yes actually.

but you were talking about "if she can leave him for you, she can leave you for someone else". If she can marry you, she can leave you for another man too!

But then again, from the scenario, it seems that the other hand is clapping as well. I know you guys will come out with quotes like:

"Why can't you choose girls that are single?"
"Why must you destroy the happiness of a couple?"

But then again, I would say in reality that 9 out of 10 men in this world, if they were faced in such a situation, they'd go straight and spanar. Many men (including my friends) say "Happiness is something you fight your way for. If you don't struggle for the said happiness, you will lose it." Although at first I was at a disagreement on this but it seemed that the above scenario that I have encountered, opened me up to the fact that maybe Fate and God wants me to pursue my own happiness in a 'spanaring' way. Nobody knows.

However, if the girl above really did have feelings on me (of course she did at that time if I explained further), then was I the only one at wrong? Don't tell me if I didn't take care of her needs and care for her, it be better and she won't fall for me?

If you guys know the full story, you'd say I be right to spanar because the fact that SHE LIKED ME. But then again, maybe it's too late now.

i need to clarify something,i didnt say that love is a waiting game.....did I???

I once had a huge, huge crush on a girl who had a BF. And because of that - also because I was too young and stupid and didn't know how to get a girl - I never did anything about it.

Then she broke up with him. And got together with another guy who treated her like shit and dumped her. Then she got back with the first guy. Then broke up with him again. Then found another guy who also dumped her and broke her heart so badly, she made a sudden decision to go study overseas. Never saw her again after that.

You think I don't regret spanaring her? You damn right I regret it. The clues were all there from the beginning - her 1st BF was dull and unemotional, they hardly ever went out together and she rarely even talked about him. Her 2nd and 3rd BFs were charming assholes who treated her as something to conquer, then throw away. She clearly needed someone to give her love, and that's why she bounced from one guy to another - all of whom were wrong for her.

I don't know what would've happened if I did go after her. Maybe she would've rejected me. Or maybe we'd be together for a while and then eventually break up as well. But I do know - I'm 100% sure - that I would've been better for her than all those other guys. I would've saved her all that pain.

So yeah, now I laugh at people who keep whining "dun spanar ppl!" You're only scared of getting spanar-ed because you're insecure about your own relationship. 

Seems I need to tell my whole story just to let you guys know how 'stupid' and 'justice' I was for not spanaring.