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 Faithful couple getting Herpes, Need serious advice

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chibi_tenko
post Apr 26 2009, 01:31 PM

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QUOTE(neverendingsigh @ Apr 26 2009, 10:32 AM)
Thanks for the lengthy advice. I guess it was a nature of human to find out the cause when something unexpectedly happened out of the blue. I have yet to have any symptom down there except some normal ulcers on my inner mouth lips.

Both of us prefer to keep it between ourselves but she do warn her sister not to share pants (the one they wore at home) with her in the future. As her family was the type that is quite old-fashioned, I guess there's no point in telling them A-Z about what happened. Nevertheless, thank you very much for the effort you poured into writing the post. I've been in LYN for years so taking jabs & hits for a sensitive question is all a norm for me now.
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Best thing to do now is to do a checkup on the ulcers in your mouth. Ask the GP about HSV1 and request to be checked for that. As mentioned by another forumner, herpes can't be removed permanently. Your gf will go through a very rough emotional rollercoaster now. Be strong for her sake.

Below are some info :
Getting herpes from oral sex
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and here's some info on how to cope with herpes :

For many people, receiving a diagnosis of HSV can be devastating, as it is a life-long ailment with no cure. While it does mean that you will have to be extra cautious, especially when involved in intimate relationships, HSV does not have to rule your life. There are many ways to make the symptoms more comfortable and reduce outbreaks to an absolute minimum.

- Use an ice pack to help alleviate pain and swelling, and take a hot bath (with a pinch of baking soda) to help reduce itching.
- Keep the affected area dry and clean.
- Avoid sexual intimacy until blisters have completely healed, and when the virus is dormant, always use a condom to reduce the chance of your partner contracting the virus.
- Apply tea tree oil directly onto the sores several times a day.
- Avoid touching, rubbing or scratching the sores and wash your hands immediately after contact with them to prevent the infection spreading to other areas or other people.
- Boost the immune system with daily exercise, sufficient sleep and a healthy balanced diet.
- Reduce stress levels and take care of your emotional well-being. Consider counseling or stress management if you struggle to do this alone.
- Increase vitamin C intake during outbreaks.
- Consider taking supplements of the amino acid L-lysine, zinc, and garlic.
- Make note of the 'trigger' foods that sometimes lead to outbreaks. Avoid spicy and acidic foods as well as foods high in salt when you have an outbreak.
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This post has been edited by chibi_tenko: Apr 26 2009, 01:33 PM
chibi_tenko
post Apr 26 2009, 05:48 PM

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QUOTE(IcyDarling @ Apr 26 2009, 04:35 PM)
is herpes curable? coz im new to this thing call herpes, and all the wikis gave dumb info... oh ya.. my condolence to TS.... sry, cant help, i dunno anything bout herpes...

Hope'ya cure soon
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Herpes is treatable but not curable. Google is a very good place to search for information. I'm not sure what wikis you've been to but here's something for you. It's short and clear : STD - Herpes
chibi_tenko
post Apr 29 2009, 08:22 AM

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QUOTE(IcyDarling @ Apr 28 2009, 09:12 PM)
wat u mean, treatable not curable? treating and curing gives the same defination ryte?

EDIT: sry, i found the differences, herpes symptoms can be treated but the disease is not cured completely
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Although you've found the differences in treatable vs curable, here's a simple example of what it means. Treatable means that the symptoms caused can be controled. Not curable means it cannot be permanently removed/eliminated. smile.gif
chibi_tenko
post Apr 30 2009, 07:28 AM

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QUOTE(neverendingsigh @ Apr 30 2009, 12:22 AM)
Sorry for the lack of update. The symptom is getting better now. I did call to the gynecologist on Monday as my girlfriend complained that some of the ulcers bled when she cleaned it with a liquid prescribed by the doctor. The doctor emphasized on the fact that my girlfriend was late in consulting her hence the infection got worse.

I initially did protest to the gynecologist that it is impossible for my girlfriend to have herpes since we're both clean. I also admitted that we only did oral & I guess it was all pointless as in her mind, we might be just another 2 young couple sleeping around. sad.gif

Anyway, I'll be dragging my girlfriend to the clinic again for follow up check even though she prefer not to. She was hurt by the 3 letter word STD. I've decided to ask for the gynecologist to try blood test on both of us, not to find out the source / why but at least to know what kind of antibody we have in our body (HSV1 / HSV2).

Looking for another gynecologist is almost out of the picture as my girlfriend is not the kind that find it easy to let a stranger see nor touch her part there. I think the gynecologist that we went to is pretty OK, just that her mindset might be a little bias. I'll see what is the update this weekend & let you guys know.

Thank you very much for the concern & if possible, do spread the information to those close to you on the possibility of herpes infection thru non-sexual activity. notworthy.gif
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TS, a doctor should NEVER be bias against his/her patients. Regardless of how, why, who, they should never treat their patients differently. If the gynae can diagnose a STD based on visual observation only and concludes that 'ah, this two has been sleeping around', I really don't think that's professional of her to do that. Unfortunately, if your gf is adamant to not letting a stranger touch and see her... it'll hard to get a second opinion from another doctor. You ask your gf if she'd rather risk being diagnosed wrongly or be shy.

Good luck and speedy recovery wish to your gf. Do update us ya.

 

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