TS....

lets get into the reality.... yes, security can be measured in any aspect... be it monetary, assets, love, caring, family, career, etc...

but in this now world.... it seem that monetary is being the main measurement tools for marriage / life partner.

yes, i do admit that monetary value does provide securities..... but is monetary value can buy happiness? health? freedom?

i still rekindle my more than 10 years r/s with my first love when i was 15... in which lasted 10 years.... the issue n motive of this story is simple, im just a reverse of the story u posted of the girl.

i had to endure almost 6 years hiding from the knowledge of her parents... as her father is a famous corporate figure n a tan sri title holder...where else, im just a normal not so well being family-borned.

later, when being introduced to her father, thats where the hell starts.... am i able to provide security, caring, shelter family, being a good husband n father, etc etc. this keep pressurized me to keep work hard, even double n sometimes triple employment, just to show monetary securities....

by end of the day... which i didnt regret making the decision (i guess u all readers will read n guess my decision) n i ask myself, am i working hard for myself or just to get monetary securities for my life partner?

till today, i still not regret to make the decision, as i truly believe my family needs me more than anything else.... my dad got into accident half a year ago n totally hadicapped as well as totally lost source of income... being the eldest, i felt the responsibility should shoulder upon on me....

though all this happens, i kept a healthy finance balance... apart from financing my house n cars, i still able to fund my dad treatment n still could afford to keep substantial amount of investment in unit trusts, etc....

i believe this may not related.... but what would i want to point out is... though with hard life, u still make yr life meaningful, as long as fair amount of hard work... positive attitude and smart thinking.... whenever the challanges thrown to u, u would able to survive w/o monetary securities... though i felt tired, weak, no social-life, not many friends... i feel grateful that i try hard to pay my responsibility back to my parents... n i had answer to questions asked when i leave this world...

so, positively... monetary securities is important.... but family n health in which even billions or trillions of monetary securities cant buy... if these could be brought, then it not as same feelings as genuine!

to me... believe yr instincts, u could create a world of your own, if u n yr partner willing to work hard for the good of your future undertakings.

not necessary to get a rich life partner, just for monetary securities, n for the rest of your life being like nothing to do, as monetary had done everything to u... or chose a life in which u n yr life partner work hard for the sake of future undertakings.... n by yr old age, u felt a sense of achievements in which your future generation could boast about....

either decision make... u will get an apple... just the difference is, whether u buy the apple... or u start from planting the apple

thanks for the encouraging words.....

lets not be ashamed of the TS story and statement... for what i believe... critics and opinions will only make a person stronger... We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly, everything in life is in Contexure. See the world at diffrent point of view, trust me, it will look wonderfully

im surprise this still continue as i expect TS will stopped replying....

anyway, whatever all of yours here opinions.. conclusion is very simple.... either u buy the apple... or make effort to plant apple trees, wait to growth n bear fruit enjoy the harvest....

either way, it would be the same ending...