i had a bad experience with CL and hopefully my next baby i dont need to hire anyone.

1st Lady (Kepong)- paid booking rm500 and waited, 2-3 days before Deliver call her inform. On the day itself she told me mom not well in Sabah and may need assist her bro, so delay 2 days.

2nd lady - temp replacement for 1st lady works ok but only for 3 days as 1st lady will back. After 3 days 1st lady came 1/2 hour and says mom critical and need back Sabah....

In real a check with other CL her mom dead long time liow and this lady likes to give all sort of excuses. Suspect she got better offer...
These lady is a Chinese Indon and no I.C. according to others CL.

3rd lady - from internet a confinement center in Seri Petaling.
As it was last minute so no choice have to take any and pray hard it goes smooth.

Bad: She is lazy, mumble a lot (talk loudly), dirty in the way she cleans the food, baby and wife things and worst she scolded my wife when ask her something. She keep on says 'its like that one, dont show me yur attitude'

Immediately sent her back and paid whats due....

Hi, my mom is a confinement lady with over 20 years of midwife experience in a private hospital.
She's willing to travel. Experienced in mother and baby care and able to adapt her cooking to your preference.

If you are interested, you can contact me at likim.ganAgmail.com (replace A with @).

Sound familiar experience, not sure if it was the same CL - named Sister Y***. in 60s, 5 ft plus, curly color short hair, age 66 (2001). color her fingers, claim she is from kepong or kajang (may be is her BS), from one of the famous CL agency.
- refused to sleep in the same room with baby & mom (No.1 rule to fire the CL)
- refused to follow instruction to cook meal as per request
- dirty, talk too much, talk nonsense, ask for more $$
- no 1. in the fire list, no no.

This post has been edited by ekokmle: Jun 29 2011, 10:58 PM

can i know the name

Guys...please share the CL name as you will help fellow forumers to avoid using the same useless Confinement Lady.

My wife just gave birth last Wednesday and we got a confinement lady recommended by my aunt....althought I wouldn't call it a disaster, but she did a few things that really pissed me and my wife off..From this experience, I concluded that we should always research and interview the Confinement lady prior to confirming her. A lot of these confinement ladies are not educated, from kampung and take pride in their YEARS of experience (YET some don't even know what the heck is sterilization before putting anything to baby's mouth!)

Her name is Mei Juan and she's from Segamat, Johor , in her 30s+ and charges RM3500 excluding ang pow. Sigh, don't know why my aunt recommend her...must be a friend or her friends I guess..silly me to simply accept without screening. I talked to her on the first day and she told me that she has not gone to school before and it was her first time coming to KL...and her previous experiences on the job is at Johor and Singapore. She also said she hates doing confinement for Singaporians because they're very particular...(In my heart I was like, I'm going to have the same expectation as the singaporian)


1. She likes to hold our baby with one hand, then use the other hand to hold the hot flask and make milk. We suspected that she accidentally pour a bit of hot water on her legs as our baby suddenly cried so loud but we when questioned her, she said it's the hot milk bottle that accidentally touched her. Once we saw her holding our baby to the kitchen to stir the food that she was cooking!!

2. Keep feeding baby with water although my wife breast feeds our baby. Our baby has jaundice (420+) and after the phototherapy, the doctor told us that we should keep feeding baby with breast milk and let her pass motion...but the confinement lady kept giving water to our baby which fills up our baby's stomach...
somemore when our baby was looking really yellow, the CL kept said it's normal...must bath the baby in yellow water (something that they sell in the chinese medicine shop) and drink more plain water.

3. She bought a white powder and wanted to feed our baby on the day 2. I asked her what's that and she said it's to prevent angin or colic. Then I saw her taking an unsterilized spoon and she mixed the powder with water with her fingers!! What the hell man....Tried to stop her but when it was too late when I realized she did that...

4. Cook something called "Huang Jiang Ji"...not sure what is that but sure looks like curry chicken to me! and it's damn spicy.....can someone in confinement eat super spicy stuff? Please correct me if my understanding is wrong......new papa here..

5. Didn't wash the milk bottle properly after each use...when I open up the bottle I could still smell milk in there....so end up I have to wash it again...

6. My wife has been pumping and storing breast milk, and it's not easy task and every ounce is precious...then everytime she will tell us to heat up an amount that our baby cannot finish! We knew that our baby can only drink 2 ounces, and if sometimes when she's really hungry, we will top up abit by making 1 ounce of formula milk because we didn't have enough breast milk back then...now as the breast milk production increases, we store more ounces and the confinement lady asked us to use up everything in one storage....and if baby cannot finish it, she said put back the bottle in the fridge!! Can we keep back "contaminated" milk in the fridge for later consumption?


Having said that, generally she's quite a nice person and helpful....but I guess she's used to doing things with her methods she used in kampung which I find it quite unacceptable (especially putting unsterilized spoon into her mouth on baby's 2nd day after birth) ....We're counting down to her last day and we'll bid her good bye!
When we have our 2nd child, we will not use any more confinement lady...better I gao dim myself since I'm used to doing house chores anyway!

This post has been edited by justin_nys: Oct 8 2011, 11:21 AM

U paid 3500 for tat lousy CL? My aunt charge 3300 & she has > 15yrs experience. Better tell my aunt to raise her fees

yes unfortunately...Years of experience is imortant but that's not everything..what's more important is the CL's personality,attitude and ability to communicate to set the right expectation with the customer...not just doing things with pride because it's the "BEST" way or that's "MY" WAY while playing dumb thinking they know everything

i agreed with wat you say. after all it's your child & not CL's baby.

i want to think my aunt is good & she's highly sought after. after all if she's not good, some of her customers won't hire her for their 2nd & 3rd child for 2mths

This post has been edited by scoop7: Oct 9 2011, 10:52 PM

If people are going back to her for the 2nd and 3rd child, she must be damn good!

I have a bad experience also with the CL. I have pre-booked her and pay a deposits of RM700 to her 6 months ago to secure her services. End up she called my wife up this morning to tell her that she have another confinement this January 2012. I was like WTF, i have pre-booked her 6 months ago and pay her deposits and now she tell me that she got another confinement service in January 2012. Btw my wife is due this month on the 21st Dec 2011.

I was like starting to curse her like hell (in my mind lar of course). How irresponsible this lady is ??? Now I'm searching high and low to have a replacement for the CL. Do you guys have any recommendations ??

BEWARE of this CL name MADAM LOH 016-3150498. She is from Ipoh and she usually hang around at this hotel YH at Jalan Alor.

How abt ur deposit refundable?

We have been calling this lady up since this morning but to no avail. I think she switch off her phone. I'm trying to get my introducer to help me to settle this. Finger cross that I might still able to get my deposit back.

how irresponsible and I can imagine how much inconvenience she has caused you and your wife....well look at the bright side, if she's irresponsible and can do this to you, what else she will do to your precious baby? hope you can get back your deposit....

I suggest TS to compile a list of recommended and blacklisted confinement lady on the first post for easy reference...

hearing of all these, it makes me fortunate that i've got my parents n in laws to swap places overtime when they needed break of taking care my baby.

Mine CF also from ipoh. Gave deposit RM700 also, but she had agreed guaranteed replacement and contract agreement was signed upon. However she can't make it due to sick,but had help me find her friend for replacement. Just hope is a good one.

My wife due anytime this month, now is 38 wks.

may give mrs chow a try from Subang jaya 0129318856 .

My friend dont have LYN's account, and asked me to post her experience here..
Hope it will help member who want CL that support breastfeed...


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Thanks to yivoon's post, i have managed to find a CL that support breastfeeding.
As everyone know, 9 out of 10 CL out there prefer to feed formula, as their job will be easier.

Food
- When she first arrived, she will open up my cabinets and take out everything that she need. Organized everything and list out a shopping list for my mother in-law.
- She cooked for myself, husband, mother in-law and maid. Mother in-law will do the shopping and help her with cooking. I am not a picky eaters, as long as its not the same dishes everyday then i am happy.

Baby
- My baby has a bit of jaundice and we rented the machine for photo light therapy. She has experiences with the machine, and know how to comfort the crying baby. It was such a pain watching baby crying inside..
- She would bring the baby for me to breastfeed every few hours. After initial few days, my nipples started to sore... I cant bf my baby directly, and we need to hand expressed the milk (electrical pump also hurt my nipple) .. She even helped me to massage and hand expressed at midnight~
- For once, i did think about giving up bf, I have even asked my husband to buy formula. But CL insist that I could continue bf even the formula was just sitting on the kitchen's table.. For others CL, i believe they would have used formula...
- She won't use any bpa bottle that is more than 6 months old. She suggested me to use brand new bpa-free bottle + pre-sterilized BM storage bag.
- BM bottle/bag would be put inside a container and store inside the fridge.
- All my breast pump tools are washed & sterilized by her. Basically i only need to sit down and express, once done just get back to rest.
- She would let my older child drink my used/unfinished BM or throw it away..

If you are interested to get her contact, please email me at with the subject line " Confinement Lady ", then my gmail should automatically reply you with the CL contact number. If you didnt get any reply after 30 mins, then send me another email. I will reply it myself, but it might take sometimes as its my secondary email for forum.

Note:
Here are some of my extra "collections" after 2 weeks of hard works
I dont think i can achieve this without the continuous support of this CL....




*Cant organize nicely because my fridge


Source: http://www.malaysiabrides.com/forum/index....post__p__391286

This post has been edited by seesawseen2k: Jan 7 2012, 12:12 AM

I am yivoon in the other forum. your friend is WONG right?

glad he and his wife enjoy the CL.

My confinement lady charging me RM3.5k for 30 days. Is that the standard price now or will it be too expensive?

Hi Yvonne, can you please PM me the confinement lady details? I have tried to email you as well - dollylim@live.com.my

Thanks!!!!