Perhaps the reason why they are labeled as players is the very fact they play people around. Lets not talk about amateurs. Women have their intuition to spot these a mile away. The over-exaggeration acts and overly sweet talks. These are amateurs.

The good ones is where the problem starts.

Off the top of my head (without experience) perhaps someways to check is to

a)Talk to his friends, not just one but a few. Ask them how they got to know him and in doing so you might find out more about him.

b)Make a note of how often he gives gifts? I don't know but IMHO affection shouldn't have a cumulative price attached to it. It's nice to get surprise gifts, everyone likes gifts but are they coming in waaay too often and really extravagant gifts?

c)He falls very fast and very hard for you. This at first is flattering. But think about it - is it normal? In a normal relationship, a man or woman moves at a gradual pace to "get to know" the other person. They will call up for a date, if the date goes well, they will ask for a
second date. They will probably call you prior to the second date (they should, anyway, to make arrangements). But if they start calling or text messaging you every day after that first date, it's not normal. Don't be flattered, be wary.

d) and lastly FYA: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/how-to-spot-a-player-playa/

I don't agree on this.

My ex is a confident guy but he is not a player

How to show and warning to "Gentle Man" mask guys?
ANSWER: you can try to come out with question like this: 
Haiz... i donno why..... sometime i feel be human is difficult...  AND STOP WHILE LET THE GENTLE MAN ASK YOU "WHY"
After he asked WHY, than answer him with litter sweet face and said... why lots ppl like to live with a mask, especially GENTLE MAN MASK.. and watch his respone and answer..

Dont care what is his answer or explanation...
IF nexttime he still ask you out and show u with his Gentle Man Mask... he maybe is the Gentle Man as his MASK.. BUT you should repeat this same question and say like u already know he is not the gentle man..

IF he still invite u out and again show his gentle man.. keep more time.. to several different places... from lowkey to highkey place.. than u can see his real face without mask..

from: Love Doctor..

Hi as you know lots of time guy will easily go to " LIKE TO LIE" especially to gal..
this is bcos they want and they need the gal to be his gf or other stiry behind his soul!

Guy will do 101 things to make the gal happy and get the gal heart, even lie to the gal just to make the gal happy.

here i Give you all a example on

HOW TO KNOW EITHER THE GUY/GAL SAYING LIE TO YOU.

1. Our human brain is seperate to TWO part left and right part.

IF the left part is use to THINK/REMEMBER/FLASH BACK OLD MEMORY than the right part must be used to CREATE/DESIGN
base on the analisis above you can different either the guy/gal is saying lie to u or not.

EXP: 

You ask your boyfriend, where you both been to dinner last weekend.
Than look at his eyes. IF he eyes turn to LEFT, than he telling you the true, Because as i said, LEFT brian is use to think/remember/flash back memory...

THAN AGAIN, you continue ask him again, Where you been just now and why back home so late?
IF NOW, his eyes suddenly turn to RIGHT than i 100% can gurantty you he try to lie you and finding a topic or reason to lie to you.  DONT listen to his expelaination now! He is LIE to you now!!
BUT BUT BUT>...  everyone brain also will work in their own way, some people LEFT BRAIN is use to CREATE/DESIGN  and RIGHT BRAIN is use to STORE MEMORY/FLASH BACK OLD STORY. 

So, everytime before you ask him/her. You should ask him to flash back the moment you both together as example above and look in to his/her eyes...  after comfirm which direction his/her eyes go than just continue with your actual question to him/her...
Thanks and have a nice day..
Love Doctor... (sunway)

Well, I don't see why he needs to be confident and spent time on me as I'm dull and fat and ugly. A person like me can easily be cheated and end up on bed.