I once had a huge, huge crush on a girl who had a BF. And because of that - also because I was too young and stupid and didn't know how to get a girl - I never did anything about it.

Then she broke up with him. And got together with another guy who treated her like shit and dumped her. Then she got back with the first guy. Then broke up with him again. Then found another guy who also dumped her and broke her heart so badly, she made a sudden decision to go study overseas. Never saw her again after that.

You think I don't regret spanaring her? You damn right I regret it. The clues were all there from the beginning - her 1st BF was dull and unemotional, they hardly ever went out together and she rarely even talked about him. Her 2nd and 3rd BFs were charming assholes who treated her as something to conquer, then throw away. She clearly needed someone to give her love, and that's why she bounced from one guy to another - all of whom were wrong for her.

I don't know what would've happened if I did go after her. Maybe she would've rejected me. Or maybe we'd be together for a while and then eventually break up as well. But I do know - I'm 100% sure - that I would've been better for her than all those other guys. I would've saved her all that pain.

So yeah, now I laugh at people who keep whining "dun spanar ppl!" You're only scared of getting spanar-ed because you're insecure about your own relationship.

Ohhhh yes.

She was probably waiting for you to make a move. She probably got tired of waiting.

What's the difference? What's your definition of "spanar"?

Don't make the same mistake next time.