Hi parents!

Just wanted to ask if any of you co-sleep with your baby. If yes, for how long?

As for me, I started to co-sleep when my son was about 1 month plus. Someone gave us this 'sleeper' which is a little bed where you can place on your bed in between. I totally found it useful as I didn't have to worry that we may roll over the baby and I don't need to get up every time just to check if he's breathing (i was totally worried about SIDS)

Another reason i co-sleep is because i breastfeed..thus..I dont' need to disturb my sleep and still get enough winks.

My son is now 1.5 yr old and still co-sleep with us (as I'm still breastfeeding). I did suggest to my hb if we should start letting my son sleep on his own bed but hb said he likes having his son sleep next to him.

Do i worry if he doesn't want to sleep on his own? I do..but i think i should enjoy these moments as I'm very sure when he's a teenager..he doesn't want us near him...and would want his own space

yes, i co-sleep too and i love it.

If my baby is having a rough time waking up due to discomfort or hunger or anything, i am there to attend to him immediately, while hubby runs down to get milk/diapers/etc... my baby is now 12months

earlier hubby used to sleep separately so that baby and I can have our space on the bed. Later on we got a single bed, and put it next to our queen size bed and now we have ample of space for the 3 of us.. we dont mind co-sleeping till our son is 3 or 4 yrs old.. there will be a time when he would want his own room and stuff

we all sleep on the floor...removed the bed cos there was a newspaper report that a kid fell off his bed while sleeping and passed away...paranoid....
a single bed + a king bed, my elder daugther(3yrs old going 4yrs old), my younger daugther(2yrs old going 3), and us...

lol understand your concern.. thats why we have 2 pillows for footboard protection & 1 thin mattress on the floor beside the bed... however only concerned when son sleeping alone while we watch tv downstairs..

qarezma..yes..especially if baby is sick.

Ijnek..kekeke..so 4 of you on the mattress .

Hmmm...maybe I should think about that too...currently, at times, hb and I have to sleep at the edge of the bed if son takes the whole space

it would be a good investment, cos eventually when your kid gets his own room, u can move the single bed to their room..

my son takes a lot of space to sleep.. moves around like at war... and it gives some space for hubby and i to ahem ahem...

move a lot?
LoL...
my younger girl moves like the clock arms, 1 moment she's there, the nex she's at another position

we co sleep too since bb 2 weeks old till now 19 mths, remove the divan, mattress on the floor, worry bb fall off the bed.

my son doesn't move alot but he sleeps horizontally..hence hb and I sleeping at the edge. No matter how we would place in vertically..he would end up horizontally.

My younger brother has been sleeping together with my mum and dad on the same bed until last year. He has just turned 13 years old and starting to sleep on his own.

oooo...really ar? hmmm....qarezma & ijnek..what do you say on this? LOL!

munkeyflo..why suddenly sleep on his own liao?kekekekeke..

oh no.. cannot la.. i expect once kids go to kindergarten should start sleeping on their own la...

hahahhaha!

We co-sleep too. When she's hungry just pop boobs

we co-sleep too... coz like u, bf n nurse to sleep... i know he couldn't sleep on his own... he needs human pacifier to sleep... he even rejects plastic pacifier... should i b happy or sad? we have a small bed for him at the side against the wall... plus we've line the wall wif some soft toys so he won't feel the cold wall... our bed is higher than his... again dun have to worry abt him falling... n plenty of space to "play" around... sometimes if i remember/not too tired/din fall asleep/ we wanna "play", then i move him to his bed when he's fast asleep...

hehehe..my son used to take the pacifier..but when he reached 1 yr plus..he totally rejected it.. dunno why..so now i'm a human pacifier. since we co-sleep and he's much bigger now..he'll wake up and look for his 'pacifier' on his own.

well..if we want to 'play', it will have to be outside the room as we are afraid he may wake up..kekeke.

We all have been encouraging him to sleep by himself but he was 'too afraid of the dark' and all sorts.
My parents even put another single bed in their masterbed room cause obviously he's growing bigger and can't fit all three of them on the bed. So for the first few days he slept on the other single bed by himself. But soon, he climb over to my parents' bed in the middle of the night. So after a few months, it became my dad who was sleeping on the single bed and my mum and my brother on the other bigger bed.

I guess he's starting to grow bigger and realise he needs to sleep on his own? lol.
For me, I still sleep with my parents in the same room, but on the floor until I reach 5 years old. Then I started sleeping in my own room till now. I wouldn't want my child to cling onto me at night until he reaches 13 years old.

hahahaha!! Now I'm worried...kekekeek..must let my hb know

munkeyflo - maybe something with the upbringing, are the parents the type to encourage the boy to be on his own, or always very protective?

nicKit - i gave pacifier to my baby last time becos he used me as one. After that he cannot sleep without pacifier till he was 1yo... but right before his first bday, i weaned him off! so proud of that

qarezma, good for u~! we tried to wean him off when he was 3 weeks old... tried the cry it out method... end up kenot bear to c him cry his heart out when he's so young... i myself co-sleep until 14 yrs old... coz no room for me...

I can't stand the Cry It Out (CIO) method. The only time i use CIO is when my son is being naughty - crying for nothing..want me to carry him when i'm busy doing my housework/ cooking. That's another story lar.

For sleeping..i never use CIO...cannot tahan.

dont use the CIO method... its quite mean for the baby
i guess u need to take baby steps lor... include singing in his bedtime.. then slowly one day try to carry & sing him to sleep... then one day take the pacifier out... trial and error mostly

The best part of co-sleeping is when they snuggle up to you..right?

Unless they are already 13 yo..then it's a nuisance LOL

The best part about co-sleeping is when I snuggle the baby and get snuggled from behind as well.. muahahahah

qarezma, singing? nope won't work... he'll b happier n more energetic coz he tot we're toking to him at the meantime i just luv him being close to me... coz now he's still a baby... i can do watever i want *evil laugh* when he's older he'll rebel liao...

phythia, syd, snuggle ar? mana ade? if he's fast asleep his two arms will b wide open... basically conquered most of my side of the bed... i or baby sleep at the edge of the bed coz change side bf... of coz i'll put a big bolster to prevent him from falling to his own bed due to unbalanced height...

i had a difficult time with singing oso... from the time baby was born, his father used to sing ABCD to him and he'll sleep. But whenever i try to sing to him, i get a blank 'whats wrong wit u' stare.. i used to feel so bad...

but i continued singing.. whatever sleeping chance i get.. and now he sleeps with my song

once he starts turning he will roll towards u and u can snuggle... hehe...

heheeh..yes..like qarezma said..he will roll towards you and snuggle..very nice..even hubby's heart will melt whenever my son does it. coz most of the time he snuggles next to me only.

i used to sing my babies to sleep...now they prefer me to shut up...LoL

when i 'play' with my wife, it's blanket to the recuse

Haha I guess so to. Cause he's the youngest and only son in the family. He's kinda spoiled and everything also scared this scared that. Also very conscious of himself being embarrassed, very timid, not adventurous and stuff.

I assume my parents brought me up the same way as they brought him up but dunno why he's like totally opposite of me. lol.

Yes, i m being my son's natural "barrier". My son (one and half year) likes to sleep in bed by various position.

So, i am his "fence"..

qarezma, phythia, snuggle up i assume the baby is in the middle la?ur hbs not jealous ka? i just sang abc... but he just want to suck

My son sleeps in the middle. Hb not jealous. Most of the times I fall asleep while making my son sleep . If we want couple time...then it would be in the hall.

If my son is awake..he is the one jealous...wont let my hb to hold or hug me.

My baby sleeps on our bed since he was few months old till now. But I gave up the bed for him recently.. why?

Cause every night I got attacked by him. Tiba tiba kena sepak. On my head. On my eyes. I cannot sleep well. Now I am sleeping on the floor with extra tilam. At least get better sleep.

This post has been edited by auhckw: Feb 14 2011, 11:36 PM

Nickit...I used to sing twinkle twinkle little stars, are you sleeping and rock-a-bye baby. Some times I fall asleep first while singing lol!

auhckw, i oso kena attack at nite when he wakes up...

phythia, qarezma, u guys sing non-stop n repeat until either of u asleep?

i used to sing till they r asleep...

twinkle twinkle little stars, ABC,chinese version-twinkle twinkle little star,当我们都在一起 repeat again

Nickit..yes..sing non-stop. Alternatively..record your singing . That's what my hubby did..recorded my voice singing..when I had my girls night out

Wookie, that's a bit freaky for me to hear. 13 years of age and only started to sleep on his own? WOW! Is there any special reason behind this?

Regards, Joey

Erm, don't think there's any special reason other than his personality which is very timid and afraid of almost everything. Shy, not adventurous, stuff like that..

We co-sleep too but no longer breastfeed.

King size bed with my hb and me on either side and he is in between us. Some times, I will carry him and let him sleep on my tummy.

He sleeps soundly like this but at 1.5 years old, if it is up to me, I think I might want him to be a little independent, sleep on his own OCCASSIONALLY so he gets to break the habit when the time comes. Up to inidividual.

baby on my right, hubby on my left... i snuggle to baby, hubby snuggle to me

if my son sees me and hubby hugging or kissing, he gets super happy and crawls or walks towards us to join the fun, if on the bed, he will just climb in between us


awww i get it too.. kicks, slaps and also head bangs... funny thing the little fella never feels any pain.. LOL


sing lor... sometimes i get creative and sing my own version of song for him, sometimes sing with different voice or intonation.. be creative
yr baby's habit cannot change overnight... so give him some time.. first sing while he is sucking... continue that and slowly try to remove the sucking and just sing... maybe rock him also

merchant, u put baby tummy to tummy is it?

qarezma, i've been nursing side by side since birth... so i think he's used to it already... i've tried feeding n holding him in cradle position then tried to put on his bed... dun want... woke up the minute i put him down... yesterday i tried singing again... he gave me this i want quiet pls kind of sound... but i'm getting worried if it's going to b hard to wean of this nursing side by side...

haiz dont tension.. u try what u can, your baby is still young, u got time to try and try till u get it... as i said, they wont change over night... we parents need to be patient..

qarezma, no tension la... luv the way baby now... yesterday me n hb just said... another few more yrs we'll miss hugging his small body against ours i was hoping he'll wean on his own

Yeap, that's right. Tummy to tummy sleep. We stopped BF so only given formula now. Sleeping time is some times in between parents. Otherwise, on my tummy.

mummies n daddies, u guys put any mattress protection when co sleep?

He wears diapers to bed, so shouldn't wet our bed.

But we put extra tilam around the bed after he fell down twice middle of the night. He likes to sit up and then change position in his middle of sleep. Lucky our bed is not high but it sure is still pain and loud when he fell down.

my baby sleeps towards the wall, and mummy & daddy protect his other side.

When we leave him to sleep alone while we are downstairs, we keep a thin mattress on the floor, just in case

my parents in-law disallow me to sleep me my daughter,they said me & my hubby might suffocate her when we are asleep.but yet,i ignore them because so far i sleep with her beside me i never once sleep on top of her..

the way NBs sleep (wake up every hour almost) i doubt we can sleep so tight to sleep over them.. lol

I let my newborn sleep in his baby cot for abt 3 weeks...now that he is bigger and has develop sleeping pattern (he can sleep straight 4-5 hours)..I let him sleep on the bed

+1

Wow I must be an exception. My daughter never co-sleeps with me. Since birth she sleeps in a cot next to my bed. When breastfeeding, I carry her to a chair, breastfeed her and then put her to bed. I also train her not to have milk between 12 to 6 am. My mother's training inherited by me I guess.