Hi,
New here. Actually stumbled across while googling for an IC jpg. Have not been back here for more than a decade and without new IC I might not be able to renew my Passport to the terms I wish. It's a problem since Malaysia does not accept dual nationality. So I decide to stay Malaysian and has to go through this hassle of travel and ID doccuments.
Just to say that you all have a jewel here with Silverhawk. Very sound fundamentals and his opinions are best suited in this country.
Read his posts again and look at the person behind it. Those are the characters that will attract a partner. Whether another similar relationship will last forever, it is not conclusive - takes two to do a tango.
Security( financial ), though not mention, I believe with his qualities, it should not be a problem. I have yet to see a normal woman who would go for a hobo or anyone without a steady job.
His sense of humor.
Not quick to anger.
Listening power
Way of expression or writing to you.
solid fundamental wisdom in this subjet.
Leadership - not dictatorship.
These are the things I found reading through his posts.

I believe these things will attract the opposite sex.

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Personally, on others topics about changing to suit someone else, I think it is not easy. You will find yourself falling back to old habits after a long period.
-Unless you have a spiritual transformation.
A lot of those tech from books are good for short term gains but unlikely to help you sustain a long term relationship

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I am a financial entrepreneur. I believe in historical data to project the future market movement. Same as like we dig deep into the frozen ground in the Artic to bring up rods of frozen data to model a probable cycle of the future.
So let's apply it to ourselves.
Who or what am I ?
Take sometime and jolt it on a piece of paper.
What your mum dislikes? Then your dad.
What your mum likes? Then your dad.
How makes them happy? What is important to them? Expectations on themselves.
How do they react when they are angry? etc
Try to note down all their way of behaviour. In anger, in deep problems etc
Do that quietly with deep thoughts.
Then look at yourself. See what similarities and differences.
This will help you to see yourself and also those hidden traits of yourself that are not so obvious.
You will finally have a list of what you are looking for in your friendships and partner. You will also know yourself. With that you have a CLEAR list to scratch of the women that will be attracted to you that you should not pay attention to.
Eventually when you find the one you think is right, make her do the same list with her parents.
Then you have a list of where you will click well and where you will have potential problems - and seek a way to communicate with each other on those difficult points.
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Try to ADD to what you already are that can improve certain habits. Not try to change to suit.
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There is never a perfect formular or a set rule. It depends on certain region of the world. In the East block and former USSR, the 70s , 80s generation might not be attracted by what is in the first post other than financial security. It was real tough times in those days. You have to be there away from Moscow to see those dire times. If a women picks you or vice versa, she will summit almost completely. The choice is then in your hands to make her happy or hell for her. Many Russian men gave them hell - Vodka !!! is the problem. Women were often beaten.
Today's generation is becoming  more "cunning" there !!!
In certain parts of S. America the same applies - financial secrity is priority.

Oops !!
4 am here !!
Good luck to those who are searching

Sure looks are important, just not as important as you think.

Girls base most of their decision on emotions, not that much on rational thought or looks. Sometimes you'll see an average person having more success hitting on women than a good looking guy, why? Cause the average person typically has had to learn how to attract women not based on his looks alone, that alone makes him more attractive.

I speak from personal experience when I say looks aren't that important.

Yea, don't get me wrong, i know that look is not on top
but the way they interpret looks makes me think that they don't really say what they think but what people wants to hear...

Totally agree on your perspective of an average person, because I also think that hot girls with average guys and vice versa is quite the norm because an average person has to make up for their flaws in order to attract the opposite...

I don't know about society nowadays but it makes me feel that guys are slowly turning girls into lesbians because of the way they see the opposite... prizes/challenges... because a lot of times they go super nice to the girl but after they got them they become arrogant and turn back to their normal selves and cheat on the girl because of men's ego and thinking of 'since i can kao this chun chick then i can kao other more chun chicks as well and then they cheat on them and make them couldn't trust guys...  and in the end making it difficult to even approach them
hrm.....looks like i am finding excuses for my failures? hahaha 

~h1ro