If you see no wrong in girls being money minded, then don't ever fight for gender equality. Girls who choose their guys based on money shouldn't complain when their husbands have one affair after another, after all its in our genes to be attracted to pretty young girls. They will have lost the right to b**** about doing all the cooking, cleaning, child rearing while the husband plays his PS3 all day.

If money is the criteria for men, then women should shut up, spread their legs and clean the house.

You're not understanding me. I'm the type that believes in equality in all, be it race or gender, hence I do not believe that women should be treated like a sex object or as a cook. I'm saying that for those women who choose men based on how rich they are, these women do not deserve gender equality, instead they should be treated like how women were treated thousands of years ago. They should shut up when men are talking, obey when men want sex, and cook when men are hungry.

I did tell this to my gf, and she agrees with me. I treat her as an equal and I expect to be treated the same.

So go on ahead an be proud of choosing a guy based on his cash, but don't you dare complain when he cheats on you with younger sexier girls or when he demands that you shut up and cook.


Women have come a long way from your example of 'thousands of years ago'. Your suggestion of being proud to choose a man based on how rich they are has just set womenkind back a few decades. If I were a woman, I'd hate you.

This post has been edited by parsona: Mar 29 2009, 11:22 PM

You still do not understand. You are just trying to justify your own money mindedness by assuming beforehand that all men will cheat so might as well take his money before he does. No one is saying that poor men do not cheat, but what I'm trying to say is that when you choose money over love, you have lost the right to demand a good husband-wife relationship. Your husband may or may not cheat or treat you like dirt if you choose him based on money, but morally you've already lost, the moment you said your vows to him.

If you really are not the materialistic kind but just require a stable husband, I think thats totally fine. Your topic however is misleading and promotes girls to choose rich guys only. If I were a girl, my principles would be:

I will only allow a man that is self sustaining as well as capable to give my kids a basic life to marry me. He need not be rich, need not be able to buy me a Coach bag but he must at least have a steady income and show that he is a responsible person that can get and keep a job. If I want my kids to have something better than a basic life, I understand that it will be my responsibility as much as his to provide and cater for it, it will not be solely my hubby's responsibility. This is called gender equality.

The problem with your view is that you think the husband is duty bound to provide everything while the wife probably just earns her own money to enjoy herself. A marriage should be a shared responsibility, so if you choose a man based on how rich it is, theres no other name to call you other than a money grabbing whore. If you choose a man that is proven to be responsible and self sustaining, then its called being realistic.

Most of your posts in this thread is simply excuses for you to justify your 'money mindedness'. You seem to stress that love is eventually pointless in life. You are entitled to your opinion on love of course, so let me ask you this. Since you believe that women should go back to your 'thousands of years' ago period where they select men that give them security (money in this era), would you agree to your husband cheating on you, disrespecting you, etc since thats how women were treated back then? After all, you don't really believe in love, so why would you care if your husband cheats rite?

Another question for you. Since you always claim that the money that you are after is for your kids, and not for your Myvi driving self, why don't you put in the effort to be as rich as your hubby so you can provide for your kids? Why must it be the husband who does it? Why do you take the easy way in life by just choosing a rich husband to get rich, instead of getting rich by your own doing?

Like I said earlier, if you only mean to tell people that its ok to girls to choose men who are responsible and can manage to bring up your kids decently, thats totally agreeable with everyone I'm sure. But your posts says that girls should be proud to choose rich husbands... that justs points to you being a money grabber who prefers to get rich on someone else's effort.

Finally, to answer your question.
Yes, I would like to come home to that clean tidy house. Who wouldn't? But in no way will I demand or even ask that my wife be the one that ensures a clean tidy house. I acknowledge that a home and a family is a combined responsibility, chores at home will be shared equally among equals.

I agree.. Don't think I wanna bother debating my points to her anymore when she ignores and keeps repeating the same thing that poor guys also cheat bla bla so might as well choose a rich guy.

She can't even answer my question to her regarding why she can't work hard to be as rich as she wants, instead of taking the easy way out by leeching some guy's hard earned money (or his parents).

Girls, I just wanna say that most guys will have zero respect for you if you think like the TS. If they are smart, they can see through your money mindedness and will despise you. Of course if you're lucky, you will still manage to trick some stupid rich guy into loving you and marrying you but other people around you can see your shameful intentions. If you want to be rich, WORK for it. Be a modern girl that does not need to depend on a guy. Don't go back to the caveman era where women are disrespected and degraded. Its ok to set some standards for your husband, such as being responsible, able to keep a steady job, able to earn enough to take care of your kids etc. But to insist your husband earns like 10k/month is just shameful and unfair. You don't need 10k/month to support your kids. You need 10k/month to buy LV bags and bling bling. Again, if you want to be rich, WORK for it, not marry a rich guy.