haven't been reading through the whole thread, just first post. want to get this off my chest, it hurts alot. i've known this wonderful girl for around two and a half years. during this time, she had a boyfriend but they had many breakup but would eventually get back together with him. anyways long story short, i sent her a letter, not asking her to be my gf, but asking her to reject me. it may seem weird, but frankly she's just too perfect for me and way out of my league, she deserves better. and also, i want to hear the no before i can finally move on, i cant live with this regret of not knowing her answer. and after that she's just so cold towards me. i used to talk to her quite often on msn, but now we never speak online or offline. it just hurts so badly, she's a really wonderful friend too and i risked everything for my own stupid blind ambition. it's like we are strangers now, from friends to strangers overnight. and im so scared to see her IRL too, i just dont know how i would react.

she had an on-off boyfriend then. i was chasing her for a few years already. i had to move on, she was affecting other aspects of my life. i didnt want to regret, but i also didnt want to put her in an awkward situation seeing as i love her as a friend too. so, i asked for a rejection. actually, what does it matter, she never read a goddamn word i wrote.

mind sharing why instead of contant "OMG FAIL!" ?

i wouldnt say she was unsporting, i thought she handled it with class at first. she gave me an sms after receiving the letter, asked me out for a show as friends...but after that it was all downhill. i still miss her deeply as a friend, never nice to lose one, especially since she was very close to me (from my pov at least). sometimes, i think she just needs more time, but im a naive person.