I'd like to contribute to cupid's corner since most of my time is spent here. Intend to write a 101 guide to love & relationships for guys with slight motivation to try for a 'pinned up thread'.


Intro

Love and courtship is such a bi**h. Since teenage years, I had been flabbergasted, why we don't have a manual on how to chase girls and why are they reacting so differently than we expected them to be?

In a full cycle, I had crushes with the fairer sex, right up to tertiary life and working life, love didn't come easily as I seen in other guys. Among my thoughts are, "he and his girlfriend are so together and loving", "why am I being alone, I had tried to chase this girl and she didn't respond", even to the extend of receiving "let's be friends" reply etc.


Credits: Tetsuhighrose's Daily LI. Will ask his permission soon.

Today, I came to provide the conclusive answer:

YOU HAVE NOT INITIATED THE "SPARK" NEEDED TO START THE RELATIONSHIP AND YOU HAVE TO HAVE THE "RIGHT" CRITERIA TO BEGIN/PROGRESS WITH


Guide-made-easy


I'd may be generalizing but put this in your mind:
1. Life is unfair to begin with. There are rich people and there are the poor, it's not fair for all and inequality exists.

2. There are no single fix-it-all pick up line to get the girl that you want.

3. Most of men aren't auto born with charm/know-it all on how to get girls, all had started at somewhere at some time and space at different condition.

4. Men and woman think differently. Given a catalogue of Triumph underclothings, men tend to look at the models external features like breast, facial looks. Women would notice on the undergarments, the patterns, the emotion of the models and spots the accessories like earring/necklaces/braces.

5. You can get any girl you want, you are the initiator, to do things first. Adam was created before Eve. However, there is no perfect guarantee on her to have the same depth of with you as you both progress.


Before I continue on, I place these as excellent read up threads.

A. 5 Ways to Let a Girl Know You're Interested In Her, with none of this "confessing" nonsense (n00b13)
http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=1111256
B. Enough Whining Already, THIS is why you fail (spunkberry)
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1601822
C. How to get the girl you want!, Yes, the secret is here (silverhawk)
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/991149


Rule of thumb:

* What are you looking for? A girl or wife or without any strings attached affair? Know your aim before you get started.

* Being nice is not good, but being a gentleman with charm and grace is good.

* Make the eye contact, smile if you must and start approach. You fail to approach, then that's it, you had failed to spark anything. Same thing applies if you took too long/cowardly don't dare to go near to talk or to establish physical proximity. The ladies love a man who will move forward and progress, not a shy boy.


Credits: Tetsuhighrose's Daily LI. Will ask his permission soon.

* Okay, this is the time you read on the ABC thread, good quality threads My add on, the general example.

I meet a lady at (anywhere suitable). We had eye contact, exchange smiles and I approach her. Breaking the ice, hi whatever and (this is where your creativity/social prowess should shine, a light hearted joke would work wonders).

Part ways and ask for her numbers/email or fb address. Some of the "seducer community members" recommend all these actions should be less than 5 minutes, from meeting to getting contacts. No doubt you may be scared but if you don't approach, you will lose the chance for life.

Chat, socialize and initiate the meet up. The meet up can be in a light manner, such as getting to know you more over tea/coffee or attend social events/doing something.

This is where spunkberry's thread will help you, being nice is unattractive enough. Present yourself well, have a standard of your own, read more in silverhawk's thread. Physical contact is another hurdle like the first time you try and approach this girl, mentioned in n00b13's thread. Humans bond with each other socially with physical contact. Avoid mundane topics and it's not necessary detail your work to extremely fine detail. You can be daring with the topics itself.

* During this whole process, it's better not to "submit" easily to the girl with CONFESSING (more in n00b13's thread). It's too early to do so, remember we love some challenges and value of an item depreciates if it was too easily attained. So, know your own market well!


Ending


Each female is uniquely different. There is no single direct "cure" for everything. Should you follow this guide and the lady responds coldly to you, it could mean that you appear as too pushy, uninteresting or too rushy. Being calm, confident, charming and unperturbed is the best.

She might be having a rough day like being fired from boss, having premenstrual aches and many other possible reasons. Keep on trying with more woman and improve on yourself each time, be positive with it and go easy.

That's the end of this guide, with , SwooshY.


Comments/constructive flames are welcomed, with some edits . Errors/misconception made in this thread is sincerely regretted. If this appear as blogging then I accept the decison of this thread to be closed by baronic/other mods

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This post has been edited by SwooshY: Nov 15 2010, 11:42 AM

Spunk, Silver, and n00b13's pride are swelling over 9000 now LOL.

yeah later one will come up with

Sun Tzu Art of War - The Way of Winning Laid Love

This post has been edited by PrinceHamsap: Nov 14 2010, 10:13 AM

This...

+9100 to you for that.hahahah

Actually both men and women think the same but in different context...

Both men and women look at it from "which type of girl/guy benefits me more"...

Just that they both have different objectives... For a guy, the objective is to hump, dump & run... For a girl, the objective is to establish a higher status among her peeps...

This post has been edited by Flaming_lion: Nov 19 2010, 07:17 PM

Oh wai.. There is Sun Tzu Art of War, Book for dummies and so on

Both genders have specific needs in their lives

superb job~ i see quality in what u write and no doubt, very experienced~ in my opinion, compile some constructive views that u goes with what u think is right~

1 opinion from me though... u're right in naming it 'baby guide' because in my opinion... as time goes, u'll notice that all these 'rules' do not apply anymore after a certain stage~

lol, deadlocks, u always say the most blunt and funniest things~

p.s.: hey Hamsap prince, why not start one Art of "Laid"ing~ i support!~ v

thanks!

I think your comment is the first constructive one, it's a gold nugget from you. After certain stage you become the long term material, hopefully. It's just the starting out and first impression that's rough for all

Guess this post will be the collection of constructive opinion post

This post has been edited by SwooshY: Nov 14 2010, 10:55 PM

So many words but will it work?

Even though I agree with the overall message of your post, I have to disagree that women are the fairer sex. It's true that women are more gentle and less aggressive than men, but I believe that men are the fairer sex because they sacrifice so much for women. When women ask for a nice dinner during a date, they get nice dinner. When women ask the man to service her car, she gets her car serviced, and don't even ask her to pay back the cost.

So salute to all the good men out there. Keep up the good work

Fail english. Thread starter is an old man, using old rare english words that oledi expired.

"The fairer sex" refers to women being more attractive, more pleasant to look at, than men. It's a form of flattery from centuries ago.
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/2038851
Why are Women called the fairer sex? I mean where does that saying come from?

This post has been edited by Love6: Nov 19 2010, 07:10 PM

read my thread more, you might pick up some new phrases


This post has been edited by SwooshY: Nov 28 2010, 12:11 AM

Yet, when girls assume that there is no longer a living chivalry in this world, they were wrong....u got too side tracked with the figure outside that you do not see through the crap outside of a person to their inner soul. We're never dead....we're just forgotten. Stories, become histories, histories, become legend...and legend becomes a myth. That's where chivalries who respects and treats women like real women, are heading.

A good thumbs up. Not everything is certain. There is never a guideline that guarantees 100%, but a better chance...but at the same time..always account to variable changes.

this should be stickied

Nice thought
Hard to be stickied, not much people will bump this as much as the five thread from n00b13. Should let this thread die a gruesome death

Its a shame, this thread rocks

hmmm it is a new year and i think this thread needs a bump.

a commendable effort.

After reading again, (I think my comprehension skills is horrible) I get what you're trying to say, and I agree, good post swooshy, but it would be better if you could go deeper, i still get the feeling that it is just touching on the subject matter.

This post has been edited by Cryptic: Feb 9 2011, 06:03 PM