Right, I'm gonna do an ezralimm and attempt to impart my precious wisdom onto you noobs. Be kind.

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"Confessing" is for losers. Seriously. It is the lamest way of letting a girl know you like her, and it is not very effective. Here's why:

- You're giving up all control over the outcome. All the power is now in her hands to either say yes or no. There's nothing you can do about it anymore.
- You're putting unnecessary pressure on her. Suddenly she has to decide then and there how she feels about you, when she may not even be sure herself yet. And she may be afraid of hurting you if she says no. It's not fair to put her in such a position.
- You're asking her to love you back. You don't ask for love. You offer it, and if she accepts, she will offer hers in return.
- You're setting up an unrealistic expectation. Since you asked for her love, she will tend to see you as someone who always has to earn it. She will see herself as a princess to you, because you played the role of a beggar to her.

Only lovesick schoolboys still do this "confession" thing. Mature adults do it this way:

1) Eye contact. You know how two people tend to not look each other in the eye for too long? That there's usually a time limit before both people look away? Well, if you like this girl, maintain eye contact just a little longer than the time limit. Look at her just a little longer than necessary. Then give her a little smile before looking away. Don't stare, don't glue your eyes to her all the time. Just don't be afraid to show that you like looking at her. 

2) Make her laugh. It's one thing to get her to talk comfortably with you. It's another thing for her to enjoy talking to you, so much so that she remembers how much she enjoys talking to you. Be at your wittiest and most charming, put some effort into making her laugh. Don't be too shy to say something like, "Hey, wanna hear a joke?" Then tell her a dozen jokes, one after another. Let her know that you're purposely trying to make her happy.

3) Remember the things she says. Listen to what she has to say, then show her that you listened. If she mentioned her dog Poochie, greet her with "Hi, how's Poochie?" the next time you see her. If she mentioned she has trouble sleeping, ask her if she slept well the next day. If she likes a certain TV show, find out when the show airs, then ask her how was last night's episode the next day. Better yet, watch the show, so that you can talk about it with her. You can even tell her you didn't like the show - the fact that you watched it just because of her is flattering enough.

4) Physical proximity/contact. This is a tricky one, so be very careful. Position yourself closer to her - not too close, but a little closer than normal. You know the distance between friends, and the distance between bf and gf? You want to be exactly halfway in-between. (And better make sure you're wearing deodorant!) Similarly, give her a little touch every now and then, but be careful. Touch her shoulder when you want to get her attention. When talking to her, pat her on her arm to emphasize a point; if you've gotten close enough to her, you can try her thigh. When walking together, put your hand on the small of her back to guide her in a different direction. Just don't let your hand linger there too long.

You know what's the best thing about all these? They are measurable. Meaning, you will know instantly whether or not they're working. If she likes you, she will return the eye contact with you - if she doesn't, she always will look away before you do. If she likes you, she will laugh at all your jokes. If she likes you, she will appreciate the fact that you remember things about her. If she likes you, she will stand close to you, and she will touch you. By doing these things to her, you are letting her know it's okay for her to do the same to you. You're also letting her know that it's okay for her to not do the same to you, if she's not interested in you.

And if you're getting all the right signals from her, it's time to move on to:

5) Ask her out. Just you and her. None of the rest of your gang. Nobody else. Yes, it's a date. It could be a movie, it could be a drink at a coffee place, or if you're really confident, it could be dinner at a nice restaurant. Don't treat it as if it's a big deal, as if by saying yes she'll be making a big commitment to you. Keep this in mind if she's reluctant - say, "Hey, it's just a movie/coffee/dinner, I'm not asking you to marry me laa."

And after you do all this, after you've got the date... then what?

Then you just let it happen naturally. And believe me, if you've gotten this far and the girl has been showing all the signs of liking you, it will happen naturally. Which may be a surprise if you've always thought that tackling a girl is a long, gruelling, agonizingly difficult task that involves a "confession". You may be surprised at how easy it was. Which is as it should be. (And don't give me that "if it's easy to get, you won't appreciate" nonsense.  ) If a guy and a girl like each other, they should fall into a relationship easily.

This is how mature adults do it. And even if you are a lovesick schoolboy, you should still do it this way. Because it's the right way to do it.

No, I don't think so. Not everything can be reduced to a tl;dr.
Not quite. I made it clear that aside from showing your interest in someone, it also allows you to test her for interest in you.

One of the best ways to attract someone is to show your attraction to them, in a manner that does not make them uncomfortable. But this is not a "kau lui" guide. It is, as I have titled it, a guide on what to do to let a girl know you're interested in her.

Ezra, hate to say it but you're trying really hard to conform Noobie's content to your point of views again.

Noobie's guide isn't about attracting women. It isn't about "success". Of course it would only work on a chick who already likes you.

If attraction is not there, you simply build it. A person can't choose to be attracted to you or not, so it doesn't hurt to show your best and do your best for the person you're interested in.

1) Eye contact - Confidence
2) Make her laugh - Interesting
3) Remember things she say - Attentive
4) Physical Proximity / Contact - Confidence / Experience
5) Ask her out - Initiative

Wow cool discovery you have there. Err... tell me, what do you get out of this?

i'm not sure bout that, cause i'm asian, and she's half filipino half caucasian, so i really don't know if she will date asian now that she's more comfortable with me i wonder if i should ask her out.

So only start courting a person who's already attracted to you? Do you know how many girls go "you know I would never have thought I'd fall for a guy like my bf"? Only approaching girls which show interests in you is weak and a cowards way of living.
You never learn anything in life until you experience it first hand.

okay okay thanks for the encouragement, i shall ask her out next week  and uhm the reason of my undecisiveness is because she rejected me before last time when i asked her out for lunch, she replied me that she just broke up and not looking for any relationship.. but that was like 6 months ago

sure, will do

Your words here reveal to me what you I've always criticised about your writing. You place a very heavy emphasis on looks, and have this conception that people "settle" for less because they can't get the best looking partner.
very often

In the writing itself, no, but from the way you write its obvious.

No problem. Thats what i have said, GROW in love, not fall in love.
Everything starts from building meaningful friendship first, getting to know each other. The attractiveness within will bloom like a flower, delicate and intimately... ("wat wat? in my butt"    sorry, can't stop imagining that MTV)
No problem about that. 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The more you get acquainted to him/her, the more you would eventually grow in love.
I've seen how butt ugly people gets the prettiest/most hansem mates.
Its not how you look that matter. Its how well you carry yourself, and how sincere and gentle and sweet you are.

Look for a soul mate. Not a wife. 

You're shallow.
You really are.

I notice a wide variety of "reasonably sexually attractive" people, men and women. I see brides whom I do not find terribly attractive, even in their wedding best, yet their husbands are looking at them like they're the most beautiful women on earth.

That's the part you keep failing to understand, ezra.

In here lies a certain truth that men may not like to admit. (Attractive) Women are the drive of social force and change. What (Attractive) women generally want from society, women get. (Attractive) Women set the rules, women set the expectations, and many men follow suit. You can see the change in the last few decades quite clearly. Macho men were popular, then women wanted more sensitive men, and when we got that, women found them too sissy and want a change, and we're starting to see that change.
yes, practised in some tribes in africa.

Tsk tsk tsk, your small mind reveals itself again. What I wrote has much further implications than just attraction. It spans to include education, nurturing, literature, media, etc. Think about it, who raised you as a kid? Who set your initial impressions for women? who taught you how to treat women first? Its more often than not, the mothers... which if it eludes your mind, are women.

Women also being more empathic than men, communicate a lot more. Their feelings, their expectations, their needs, their wants, their desires... this information gets spread within the female network. Hence how certain "standards" are achieved within a female community. You know the saying, "the fastest way to spread news is to tell a woman"

I'm quite at a lost for words. You "corrected" something you obviously misunderstood, got pissed when you perceived a personal assault when none was intended, then throw the responsibility to the readers?

The readers have nothing to do with this, nor does their opinion on the subject, matter. It just me, trying to get you to understand things better. If you can't, then, so be it. Who people think is right/wrong doesn't matter.

The readers have nothing to do with this, nor does their opinion on the subject, matter. It just me, trying to get you to understand things better. If you can't, then, so be it. Who people think is right/wrong doesn't matter.