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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 15 2009, 03:45 AM Return to original view \| Post #1
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	Silverhawk, I shall now worship you as a GOD Added on April 15, 2009, 4:42 am QUOTE(silverhawk @ Apr 8 2009, 05:08 AM) There are many topics here of guys whining about being rejected(no matter the reason) and then there are topics where people attempt to teach a guy how to be attractive to women. Despite how these 2 types seem different, they both share a fundamental problem. What is that problem? well let me share it with you... They have no standards of their own What does this mean? Well, I'll explain. To reach the widest audience possible, I'll prepare a wall of text assault and a tl;dr version Enjoy tl;dr » Click to show Spoiler - click again to hide... « People without standards have no self-worth. Someone without self-worth has no life. A person without a life, has nothing to share with others. No one wants a lifeless git as a partner. So set some standards, get some self-worth, get a life, and then you'll be able to get someone. Wall of text Assault (I'm a RWIer... you've been warned ) » Click to show Spoiler - click again to hide... « Lets start with the problem aye? I mentioned that those 2 types of topic share the same problem of lacking standards. A person who whines about being rejected is giving the power of his self-worth to another person. In effect, this means he has no self-worth because he isn't evaluating himself, someone else is doing it for him. This is also true with articles/topics on attraction. It is all assuming what the other party wants and adapting to it. Once again, putting the power of evaluation onto an external source. Where the hell are your standards? Peer pressure is often the reason why guys chase certain girls. Whether its because all your friends have one, or maybe its just to show off how "macho/cool/awesome" you are by having a hot chick by your side. Is it really necessary though? Would that really make you happy? So ask yourselves, what do you really want in a partner, heck... what do you really want in LIFE? Will the woman you want fit in the life you want to lead? Set your standards, know what you want, know what you need and you will have a direction. Humans are not the borg, everyone is different. Each and every girl has their own tastes, standards, personality, quirks, etc. Its impossible to be a man who can please them all. Since you can't please everyone, why don't you find the girls who matter? The girls you really want? Now that you've set a standard, its time for you to qualify the people you meet and see if they meet your standard. Say for example, you're a handsome guy, but happy with a "not so attractive" girl who loves you dearly and meets what you look for in a partner. Others may say "omg, you can do so much better" or "Dude, why are you settling for less?". None of that matters, you've found someone who meets your criteria and you're happy. THAT is what is important. Now if you truly want the best, like a woman who's beautiful, intelligent, funny, loving, loyal, rich, kinky, etc. then be prepared for a hard journey. As much as you have standards, they will to. So you will have to improve yourself to meet their standards but not at the cost of your own standards. Chase what you want as much as you like, but what you want, must also have what you need. Remember, wants are optional, needs are a requirement. So basically be who you want to be, don't bother with what people think of you. Do what makes you happy and you'll attract those who will suit your lifestyle. In the end, its your happiness that matters, not trying to prove yourself to be better than others. You must have a life of your own, and your partner is someone you share that life with. I could probably write this better, but meh its 5am +1 Added on April 15, 2009, 4:43 am QUOTE(silverhawk @ Apr 8 2009, 05:15 AM) Problem with that... people get too caught onto the techniques and totally miss the essence +1 Added on April 15, 2009, 4:44 am QUOTE(silverhawk @ Apr 8 2009, 02:24 PM) You choose what you need based on what you need. Everyone has different needs, find out what yours is. Then be yourself. You will undoubtedly change a bit when you are chasing a girl, just make sure you don't sacrifice your standards when you do it. +1 Added on April 15, 2009, 4:49 am QUOTE(silverhawk @ Apr 8 2009, 08:36 PM) Why are you studying? Is the subject you're studying something you want to do in the future? Your studies are a part of your life, it SHOULD lead to something. After your studies, then what? Find a job? What kind of job? Get job adi, then what? You need to have some sort of life plan or guideline. You want to conquer 1/2 of Asia? G`luck What more do you want? +1 This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Apr 15 2009, 04:49 AM
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 15 2009, 01:34 PM Return to original view \| Post #2
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(Beachkid @ Apr 15 2009, 01:19 PM) actually with all due respect. No. This book just shifts the paradigm set and makes you social robots with a set of rules and do's and don't which has a high probability of success in one night stands but basically zero chance of survival in a relationship. I can back up this statement by just asking one to take a glance at the lives of style,mystery,etc who have had tons of sex but cant hold a relationship if their life depended on it. A really good book that also gets down to the "fundamental point" as Silverhawk puts it is Carlox Xuma's Secrets of the Alpha Male where he spends 60 percent of his book discussing self worth/value and how to impose caliber and stature upon yourself. LMAO! You try to follow that book "the game" la, see if you get lots of success one night stands here in Malaysia.
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 15 2009, 02:28 PM Return to original view \| Post #3
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(peinsama @ Apr 15 2009, 02:25 PM) Trust me. Carlos Xuma's relationship book pawns Neil Strauss 'The Game' big time. Where can I get a copy?
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 15 2009, 02:41 PM Return to original view \| Post #4
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(peinsama @ Apr 15 2009, 02:31 PM) You, marehsian? Soli, I dun understand ur question
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 15 2009, 05:29 PM Return to original view \| Post #5
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(peinsama @ Apr 15 2009, 02:59 PM) Orite orite. You can get it online if you want. Of course through paypal, if you want a more secure transaction. I want to pirate, can?
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 15 2009, 11:09 PM Return to original view \| Post #6
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(silverhawk @ Apr 15 2009, 08:55 PM) If cannot then I dun lor. But u noe all these e-books. They promise u the sky and moon, say its cheap cheap, but after you buy, ALAMAK! They sell u repackaged common sense only. ---- P.S: I am not too proud to pay for common sense if I don't already have it. I just won't pay for it in US dollars or Euros. This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Apr 15 2009, 11:43 PM
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 22 2009, 12:00 AM Return to original view \| Post #7
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	The last few pages in this thread reminds me of that scene where Xerxes laid his hands on Leonidas. 300: The Untold Stories and another example <br /><object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/9UzeQJyD6_U&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/9UzeQJyD6_U&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object> This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Apr 22 2009, 01:05 AM
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 24 2009, 05:07 PM Return to original view \| Post #8
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	/Rant! I'm sick of seeing all these threads and responses from men who obviously do not possess common sense, human dignity or any testicles whatsoever. They write threads like "I fall in love wif PROSTITUTE, I wan the pain so much, I wan to share it wif u all" "My girlfren cheat me, I like eating creampie, how to beg her to take me back?" "Sex is bad" "How to talk to girls? I am so hopeless that NO ADVICE U GIVE ME WILL WORK, I just want to talk about how useless I am, LA DI DA" "My girlfren let another man put his d* into her *. Is they having seks??? Wut do I do? " And even worse than seeing all these thread titles is reading the responses to them from an equally MORONIC cadre of hardcore clueless posters. I shall now be handing out demerit points as well as merit points. At the end of the day the whole of Cupid's Corner shall know who the greatest heroes of our times are, as well as whose "advice" is the most dickless in the known universe. Until there are clear indications and measurements of what HUMAN DIGNITY is, Cupid's Corner shall just have absolutely no standards. Edit: Nah, I don't even know why I bother. This would be like trying to counter-punch a 35 foot tsunami. This post has been edited by Dickson Poon**: Apr 24 2009, 05:28 PM
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 24 2009, 07:15 PM Return to original view \| Post #9
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(ezralimm @ Apr 24 2009, 06:29 PM) Because j00 r teh nub with zero real posts. ...and all the "+1" in all the threads in CC means nothing as people dont need your approval. No offence but when you write like that I snort out my coffee. Every time. QUOTE No offense but who are you to judge? Hmm? I shall meditate more on that question. And then I shall CRUSH you. Just like Dhalsim would. Dear Dhalsim.... give me strength!!!!! This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Apr 24 2009, 07:19 PM
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SUSDickson Poon	Apr 25 2009, 09:59 AM Return to original view \| Post #10
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	^ I sense the beginning of the Legend of Streetfighter.
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SUSDickson Poon	May 13 2009, 04:32 PM Return to original view \| Post #11
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	This is so shocking. Who is this Shane McCutcheon, and why does he look like the angmoh version of the "prettiest" girls featured in this forum? -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Know this, Joey-Kun, for it is of great importance. You have sullied mine eyes and serenity with this abomination of a vision, so repulsed I am and violated at the core that I have no words to describe my revulsion. Nothing compares to the horror you have visited upon me, not my nightly dreams of hunchbacked, ancient crones with crooked noses slowly walking up the walls and across the ceilings of my bedroom, nor the living memories of the sounds of bones breaking and wetly grinding against one another. One day I shall repay the ill favor you have shown me. I tell you this now, so that you will know that day is coming, and so that you may dread it. This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: May 13 2009, 06:26 PM
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SUSDickson Poon	May 13 2009, 06:35 PM Return to original view \| Post #12
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	I feel lazy right now but I will update this thread on why I like it, and I will post seriously this time.
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SUSDickson Poon	May 17 2009, 03:09 PM Return to original view \| Post #13
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(danny_sp15 @ May 17 2009, 01:32 PM) hmm... but sometimes people post up those "i'm hopeless", "i got dumped" topic cos they just wanna share it with someone... i dont think they really want any advice from lyn members... it's just that when we share something, we feel better... that's what psychiatrists do. they just listen and listen, and the patient would feel better even though the psychiatrist didnt actually give him any advice... that's what i think la.. feel free to flame me if im wrong.. Ok, I will flame you. YOU ARE WRONG. This forum is not a substitute tampon to soak up menses and other excretions. Neither is that the role of psychiatrists. The role of the psychiatrist is to diagnose chronic/acute mental problems and to suggest a proper drug to treat that problem. These whiny little b**es who would rather whine and cry cry about their problems should be given a swift kick to the nuts because that's all they ever do and guess what? We're not interested! Added on May 17, 2009, 3:11 pm QUOTE(danny_sp15 @ May 17 2009, 01:46 PM) anyway, here are some tips.. looks are not the most important factor... the most important thing is to be nice and sweet to the girl u like, up to the point that u're willing to trouble urself or do something kinda pathetic to make her happy (like cooking some porridge and driving all the way to her house to give it to her when she's not feeling well, etc).. the other guys would probably laugh at u, but the girl would be grateful and she will treat u nicer and then thing will go along just fine... do note that this applies to nice girls only... if the girl is the type who's looking for money or handsome looks, then u're better off without her.. Seriously.... who taught you such stupid things? What you mentioned has its place, but... THE MOST IMPORTANT THING????!!!!!! GOD NO! You are putting the cart before the horse. This post has been edited by Dickson Poon**: May 17 2009, 03:21 PM
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SUSDickson Poon	May 17 2009, 03:36 PM Return to original view \| Post #14
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(danny_sp15 @ May 17 2009, 03:30 PM) ohh... i thought it works, cos it worked a few times for me... People are too fixated on being the nice guy. When will guys realise, they have more to offer than just being "nice"? It is the people who don't have anything going for them that cling to the idea of OVERDOING nice. Women pick up on this subconsciously. The kinder ones may forgive you of this fault, but then you would be taking advantage of their better nature by refusing to know better. QUOTE are u referring to the whole cupid's corner or just this specific thread? hmm... ok then, mind explaining to me the purpose of this forum? I didn't start this forum nor may I speak of its intent and purpose. But if you wish to ask me what it means to me and what I personally think, I will be more than happy to tell you.
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SUSDickson Poon	May 17 2009, 05:01 PM Return to original view \| Post #15
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	What??? Who are you addressing here? Silverhawk, or me, or both of us? Way to rant, buddy. Care to express yourself more clearly next time?
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SUSDickson Poon	May 17 2009, 05:18 PM Return to original view \| Post #16
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	Shit you, you better stay here to read my reply. I'm going to turn into the Incredible Hulk! This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: May 17 2009, 05:18 PM
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SUSDickson Poon	May 17 2009, 05:46 PM Return to original view \| Post #17
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(silverhawk @ May 17 2009, 05:32 PM) As much as people have the right to whine, so do we have the right to smack sense into them. Perhaps we're not so gentle with it, but you know why? Its simply because being gentle is what caused them to be like this in the first place. Being nice to them doesn't work, it only enforces their pathetic behaviour. A lot of people here, grew up spoilt & pampered, with unrealistic expectations and assumptions of life and humanity. You and others can go on scolding/bashing me for being tough on others, feeling superior for being "nice" if you wish. I don't care one bit. Those who I've helped, know the quality of help which I give. I don't have to prove myself to you or anyone Btw, what we have isn't a privilege, its something we worked for that anyone can obtain. Its not like we were born with it. If you think what I wrote was too complex, go read the tl;dr version la. If you can't even understand THAT, I'm sorry la, you're beyond help Wah, you really expressed it way better than I could even hope to. +1
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SUSDickson Poon	May 17 2009, 05:54 PM Return to original view \| Post #18
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	QUOTE(danny_sp15 @ May 17 2009, 05:41 PM) there are points to which i agree, and to which i do not. and we all pretty much stand firm to our points of view. therefore, i'll just conclude that we have different points of view, and i'll be sticking with mine for now. @dickson poon, let me hear ur reply before u turn all green and start smashing the keyboard. This is the critical difference. Those who are wise know that opinions can and do change, for the very fact that we may have them. But there are also those who are doing nothing more than re-affirming the groupthink of the Idiocracy: a rule based on the lowest common denominator of intelligence. Imagine that. An entire way of life and belief system based not on the wisest course of action nor the most intelligent, nor what can achieve the goals of society, but one that is based on what everybody else can agree upon, no matter how stupid or banal. THIS is what we have sunk to. Some people may contend that this is just a forum after all, and thus has no importance. I differ in opinion. I think that people DO come here to get solid advice and feedback, that people DO expect better, they want insight, thought provoking points of views and quality opinions. This is the fundamental difference between those of us who can catch the nuances of what is being discussed in here and elsewhere, and those who cannot. To those who cannot or more likely, DO NOT WANT to discern the difference, all points of view are the same, and all are thus of equal value. This, is manifestly false. This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: May 17 2009, 06:07 PM
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SUSDickson Poon	May 17 2009, 06:07 PM Return to original view \| Post #19
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	Sorry sorry, I will edit
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SUSDickson Poon	May 17 2009, 06:13 PM Return to original view \| Post #20
Getting Started Junior Member 140 posts Joined: Apr 2009	Explanations and patience alone might not be enough. We assume that we can address the problem rationally, that we can win over opinions and help enlighten via rational discourse. But what the Idiocracy is doing in here has nothing to do with rationality or logical discourse. They are re-affirming their rule simply because they can, and they use brute, crude methods. They should not be allowed to run amuck like this.
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