Well, I must say its a very interesting topic raised indeed and honestly I go through the same dilemma myself sometimes.

Then again, if you guys here are into music, i would quote from blessid union of soul's song "I believe":

I believe that love is the answer

I believe that love will find the way


If you really love the girl enough and vice versa, nothing is imposibble. All you have to do is try and have faith!