nice 
if anybody r interested in the root cause of fundamental problem, u may refer to Love Shyness and http://www.love-shy.com/Gilmartin/toc.html

Reading all the post from 1 to the last really gives me a bright idea.

Thanks for those who post good stuff in this thread. 

theres only 1 way to get the person u like..
and i mean 1 !! really...

DO SOMETHING!

if u dont do something, nothing will happen.

correct me if I am wrong >> from what I understand of the first post, that I as a guy in order to get the girl that I want, I must firmly remain being myself, firmly remain who I am, and (or) firmly remain what I am, with absolutely no compromise? >> for example, I should continue being the quiet guy, continue being the self-sufficient guy, continue being the self-centered guy, continue being the anti-social guy, continue being the guy who is only interested in his own things, and continue being the guy who is only interested in certain types of people >> because that is who I am, because I am like that, because that is what I am, and because that is me by nature in an unpretentious manner?? >> from what I understand of the first post once again, that I should NOT attempt to try to change or alter myself and my character/personality in order to try to get/tailor-suit myself to the girl that I want?

I am basically trying to "so call improve myself" by being determine to "open up my mind in this respect" to learn some social skills as in "people dealing skills", "communication skills", and "interaction skills" as such... However, to be honest, it is (and it has been) an "uphill battle" for me as I am "simply just not" that type of person... But right now, my parents are placing an extreme amount of emphasis into my head on "Social Skills", "People Dealing Skills", "People Interaction Skills", and "Communication Skills" etc as such... They think that I am "Seriously Lacking" in this aspect, thus I MUST "Bark-Up" in this area... (Yeah, that is what my parents think.)

So right now I am just trying to 'Improve' myself in this area/aspect. Hmmm..., does this go against the theory/advice/suggestion (of this topic)?

Somehow my coursemates all damn passive one lo. I love sports. They don't even want to walk to the sports complex. Hence my passion for sports died on the spot. Along with a lot of other stuffs. Sad.

I don't feel like doing all of these stuffs alone tho. Now I will la, no choice I want to break free from this shithole.

people cant change. theres science in it. its in the BLOOD. GENES. DNA. CHARACTER.  what u are at 3yrold is what u'll be at 80-chinese proverb.

the so-called 'change' is just being pretentious. admit it. Dont try to change for anyone. just be urself

People can change, only if they want to. The reason why people do not change it is because they have yet to come to the realization that there is something not entirely right or good with them. If they constantly have this mentality of "Hey, I'm good, I am alright. Things are going well" then there isn't a reason to change, thus there is no petrol to the engine, and no motion.

I am a walking, talking and breathing example of a PC game nerd. Whatever stereotypes you've read and heard about gamers, I represented them all too well. This was a few years back. Along the way, somethings happened and some didn't that propagated me to change.
I'll not lie and say that the old self has completely gone, some remnants and traits are around and it is a conscious effort to battle them.
As much as I type this without trying to boast, enough people have told me and commented that I did change from worse to better - not exceptionally good, but getting there 

A person who says "I can't change. I am born like this" is in actual fact just lazy and complacent, wanting to blame circumstances rather than to take personal responsibilities for personal actions and well being. You know it's true. It is human nature to always blame everyone and everything around them for all the wrongs, all the frustrations and disappointments - never once looking at oneself and think "Hey, maybe all this was because I made some poor choices which resulted in undesired circumstances"
Awesome video Dickson =]

I fall in love with girl that low standard than me but her look is high standard than me... what should I do?

Did u read the book? From my reading, all i can see is, it almost for a ppl who go to club. N they have specific approach on how to open. Still half way before i finish the book. But, they are very confident ppl. Almost feel no fear bout rejection. 

Erm i need some advice or get some senses knock into me.

Well here goes, i am a very shy person or u could say passive. I wish u guys could tell me how to get to know girls. I have very few girl friends and i find it hard to be friends with girl. If this keeps on i don`t think i will be able to get a gf or perhaps be single forever.

prince hamsap so PRO....

just be sincere

i cant sleep tonite

so let me write some of PrinceHamsap style

firstly, your look ... if you're good looking its a plus point
if you dont, make sure you have a neat clean look

and never have a too serious look, girls will be scared of you.
Show your smile to make people felt comfortable with you

Be interesting, be a humourus person who can makes the girl laugh
but if you're making too much joke, you're just another joker/laughther friend for her
be a listener to her, tell her stories that showing your good deeds/sincerity

when u tell your own story, tell her with enthusiasm.
Dont get too excited or too much of hand movement, it will scared the gal off
if you noticed she's getting boring, cut the story off. Not every person gets into your story

Dirty jokes are ok, but keep it very minimal and not so dirty. Sexist joke are not recommended especialy they just met you. Dont swear even once.

Do show yourself is in relax position. Dont try too hard or so desperate. Girls are turn off with that

if you possess these, she will be fine to come out with you again or calling you frequent for chat

good nite dudes ... its 3am now ... t.b.continue