Niceness, generally saying is good.
ie, listening, showing empathy, creating rapport with the person you're attracted to.
But problem is, Niceness could backfire if the person you want to attract IS NOT ATTRACTED to you beforehand, hence you fell into the trap of repeatedly doing things that turning her off. In other words, we call it the ''illusions of actions'', those actions aren't logical, or real; which comes from the place of in-authenticity or we call it we gonna DO something in order to gain someone's affection or attention. Indeed, it doesn't really need to do so, because if you love yourself truly, people are gonna loving you the same way.

Well u definitely did over jerk her lol. And she kept coming back again. It's already proven most girls are attracted to jerk, alpha attributes. But it will not last long..

Now I've already known 'being nice' vs 'being an asshole' consequences, pros & cons. 'll calibrate more tackling different categories of girl/woman.