I am fairly new here and I do apologize if whatever I will be writing on 'offended' anyone. =)
Hope I am posting it at the right 'section'.
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If you have all noticed, there's a huge increment in the number of 'tomboys' we have nowadays. Back in the years, it is quite obvious that these sort of 'culture' isn't as much obvious as we have right now.

I,myself am a tomboy - and it wasn't until 3-4 years back that I cut my hair short, and dress that way. ( *cough* it's not because I wanted to follow-on the trend but being 'guyish' had always been how I am since a little girl ) Because of the lack of exposure on 'tomboy' trend back those years, I was forced to 'fit in' and hell 'ya, I really don't feel at place.

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However, being a tomboy has put me at some awkward spot ( maybe because it's Malaysia - not countries like Taiwan where tomboys are already considered a 'norm' * i suppose* )

In particular, I get 'looked' at. I don't know if they are staring out of admiration / curiosity / or plain 'confused'
Don't get me started on talking about times where I have to go pee pee in public wash rooms.

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How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
Particularly if you are straight male/female, how do you find or will react noticing tomboys?
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For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?
I know tomboys are usually much more attracted to long-hair fem , and likewise... or the other way round.


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Currently right now, this is what I have ... might start bombing forumers with other of similar questions in case something comes into mind.


terima kasih

This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 2 2011, 03:58 PM

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
....... then nothin, then .......
Particularly if you are straight male/female, how do you find or will react noticing tomboys?
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For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?
nope

@ghuzzy

lol, was* hoping to have a much more in-depth reply.. but thanks for your response too

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edited - type error

This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 2 2011, 04:26 PM

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This post has been edited by bugb34r: Aug 8 2016, 02:30 PM

however, of all the toms I know about are occasionally lesbian.. most but not everyone =) my 2 cents

can a guy give opinion? haha

when i see a tomboy, i don't really give them extra attention or bias, they are just normal person anyway...

what i will pay attention is when a tomboy is with a girl (acting like a couple), especially so when the girl is pretty...what goes through my mind is like "hmmm...why the girl choose a tomboy? no guys court mer? or all the guys who court her also not suit her?"

dun ask me why i think so, it's just reflex (my subconscious)

haha i get what you mean.
but what if the tomboy is very good looking and could pass out as a handsome guy(but still i suppose you can tell she's still a gal) ?

im gonna answer tis one
um yep im more attracted to long hair fem but i did once met a tom that look so cute that i thought
"i don't mind dating her " ...

though I haven't come across a 'real' tomboy that's cute/handsome enough for me to 'think' so.. ( maybe high expectation =P)
kat mana you met,huh ?

somewhere in 7-11 n9. now that i remember back she could pass as handsome too

hi ToshWJ,

b4 adding more of our 2 cents in here ... mind to share the following with us ?

- what motivate u to present these questions here ?
- what would u want to achieve at the end, by having the brain-storming sessions with the forumers from their view points ?

Firstly, as mentioned, I am a tomboy myself, therefore, question posted comes from personal experiences.
is just that at times, when i get 'looked' at , i always wonder what goes in their mind. Obviously I do get awkward. I don't personally mind it if their 'looking' are supposed to be of negative or positive trait ( I respect their personal opinion )..

but it just makes me wonder sometimes.. and even though I have friends to talk about, it always adds up to better view points from a wider coverage of people...

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what will i achieve? better understanding I suppose.. =) .. at least next time, if i do notice people 'looking' at me, i could be more assured that they meant otherwise... or sorts

hope that explains...

well, i don't meant it in anyway to be a brain-storming topic.. lol... <~~brain storming makes you see stars ( haha )
don't have to crack brains to answer... just fairly honest opinions will do ... tehehe

This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 2 2011, 06:47 PM

Haha. Well you may say I'm conservative in some way. But not too conservative la. Even if the tomboy is good looking or caring what not, still i will question like "why choose her instead of a proper guy? Since it's quite hard to see the future in these". Same thing applies to interracial relationship(not vrooming). You can't stop ppl from thinking that way at 1st glance. But overtime, ppl will realize maybe you have actually made the right choice given how you guys care of each other. But of Coz some very feminine gals are lesbian too. In that case, theres really nothing we can say as outsiders.

This post has been edited by cempedaklife: Jun 2 2011, 07:35 PM

well said
with people like you, perhaps the world will be of a better place - not saying its ultimate but at least people won't begin to judge and see what's wrong from right - when in the first place, who are we to say it's neither wrong nor right
-fairly my personal opinion-

kudos

"Acceptance" is a lesson probably we need to learn in our whole life time ..

indeed .. but surely it won't be smooth sailing ..
however, the journey will be worth a 'ride' one way or another..


This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 2 2011, 08:14 PM

I don't really mind. Everyone has their own preference. It doesn't really bother me.
When I see a tomboy in the toilet, I'll just go "oh this person is a she." That's all.

speaking of public washrooms, you suddenly remind me of a particular incident that occur to me.

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In short, there's this one time me and a few friends of mine ( gal ) were about to watch a movie. We entered early, so there we were sitting around chatting away till the movie starts.

Suddenly I had the urge to 'release' and of course, i had always felt much secure to bring along a female friend with me to the toilet ( i suppose it'll make it obvious to the others inside that ' I AM A FEMALE AND I WANT TO PEE!'. )

So as I was heading towards the toilet and about to enter, there outside, stood an uncle... and all the pulak I saw him looking at me .. I am quite sure he initially thought I was a male and why the hell am I walking into the female's toilet.

In the toilet, there pulak , was an auntie with the similar stare ... thankfully there were other tomboys inside Got quickly to finish up my business and we dashed back into the cinema. By that time, the auntie has left!

Back in the cinema ( where the movie's about to start, and the room's already filled ), I and my friend had to walk across a few seats as our seatings are located right in the middle. As I sat, and look to my right, to my wonderfully-astonished-coincidence, I notice that uncle & auntie ( i guess they are husband and wife ) sitting just right next to me . .. yes.both of them noticed it was me .. as how it is obvious i know it was them.


---awkward---


conclusion, requested from my friend to exchange seats.

This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 2 2011, 08:34 PM

Of course in reality, we often are kinda screwed up by the so-called "social-norms" to certain extents ...

But then, ur external looks doesn't really matter, wat really matter is ur *soul* ... the real, inner part of ur true self.

i've seen no less of wat ppl called "tomboy", "les", "gay" ... etc .. who're very sincere to their faith, religion/ spiritual belief, and to everyone around them.

And btw i've a friend or two of many years who're in above groups, but i totally respect them as they really have a kind heart, never do anything to force others no in their same group to follow them, and they never do things that hurt ppl. In addition to that, they're extremely, yes, i mean really, extremely, self-motivated and always look for improvement in various aspects in their working life & personal life, juz like many of others who're not in their group. They're simply awesome souls.

Perhaps, I still have much learn about =D
Having said that, life in itself is an on-going process filled with learning & self-thoughts.

I am in a position where I am fully comfortable on how I am... never ever will I want to go back to days where I was struggling just to 'fit-in'.

However, as certain as we are, no doubt the society we are living in is still heavily governed by so called 'social-norms' perspectives, individuals like 'us' does still find it hard to cope with what the majority thinks or perceives us to be.

But i guess times are changing, more and more people are starting to express themselves more openly.

=D
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before i met my boyf now, i was a p before
even i'm with a guy now, i don't even "look down" or anything to tom
*since my sis is a toms too *

somehow, i dislike those guys or girls said tom is ahgua or whatever.
i think everyone has their own right to be who they are
about the couple case, yeaaa.. guy will always feel waste when they saw a very pretty girl with a tom
cause i believe love is about heart not gender

and also tom's life ain't easy
cause some of their parents don't even agree about this. and even friends


i think i'm not out of topic? LOL

I think basically the older generation still have some problems trying to accept it, they want all females to be wonderful housewives and dress up and act all innocent and girly. Not only that, they want guys to be manly and the head of the house and all that too.

My dad also say if my brother turn gay, he will disown him.

But then, to me, gay/les/bi/transsexual/tomboys characteristics is not something we can control. If a person is that way, then let them be. It's much better than making them be someone they are not just to please others and then regretting it when they grow older.

u tomboy then enter male toilet ah ?

I am thankful that my parents do not question my 'appearance'
I am not too sure though if they might think it's just a phase in time and I'll out-grown it.. oh well..
time will tell

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Added on June 2, 2011, 11:04 pm ai ya

just as how my *sig* imply


This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 2 2011, 11:04 PM

on the toilet incident, i think it's normal la...
give u a counter example, me as guy walk into toilet, if a gal is standing there in front of the mirror, my initial response is of course shocked.
i will look at the girl awhile (maybe exactly the same stare that you get from ppl when u go to the ladies), look around my surrounding to make sure who went to the wrong toilet, me or her

they might stare at you not becoz u r tomboy and they discriminate u..it's just that they are confused, like what i describe


what's p?

This post has been edited by cempedaklife: Jun 3 2011, 12:04 AM

this is a very interesting topic gonna try to answer some of the questions, give 2 cents and whatnot since it's not too often you see questions like these haha

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
- maybe it's because I've been in an all-girls school that's practically /overrun/ with tomboys, I...don't really notice it that much? I mean if the tomboy is cute then sure tengok2 a bit lol but that's about it, it's nothing to be shocked at for me.

Not quite sure what you mean by what do we look in you but I'll assume you're asking about what we see first? Or is it something else you're asking?

what's going through my mind will usually be "I wonder if she likes girls" followed by "I wish I could have that kind of hair style" XD tried going tomboy once, failed miserably.


Particularly if you are straight male/female, how do you find or will react noticing tomboys?
- don't fit either category haha no point in answering


For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?
I know tomboys are usually much more attracted to long-hair fem , and likewise... or the other way round.
- yes? speaking as a long haired femme though, so I wonder if that affects my answer...in any case tomboys are cute to me, but even though initially you might be attracted by looks, in the it's the personality that matters so yeah

This post has been edited by frijae: Jun 3 2011, 01:42 AM

I saw some pretty tomboy
seems good looking and i wonder how they look like if they wear in a very girlish way
and im ok too with a gf who is abit boyish, so i can consider looking for gf like that too

other than that, not much other thinking

I don't care whether a girl is tomboy or not , as long as she is pretty and have nice body

too bad my office have one girl behavior more than a tomboy... laugh rudely... more rude than real boy =.= and her muka mintak penumbuk...
she very panic in everything... or should i say act panic? lolz...
and every small problem she will make it look like BIG problem...
when she talk, it's like whole office ppl also can hear it... decibel high.......

tomboy but still gal ma... don't have the courage yet to step into the male's toilet ( dont think that would be possible because I think I still have my 'female' look in me )..

that similar situation happen to me before oso ada ne.. when I was studying in Australia.
was in the public washroom, then a mommy and her daughter came in ... stood stoned there and begin looking around ...
I just smiled and say .. "you are in the correct place!"

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Added on June 3, 2011, 11:40 amyea.. what's P?
if I am not mistaken, it's a 'thai term' for femme zit ?

This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 3 2011, 11:40 AM

1. How do you all react when you see tomboys?
Stare to make sure if it's a he or she. I just curious, well, when you see someone look more guyish and have a figure of a woman (the hip area), normally my friend will poke the question and ask me to look

2. What do you look in us?
If they try to hard act as guy, I find it disgusting. There is one time I was having a meal at MD and there is a TB in front of me playing with 'his' toenail - somewhere in between the toenails. Gross... Some other times, I found that is the TB that give my straight friends that awkward glare - an unfriendly type. I wonder if they hate real guys.

3. What is particularly going on in your mind?
Nothing. However, I find them exceptional generous and emotional so I prefer not to mix with them. Sorry... There is one time that I have a drink with this plu guy and my another friend me too. That plu guy's face direct turn black. My friend is awkward situation. That plu guy is my colleague and now we stop contact after i quit my job. Suddenly like that and I dunno what the problem either so that why I say they are extremely emo sometimes.

4. Particularly if you are straight male/female, how do you find or will react noticing tomboys?
Refer answer 1. and 2. o_o

This post has been edited by heinlein: Jun 3 2011, 12:06 PM

when was that? how do you mean when you said you failed miserably? trying too hard to look 'boyish'?

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Added on June 3, 2011, 12:26 pm perhaps you may notice our out-of-disposition look .. you know at times as how guys would react when you force them to put heels on... they do try.. but something's not right.. hmp..perhaps.. LOL

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Added on June 3, 2011, 12:31 pm





haha you phrased it out rather hilariously.
i have had the chance to come across this sort of toms * at a 'auntie-age' d*
and yea.. dia punya muka pun minta penumbuk ... with super high decibel too...

come to think about, it fits perfectly to how you're describing her to be


This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 3 2011, 12:31 PM

hmmm, my tom boy colleague age around 29 - 31
still single...

if not because of company i wont deal with her...
cant tahan...

I second that ..
same situation- macam mirror ar

Interesting topic but something I can relate to as I had a gf who is a "tomboy" who is not a lesbian, who is not rough or swears a lot, who smokes while I don't lol, always wear jeans, a bit rocker chick style, would rather die than wear a dress or heels. I think on a scale of 1-10, 1 being very feminine and 10 being the very tomboy, i'd give her a 6.5. Ok now that thats clear, I was perfectly fine with her being a bit of a tomboy.

Now to your questions.

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
Honestly, I don't really notice but when i cannot decide whether the person i'm looking at is a guy or a tomboy i... look at the chest area. heh sorry but thats the easiest way to determine.

Particularly if you are straight male/female, how do you find or will react noticing tomboys?
I think if you're a tomboy but interested in a straight male, I think you shouldn't need to hide your tomboy-ness but rather tone it down a couple of notches depending on how high you scale on the 1-10 scale i used above. If you're 7.5-10 then you will attract lesbian girls. 5-7 tomboys, i think some guys fine them attractive.

For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?
Not for me to answer.

uh!! maybe im in same company with u? lolz

Cheras?

er.. nope.. haha =P
but do tell which part of cheras you at ?

Any Bi here?

Well, sometimes I just can't be bothered what others want to say but I do think, just being comfortable of who you are and as long as you don't do things harming yourself and others then that should be fine.

a good number of "tomboys" in Malaysia think they are because they think they act guyish and dress so ... yet I'm the one who gets flak from the "tomboys" for being TOO guyish. I don't dress like a guy, I dress for comfort, I keep my hair long, have a feminine face ... so why are these "tomboys" biting my head off? Compared to myself, these "tomboys" more often than not appear very girly, have feminine faces that the pageboy haircut does NOT complement, and act very girly emotionally too.

Wannabes.

Being "one of the guys" has NOTHING to do with how you look.


1. I have no reaction to a tomboy unless it's a wannabe, then I just roll my eyes. I don't see anything wrong with it beyond the wannabes. I know some genuine tomboys who are lesbians, fine by me.

2. I don't prefer to be with someone because of how they look like a guy. I prefer to be with someone because I like their personality. Of course, I have to be physically attracted to her, but looks are honestly secondary. I haven't met a girl I'm attracted to because a lot of girls piss me off with their personalities.

Also, you are making a massive generalization that butch is attracted to fem and vice-versa more often than not. There can be double-fem or double-butch relationships, and I've seen them.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Jun 3 2011, 10:24 PM

I dont like lesbo tomboys.. Last time my housemate brought 1 home.. That tomboy is disgusting..d tb brought me to their gathering, they like whatever guys like to do which include having sex with girls..others when they only dress up as a tomboy, im ok with them.

Tomboy ? Lessbian ? Gay ? Shemale ?

I'll only get shocked and surprise by shemales cuz some of them are really very pretty.
Other than that, they are just human like everyone else.
What's so special ? Just bcuz they have short hair with guy's tee ? Or kissing the same gender ?

Unlike shemales, just like when you see a DOG meow-ing, suprise

your attitude is disgusting.

So are you not disgusting?

How is "enjoying having sex with girls" disgusting? Or you just jelly you don't get any.

I just dont get it why they like every single thing that guys like to do from outdoor to indoor.. Btw i dont enjoy having sex with girls.. U girls do? .. Ok maybe im the weird 1 lor hehe

last time my fren and her 'bf' got into an argument then my fren kicked her v-jayjay til black n blue.. Isnt that sick? Why lar say me disgusting.. Sorry i dont mean to offend. Maybe just some lesbos i saw that got me into thinking so. Soli soli

This post has been edited by CathChin: Jun 4 2011, 01:22 PM

I guessed perhaps I may have had phrased my content incorrectly ,or in a way that it plainly confused.
When generally I meant, 'or the other way round', I really do mean the possibilities of a double butch / double-fem relationship is nonetheless possible indeed.

I have many friends of that sort too.

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Added on June 4, 2011, 1:21 pm perhaps...

This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 4 2011, 01:21 PM

I'm a straight female, and i happens to have a tomboy cousin sis which is quite close to me who happens to be not straight. She did have a gf which i dont really agree on of actually as the girl is pretty childish, demanding and materialistic (Just a 18 years old out from school last year).

But if my cousins likes her so much, so nothing can be done but to supportive of her choice. I dont really see much of a problem on one's preference on thier own style or thier choice of partners. I do once in a while look at certain tomboys with, erm well weird fashion sense . Other then that, i dont really particularly stares or look awkward at them. Hey they are humans too, with thier own special needs. Nothing to be weird off or look upon on awkwardly.

yeap, p is femme

sounds like 'you-re in for something'

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This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 5 2011, 10:58 AM

ahh~ hmpp could be ~

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anyhow, it's for you to look into and search within ... no one knows better than yourself

PGRM , nearby there....

O_O
apparently my current office pun dekat sana~~~~~

My answers/opinion,

Q: Reaction to seeing a Tomboy?
A: Oh or Aiyer (reaction depends on how they lookXD. Oh for good looking and Aiyer for not so good looking ones).. a 'TB' (sorry if this 2 letterrs offended you in anyway)...Thats one good looking TB =D or Thats one ugly TB

Q: Whats going on my mind?
A: Wow .. this TB so stylish and more handsome than guys

Well, This is my honest opinion XD... Sometimes Tomboys tend to be more stylish and better looking than average guys. Basiclly theres nothing wrong with Tomboys . Everybody has a different perception. Thats all =D

This post has been edited by rave963: Jun 6 2011, 08:38 PM

+1
"basically nothing wrong with tomboy ... " .. UNLESS they try doing things that hurt others

in general wat u get here are more of how others perceive u..

wat about how u perceive urself ? Isn't that more important ? Remember that no one else would be responsible for ur own precious life but urself.. So don't let others, or, the perception of others to dictate how u're gonna walk along ur life journey..

I think the problem is that a lot of people are always thinking "Well I don't care about what other people think of me, I'm just gonna do what I want!" ... but the world doesn't work like that, unfortunately. What people think of you actually affects your life in many small ways - ESPECIALLY in the career world.

...... I now realised that I'm one of the few odd ones to have never thought anything bout them. Even now, after reading the few posts, I still don't care enough to form an opinion. Their life, their choice, their stigma.

All I cared was to identify their gender, guy or girl, so no males will follow me to toilets. Maybe cos I'm used to them. There's so many, throw a stone and you'll hit one. Is it still that much of a stigma?

sorry have to copy 'rave963' answers/opinion way.it's sound simple and straight.

Q: Reaction to seeing a Tomboy/lesbian?
A:none,get use to it already.i have 2 (elder and 3rd ) sister that tomboy and have gf.in fact mg 3rd sister (kakak kesayangan) like to change gf (like normal guy do,lol).
but i do Hate it when my sister gf call in the middle of nite telling me that "your sister dump me !' or "your sister go dating with someone else'.

okey,some people will say 'shame on your family to have sister's that behaving like this'.people,seriously what exactly you wan me do anyway? they a grow up person,they got their own mind.maybe it's wrong or sin thing to do but religion come to people in different way.i wont disown my sister/family just to make other people happy.

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
Can't help but noticed that most tomboys have beautiful skin. That made me jealous.

Which company you are in?
im located at Pudu Ulu...

Pudu Ulu.... hmp..
I am just around Pandan Indah kat sana

haha... near...

lolz....i'm a straight guy and even i got a bunch of tb frens whom i always hang out........as like TS said wherever u go, ppl catch an eye on you, but in my case im vise versa T_T, ppl keep look at me wondering im a guy or girl cuz im the only male in the group.....seeeeshhh.......

but anyway, tb lesbian gay whatever i'm ok with it as long as their attitude is good to be fren.

funniest thing was i'm single, and thinking bout forever alone, and all of my tb frens are attached with a gf. everytime they got any outings i will b invited and surely will ask me do i mind as if i dont have partner with me. lolx...and ofcoz, i dont mind anyway as long as im happy with myself, this situation....seriously caught alot attention when walking with them on the street.

lolz... wanna lunch together?

Hadn't came in here for quite some time and was surprised to see this topic's title. I think I shall comment here.

Well, I'm a tomboy too. And yes, I'm also a lesbian. Actually I'm not really that tomboy-ish, I just wear whatever I like and feel comfortable in. Anyhow, dresses, skirts and heels are still big no-no's for me since young.



Exactly the same situation I'm facing. High 5. It makes me feel awkward all the time.

I don't get angry easily but for once I got mad when this happened. When I was entering the cinema, this fat Malay guy who was the ticket collector stared at me in a funny way, laughed and asked, "Are you a guy or a girl?". I was quite pissed off when I heard that, but I just pretended that I didn't hear what he said and walked away. I was like, "Can't you see my breasts? Although they're small but still visible okay." Somehow I feel humiliated and I don't know why.

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Oh, and I'm scared of looking at kids in public. Especially those with their parents. When they stare at me with question marks around their head, I'm always worried that they will ask their parents the question "Is this person a 'jie jie' or 'gor gor'?" and their parents don't know how to answer them. In this case, normally I'll quickly walk away to avoid an awkward situation.



When I see tomboys, I usually sense the 'eh-kawan-are-you-one-of-us?' in their stare. Haha. Or maybe it's just me being too perasan.



I've never been attracted to any tomboy so far. (:




This post has been edited by Duckyy: Jun 9 2011, 10:14 PM

I would just guess whether a person is a girl or guy, and if the tomboy is "handsome" I would go "AHHH I WISH SHE'S NOT A TOMBOY". But honestly, there's nothing wrong to be a tomboy so yea, there wouldn't be anything particular going on in my mind I would say.

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?

I'm personally bi and i'm dating one (: However, I think tomboys are alright but butch are pretty much turn-off and.. I wouldn't have any glance for them. Most probably the only reaction i gave them is.. 'oh' and look away. I'm not bias but I personally think that most butch wear follow-by trend especially because they are obsessed with K-pop trend lol.. ( which only happens to age 20+ below i think). However, each respective individual have it's own special features (: I believe that either LGBT or straight, we are all attractive right?

I accept a person who is a les/Bi or tomboys. But I do not agree with the act of liking the same sex people.

How do you all react when you see tomboys?

I don't discriminate tomboys, but I tend to stare a little longer to ensure that they are girls. Some boys look like girls nowadays

What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?

Nothing much actually. We're all humans.

For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?

I'm personally attracted to girls but I don't prefer being with tomboys. However, I feel that there's nothing wrong with being a tomboy. It's your body and life, so do what you want with it. You only live once anyway.

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind? hmm.gif
Particularly if you are straight male/female, how do you find or will react noticing tomboys?
- Just like the trend of guys looking/acting more like girls now, some girls nowadays also look/act like boys... Sometimes it's confusing, but it's fun trying to guess if the particular person passing by is actually a guy/ a girl... I do stared longer at those TB with not-really-good fashion sense, can't blame, it's just my nature.. if it's a TB which dress up well, no problem. I have TB friends, and to be honest, I find talking and socialising with them more fun than the normal girls, more open, less conflicts (since they're not that small gas, and like to create drama). In fact, i find some of them much better "friend" kinda friend than normal girls.. Also no need to feel paiseh in front them, no need "kek" feminine/girlie/gentle. But there are also some TB which annoy me - like to touch me unnecessarily, or get near to me (assuming I like girls just because some of them like girls too). I mean can't just assume that just because we're all girls also no need jaga distance... cus I'm straight ma...

Q1) How do you all react when you see tomboys?
hey i'm one of them...so notin really..sumtimes i even smile at them

Q2)What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
i c bunch of my plu friends

Q3) For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?
for me i still prefer feminine lookin girlz...but if i were to end up with another tb, i dunno how i would react

lesbians are hawt man ....

I have TB friends as well, and they're lesb, but ok for me, just like any other kind of friends i have, no issues.

When i see other TBs, sometimes it cross my mind to wonder if they are straight/lesb, but i think majority of the TBs (short hair kind) are lesb, from my experience, cuz usually they're more boyish as well.

hey,i'm a straight btw.

i ALWAYS wonder....you are a tomboy right,which toilet you go to?F or M?sorry,i don't mean to offend u...but theres one time there was a guy(dress in gurl) came into ladies toilet...and kena the "stare"

tomboys....i just feel kesian.i feel they are missing out the best part of life...being cared and treated as a lady by guys.being wife and having real own children!
don't you ever want to have your own children??...sorry,not trying to offend you,i'm asking all tomboys in general

as for me, i go 2 female bathroom...
evntho i'm tb, it still doesn't chg the fact dat i'm a girl

perhaps ... LOL
pun boleh ~

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Added on June 17, 2011, 10:19 amfemale toilet ..


ngapa nak kesian about ?
as for me, perhaps I grew up from a 'harsh' family background .. and therefore learnt to be independent comes what may..
i don't think gender plays a great deal to determining who cared more/ cared less.. if it's a healthy relationship, both party no matter what the gender will get the equal share of care from one another

Children ar... maybe I tak really suka children la.. love to play with them when they are cute .. but as most of the time, have to endure their 'noisy' part, i can't tahan de ..



This post has been edited by ToshWJ: Jun 17 2011, 10:19 AM

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?

Last time when I see a tomboy, I'll have no reaction. They are just people being who they want to be
But when I see a really handsome one I'll go "whoa" inside my heart, as in amazed with their looks, nothing more.

And then I didn't know cute tomboy exist until I know one. I thought all tomboy very manly and cool.
When I first knew her like a year ago, got no reaction cuz from appearance, look like a cool tomboy
But when I get to know her more~ omg! "wanna hang out after this?"
But we are just friends^^ *cough* because i like her sis more *cough*

If I see a tomboy in toilet, especially those really look like guys, the only thing that runs in my mind is I hope there is no little kids.
They might mistakenly say "why got guys in girls toilet wan?"
Because when I was 12 I had this really short hair, wearing jeans and shirt and when I entered the toilet, there's this little girl asking that out loud T_T
But her mum corrected her quickly saying "this is jie jie lai de"
I gave her a smile and enter the toilet.. so paiseh



For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?
Last time maybe not, but after knowing the world more and more, why not?

Not bad too. Mind to be friend?? I dun have any tomboy fren la. Hehehehe...

I'm a lesbian and I can answer this question for you. No one can predict what's coming on future. Children = family. Everyone sure wants a happy family. For now, science is so advance and having a child by test tube it can be done. Being with someone you love have no boundaries. What I'm trying to say is... when you love someone, you just love them and to have a family and child things can be done in different way. A family with husband,wife and child doesn't really give you 100% security and guarantee that family would work things out smooth sail. This might sound naive and yes, our country society might not be able to accept all these yet. But, which relationship doesn't start from being naive? If it doesn't, it never was love. It was just a calculation of in relationship for better future. That's what I think.

P/s: This was never meant to offend anyone. It's a POV.

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind? hmm.gif
Particularly if you are straight male/female, how do you find or will react noticing tomboys?

This post is interesting to me. I'm not straight, so I can't answer this question for you. Let me share my opinions though. Since I am a lesbian myself and more to being a tomboy, added with the fact that I don't have much homo friends, whenever I see an *authentic* tomboy I'll feel like "yeah-i-spot-my-distant-buddy"

what do i mean by authentic? my definition simply applies to tbs who are not showy & flashy with their clothing, with that smug look smack on their face. it's like they're just being tbs because it's trendy.
I'm just a casual t-shirt and jeans person, short, simple hair, nothing too fancy. and i try not to define myself with only the word "tomboy".


For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?

not necessarily all the time. The few lesbians, long-haired femme I know actually prefer femme.
but then I do know that tbs can 'convert' straight girls real personal experience.

in the end, regardless of whether you're a butch or femme, guy or girl, it just all boils down to one thing: feelings.

@ ToshWJ, jezz12, Duckyy: if you don't mind, I'm interested to know you peeps better. I'm lacking friends in the "same-buddy" department, so if you guys are up for it, do PM me.

hmmm for me.... tomboy that can attract my eye is usually quite good looking... then i always remembered one of my boy's friend told me that : why those tom boy taking our " fan wan"... cos most of the tom boy i saw last time is even better looking than those boy... they r so jealous with those tom boy... hahaha

and some time... i just look at them judge them like a boy... nothing weird...

dont fight the nature just go with with it...just be girl lol....lots of man out there to be explore


the reason man jealous about this tomboy sometimes their girl so pretty lol...

This post has been edited by quadice: Jun 28 2011, 03:47 PM

Ok.. i shall response to this question..
Background : Im actually a tomboy & les. But wear normal, shirt+jeans+black frame spec+ short hair. But i rather have visible size breast..

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
When i see tomboy around, seriously i will be shy, i duno why.. may be because we are the same kind.. and i will see any girl beside the tb..


For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?
i think this question must leave it to the girls , but i think they prefer lo.. not sure.. ned to check with them.
but i have 2 ex-gf last time, both of them look girl girl.. so let it to u to judge.

anyway, TS, we can be friends too..

Hi ToshWJ, Just don't care what people talking and looking about you..just be urself..U accept urself, people only will accept u..
Said seriously, I have a lot of TB/lesbian friends (they are not same gang friends). While I'm so closed with them, even can sleep a bed together, cause i think 'Love has no boundary, it doesn't discriminate with age, color or sex...'
Malaysia not open-minded like western coutries or even though China & Taiwan can accept homesexual marriage.
Please tahan cause here is muslim country~
One more thing, my cousin also TB and Lesbian...me and her sis support her when we are known. And now..her parents also accept her sex orientation.. ^^
Once a day, u can be same as her~~add oil~~

yes.. totally agree...

same as munkeyflo's reply...
no bias nor any discrimination... I can accept & respect the differences & the preferences...

My ex was a tomboy too... i think she's a beautiful & special lady too.. it's kinda cool to have someone that shares many hobbies with you... hardcore gaming, photography, sports...

peace~

How do you all react when you see tomboys? What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?
Particularly if you are straight male/female, how do you find or will react noticing tomboys?
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"Oh Tom Boy" ...

If leng lui/zai - Leng wo.... too bad she is tom boy.. if a girl sure many guys kacau. But I also Tomboy..

For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?
I know tomboys are usually much more attracted to long-hair fem , and likewise... or the other way round.
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hmmm... donno .. never got tomboy tackle me

This post has been edited by Strawberry<3: Jul 6 2011, 06:59 PM

Haha... are u still single ??

hey hey what r u?tommy?or lady?

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Added on July 11, 2011, 10:53 amToshWJ, how old r u?
working?

This post has been edited by jezz12: Jul 11 2011, 10:53 AM

I was a tomboy back in school (same sex school) and i have couple with girls when i was a tomboy, but then i still atracted to guys at that time my clique mostly were Pengkid(i dun know if u called it tomboy in this thread but pengkid is a lesbian version of tomboys..). As i moved to a different school i've changed and couple with guys, but up until now somehow there's slight tomboyish me even though i wear dressess and heels hahaha~ but no one can even guess that i was a tomboy =P maybe i've changed sOOooOOo much!!

So TS questions:



How do you all react when you see tomboys?

Nothing i guess,i would smile if they looked at me,and for me its really easy to spot them since i have the "background". Sometimes they reminds me of my old times..my dark ages i guess =P


What do you look in us? What is particularly going on in your mind?

Your face, girls beside you..sometimes i wud compliment them for their cuteness..and for those pretty gurls standing beside them =P But if i see a a very old looking tomboy i wud feel pity for them because they seems like they lost somewhere..i dunno maybe because i can change so i thought they can too,just that it is not easy ryte..but hey i like to be friends with them =) they are really good as a friends.

For girls who are attracted to girls, would you prefer being together with tomboys?

Yeah why not..but then not until i get older la..maybe for experience..i never tried couple with tomboy since i've change..but there are tomboys that ask me to be their couples back when i was a tomboy myself....but i rejected it..

in my opinion, tomboys are the property of their respective privileges depends on the person ...
I am a straight female, but I do not despise any of these individuals .. as there are individuals among my family and my friends ..
but we must return to our true self-creation, even behavior we do not like other girls ....
because we are made by ​​beautiful creatures ...