So ur gf will loose some  love, pampering, affectionate, loyalty....bla bla bla..... once a month during the down time?? 

That's not good. Been together for years now.
Not, i didn't ask for it in first place just naturally happen. We are enjoying it for first 4 months, as i say… even discuss about like how to make ourself feel more comfortable when having sex that time.

but it all change when both of us started to get busy and then i would say, influence from friend i guess
Well, i am complaining it in first place, but not anymore, because as i say, if i am really only wanted to have sex, 4 years ago would have end this relationship and find other girl.

The vow and the commitment i make with her before we are together, i always uphold. I love her, and i know there is up and downs.

And one more thing, it's not she doesn't want it as often anymore, it just as i say, we have open discussion and she tell me her reason as well, which i understand and respect.

this is 4 years ago, now, we are still together and, i would say, still like normal couple, sometimes has few quarrel, then ok again.

There's a huge difference between lust and love. If you truly love someone, you'll stand by her side no matter what happens, and Chris Medina is a good example of this type of person. It really shows that a true relationship is about commitment and the genuine desire to take care of your loved ones.

Words are cheap, just take 5 minutes and watch the video. You'll know what I mean.

For the guys: Think yourself in Chris shoes, ask yourself, could you have done the same in this situation? Most of the guys with a lustful mindset would've left Juliana after that accident. And you have nothing to blame yourself for, it just shows that you never truly loved her in the very first place. All you had was lustful feelings when she was still beautiful and gorgeous. Nothing more.

For the women: *Hands a tissue* Sorry if the vid made u cry...   here's another one: 
Chris Medina - What Are Words (New single currently #83 on Top 100 billboards with 1.6 million Youtube views)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQY4dIxY1H4

       
That was the saddest thing ... luckily she still has him.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQO8BE3Glok

But this one, even more sad but luckily she's a strong girl.

Sex is just a bonus.
No one should expect your partner to give you something and if you give something to your partner, dont ever expect to have something in return.
You pamper her and give her love and you want her to give you sex in return, what's that ? Exchange/trade with body ?
if u think sex is such a big deal, den dont cheapen it. when making love, not just body pleasure, there is a emotional connection as well. when u hav sex, u'll see....
& yes, it's a trade, a trade of love for love......

And why compare Employee & Employer ?
What, she's the boss and you're the worker ? You give her love and cares her because it's a job to you ?
Dat is just metaphor to explain expectation & meeting expectation. in this metaphor, both he & she is boss & employee @ the same time coz both has expectation on each other.

Yes, sex does pulls each other closer and relationship MIGHT last longer but there are also a lot of activity and things that you can do to improve your relationship, not just sex.
yes, so y dont do those other activity, as well as sex too. maximized the growth.

She takes sex serious and will not give it easily, you complain nothing return from her after things you've done to her.
if i can show my love in a way she wants it, why cant she show me her love in a way i wan it. dis door shud swing both way....

She slept with all her exs before and is open minded, you complain she's a cheap whore and sleeping around.
i do not think dis @ all, in fact, i call guys who think like dis hypocrite. In fact, i prefer girl dat has sexual experience wit ex b4, coz it save time time to "unlock"
her.

u fail to see dat dey probably already had sex....
dats y such strong relationship were built......

Duh. Why are you pointing out the obvious? Do you think Americans are like you Malaysians?
Most of them lose their virginity in high school. Pssh.
You're a fckin idiot to think that sex is the sole factor of the strength of their relationship.
You've obviously never been in a real relationship.
You type like a retard, that's why. Go fix your grammar instead of using fancy color texts, maybe people would actually bother to read them. 

Oh yeah couples should totally do other studs. Threesomes for a healthy relationship growth, people. Listen to tech3910, he's a fckin genius. 

so u're admitting that sex does play a role in building a strong relationship........

& since wen did i mention sex is the SOLE factor?
dint i mentioned ealier that couple shud do the other stuff like loving, pampering each other plus ex as well to maximized the relationship growth?

Your so called 'real points' are laughable. It doesn't matter whether Chris and Juliana had sex or not before the accident.

What matters is that after the accident when sex is no longer a factor in their relationship, Chris didn't leave her. He stayed by her side, with all the difficult post brain-trauma recovery steps. That's what I call a real man who sticks to his convictions, that's true love instead of mere lust.

Now do me a favor and go dump your head in a toilet bowl and flush it, come up with better arguments next time.