Hello.. I need some guidance here.. My wife is pregnant currently, at around 7 weeks. Actually, last 3 weeks she went for a job interview, and smoothly, she got the job.

But very very honest, neither of us knew she was pregnant at the time (should be 4 weeks at the time). The company gave her the offer letter on the next week, before I took her to clinic because she was having indigestion and discomfort to her stomach. Thats when we knew she was pregnant.. The doctor scanned her but failed to show us the fertelized egg due to my wife's empty stomach, discomfort due to 'wind'. We should check back within 2 weeks.

So then she consult her current officemates about her situation and all of them positively suggest her to tell her soon to become new employer regarding this. So, being naiive ourselves, I decided we should be really honest with her new employer, we told them about her situation. Which, I just learned today, was a huge mistake..

They retracted her offer letter even last time they eagerly wanted her with their company. I don't really sure what I'm seeking as answer here, but I'm very dissapointed for the incidents as we try to be as honest as we can, and was hoping they at least consider to put her up to 12 months probation due to her situation. But instead, they took the most inconvenient decision. This fairly put lots of pressure to my wife because she really can't stand her current employee (1 month late salary, some other internal problems) and she already submitted her resignation letter a day after she received her offer letter.

May I have any advice, how should I help her? What can I do to comfort her. She's been crying this whole day. I'm typing this after I just put her to sleep. Any advice? I look online just now.. Maybe we took a very bad decision when we told the new company regarding her status.. How do soon-to-be moms do job hunting? I read online (not Malaysia) one lady advice only let employee know after 1st trimester (except for pregnancy-risked jobs obviously, but not my wife's offered pos..)

Thanks

Thanks bro. Actually I want to suggest her to proceed with her resignation. We do have plan to start small time business, but since we didn't yet started, I knew she wouldn't want to stay at home. Everything is fine by me for her to quit her job, just we have to find a bit cheaper place to live. Just she insist to work to have some extra saving.

Today she told me her current manager tried to convince her to stay, as her MD also wants her to stay since she have experience there more than her manager and everyone else in her dept. We'll discuss again tonight.

Thanks for your input. Cheers