Shhh...her emotion level is down now.

I want her to take a good, hard look at how many people she's known in her family that has made it out of the Chinese ghetto.

I want her to recognise that what defines the Chinese ghetto is not the poverty, but the abscence of opportunities, the abscence of all sorts of education and human development, the lack of ownership and pride in ownership, and worse than that, the mental, spiritual and physical degradation that KEEPS people in the ghetto.

In an ideal world, once you have made money you would be able to educate your children and they would be able to climb the social economic ladder. But this is Malaysia. Education is purposely kept lousy in order to create new classes of cheap labour and a glut of skilled workers.

Even worse, the attitudes that a parent carries over from the ghetto may sabotage the child in various ways. It's time for Moorish to up her level, not conform what she has discovered to what she has known before.

dont scold me la...i dont know the answer leh...u all talk so deep liau.

BTW, whats a wet blanket?

and what about you Mr. full of pride with flowery writtings? what do you think is the correct answer?

marrying a bum if both are truly truly in love, how long would the marriage last with a baby in it?
since you promote love is more important than financial stability.

answer me this in public with a simple short answer instead of giving us the tl:dr answers

you;re still trying to wriggle your way out of this?
what is the simple answer?

btw...marrying in love is just another bet hoping the bum would get his sense and get financial stability in the name of pride and hope after he is stable he will not get a mistress right

the equal bet would be marrying a rich and hope he doesnt dump you...the chances are equal but at least you get to enjoy instead of struggling and suffering with the bum and hope he even makes it.

ahhh...mr not so gentleman has again break words...stupid? well you sounded like one...writting or copying somewhere without even understanding what you wrote. you held on to pride so tight with the thick skull of yours. you;re small gas, stingy in life, you wanna talk about romance and love? I remember you wont even consider buying a diamond for your wife????

how romantic a man can you be?

btw as mention....what is the simple straight answer?

how long does the marriage will last with a bum and a baby in it?

this is not about changing minds...I've made my choice since japanese occupation, this is about that small gas 2" fella who probably lost a girl to some rich dude and now calling girls who marry rich guys a prostitute.

you hvnt answered the question...you've just only written a 404 circular error about believe.

how long do you think it will last?

about your question...sorry I duno any hooker getting married but I do see a very hurting person in here

And yes...i DO feel ignored.

I think you;re the one who is in denial mode.
btw you have no balls to give a simple straight answer to my question?
having a 2" inside your pants?

come on!!!!

Waaaa..that one asking for trouble la. I think in the first place, one shuld ask on wat the institution of marriage means? Remember the foundation i was talking abt? Apart from dat, how many time have you been on a meaningful relationship? If u were, chances are u wouldnt be mistakening relationship building to wealth building. Both are important in life. But both des not outweigh the other. And even worse when u try to mix both together.

you need to ask more precisely....
both is important,
but if love with a bum
then better money over love.

airport? now I'm amaze...what do you catagorize as airport? A cup, B cup, C cup?
unless you;re blind that doesnt make any difference but you're not blind than you must be a noob, coz you obviously know nothing about boobs. hey it rhymes!

oh now its b1tch...
you're one really hurting man...

see.... guys like him are complete phailure

stingy...hot heads...non gentleman material...whatelse ...oh arguing online at 1.30am in the morining

hahaha...ok you've good imagination and a poor eye sight
at par with your point of view in life too...

BTW from what I understand only losers will whine about my theory

nah losers like you are pathetic, argue with a woman at 1.30 in the morning about something you dun have. and best you can do is start name calling.
    triple face palm for you

what a name d***son HAHAHAHAHHA

sorry....bye bye

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Moorish, I don't think you really understand what you're saying.

I don't think you mean what you're saying.

Because if you do, then you must live a very, very miserable life. It means that you married your husband solely for his money. It means that the thought of him does not make you smile; he has never done or said anything that touched your heart; and you want nothing from him other than his supplementary credit card. It means that if he were to suddenly lose all his money due to some tragedy, you would leave him in an instant. It means that he could die tomorrow and all you'd care about is that his will is in order.

I'm sure you don't. I'm sure you love your husband deeply, and he loves you. I'm sure you know what love means - you who recently had a baby.

What you don't seem to understand is that all your talk of money is deeply anathema to love. Forgive me for using such bombastic words; what it means is that your point of view about money is the very opposite of what love means. If Kuan Yin, the Goddess of Mercy and Love, were real, she would be offended to hear what you said. A girl who took your advice to heart would not be smart - she would be, as Dickson says, a prostitute.

You are not a prostitute. You are a lucky woman who married a wonderful man - a man who means more to you than his net worth. Yet here you are telling everyone that the only thing a woman should look for in a man is his bank statement.

You may think I'm misconstruing your words. I'm not. You dissemble and say things like "love is also important", but yet you keep trotting out your point about lazy unemployed bums. You keep failing to understand that this is a false dichotomy. Teongpeng only just tried to explain it - you cannot argue your point with an extreme opposite.

Money is necessary to survive. Love is necessary to be happy. The more you confuse the two, the more you demonstrate that you don't understand what love means.

You do understand what love means. You see it every day in the eyes of your child. Look into them, and try to think about how much it costs to raise her. Think about the price of baby formula, of diapers, of her crib and her pram and her toys. Think about how much you and your husband will have to save for her education. Think about what you will have to sacrifice for all this - less shopping, less holidays, less facial treatments and spa visits.

I bet you can't. I bet that when you hold her in your arms, all your worries about money vanish. Instantly. You are incapable of thinking about money in the presence of the life you brought into this world.

That's why you're wrong. Everything you've said in this thread. It's just plain wrong.

BANZAI!!! I JOIN THE EMO THREAD!!! 

nothing wrong with everyone being money-minded - i prefer that to having a lot of poor people in this country 

however, i personally prefer to MAKE MY OWN MONEY  bcos try as they might, guys will NEVER EVER understand why girls need more than 2 pairs of shoes and a whole wardrobe of pretty clothes (well, except for karl lagerfield and jimmy choo, they probably understand)

being an adult means being able to support yourself, and not having to worry about your bf/hubby nagging at you, don't u guys think so ? 

Wholeheartedly agreed. Best sensible matured woman in this thread yet. 

Education is lousy in Malaysia, so all of us can stop sending our children to school, instead start training their skills of picking up rubbish since young so they can be at the top of the new classes of cheap labour.

There are no other ways, education is kept lousy in Malaysia. We girls are not allowed to make sure our children deserve good education overseas though, because it will cost money. And we are being called prostitutes that come from Chinese Ghetto, and sabotage our children if we insist on our views that money is essential.