For me, what my urge is really asking to do is show my everything in public. I don't have the courage and the madness to do that, and I don't plan to.

4. Do everything I want in room/bathroom without getting out
As I mentioned above, this just kill the risk. It means, I just can't get aroused enough - so I can't satisfy myself. I'm weird right?

5. Have intimate time with bf
I did a few times. But we didn't had sex. We make out far enough, in nudes. But the thing is, although I am aroused, but still not as good as when I did my fetish. So I still doing my night activity to seek that best pleasure for me.

6. Exhibiting online. FB, Chatroulette, etc
Sadly enough. I did this. Thanks for your suggestion. I did went to online chat room, show my entire body (covered my face, of course) and masturbate. I love the expression strangers gave when I did the act. Now I'm a total pervert. This did prevent me going outside since it feed my "what if someone see me" but left me with another problem. I just wanted to stop being an exhibitionist, and I don't want to be a porn star like this.

7. Lock myself in house and hide the keys
It stopped me, but it suppressed the urge too. Nowadays the urge just got stronger and stronger. Last year for 4 months straight I didn't do it, it got so suppressed that I went back home from my uni although we had exams - just to satisfy the desire...

So guys and gals, as you can see, I'm in deep shit. I'm still hoping for more advices though.

p/s:
:: please don't ask me about my religion or race, my fetish is still considered taboo and indecent regardless of them.
:: I never had sex, but due to some incident, I am not a virgin too.
:: http://www.mangafox.com/manga/aki_sora/v01/c004.1/1.html - if you wanted to see a depiction of an exhibitionist in a manga - it gives a perfect example of myself - only I didn't want to be with a person like in the chapter. don't read the rest. it's crap.
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I don't think you have much of a choice here. We are not professionals here. You seriously need professional help to overcome this.
I'm pretty sure you are not able to overcome this by yourself, without help from close friends, bf or family somemore. Please please consider going to see a psychologist (not a psychiatrist, you are not crazy and you don't need pills), you just need to do some changes to your cognitive thinking and self control.
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QUOTE(munkeyflo @ Mar 6 2012, 06:31 PM)
I don't think you have much of a choice here. We are not professionals here. You seriously need professional help to overcome this.
I'm pretty sure you are not able to overcome this by yourself, without help from close friends, bf or family somemore. Please please consider going to see a psychologist (not a psychiatrist, you are not crazy and you don't need pills), you just need to do some changes to your cognitive thinking and self control.
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i agree with munkeyflo. i think all you need is talk it out. perhaps you're too bottled up that's all ! all the best to you. i hope you do get over this !
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post Mar 7 2012, 12:07 AM

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Maybe on certain days, u can try wearing see through blouse while shopping. It may give u a certain trill of 'nakedness', it is see through, u will get many stares but it may curb the midnight urges to a certain extent. Maybe once or twice in a month.
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haha if u want 2 let it all go,,,just go sweden...walking naked in the city centre is norm there laugh.gif rclxms.gif

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First time hearing such thingy in our malaysian culture.

Dont worry , there are people are willing to help you.



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gals and guys, I wanted to honestly know your opinion,

Is my fetish is really that 'wrong'? That was what I though initially, but many had told me that they had some weird fetishes too. -it's normal- So instead I should embrace it? -maybe stop doing it outdoors (compromising safety) and find another way to satisfy the urge? For now I randomly chat to strangers online, I cover my face, and show everything to them. Now I'm much safer, but I am still an exhibitionist... Should I stop this fetish? Because I found it really hard you know..
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No it's not wrong, it's not weird. Everyone is different in their own ways. Everyone has some fetishes but most of them are not brave enough to admit it, trying to control it on their own, which may lead to some other mental problems in the future.

If you ask me.. If it doesn't harm anyone, it's fine. As long as you are safe, it doesn't affect your social life or daily stuff, doesn't harm the people around you, then why not? What's wrong with that?

People will call you all sorts of names, they may insult you, some may praise you for your braveness but this is life, we can't please everyone. Even without an uncommon fetish, we still get insulted by others from time to time.

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