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post May 10 2008, 02:46 PM, updated 18y ago

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Alright, i'm feeling terribly lonely. No 'real' friends, no girlfriends, no invitations and nothing. I felt isolated and depressed. I've tried many things to cope with my loneliness. I've tried listening to loud music, walk in the park, walking from my house in SS12 to Sunway and Subang Parade, but nothing seems to work. And infact, everytime i get teased or bullied in school i get more lonely and it's bad for my studies because i felt scared of meeting other students to help me. sad.gif

And the fact is, i'm too scared to meet people because i feared being teased or saying something stupid or embarrassing. I can't even get a girlfriend because i fear that she'll hate me or will find me annoying. It's getting worse and worse everyday.

Which is why i'm seeking help from you guys here in LYN. I want you guys to help me cope and deal with my loneliness. Maybe you can ask me to be your friend, or inviting me to hang out. Anything that could help me cope with this terrible illness(yes, loneliness is an illness IMO). Can you guys just help me?
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post May 10 2008, 02:58 PM

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But is anyone helping me?!
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post May 10 2008, 03:06 PM

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Don't be shy, step out and just do it. I always go with with my motto, just do it. Lolz.


But to where should i step out?

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Or are you a nerdy type of guy? (no offense notworthy.gif) You don't wait for people to ask you out, YOU go ask people out, get it?


But the thing is always fear rejection! I've been asking alot of girls out and i've been rejected alot of times that it's now silly. I've stopped going to clubs alone because i miss going to clubs with a girl. And i'm not nerdy. I'm 50-50.

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Seems like you always get bullied or teased because of??
Because i'm a new student at my new school. And the culture shock of this new school is horrible that i can't really fit in. The thing is is that my old school preaches creativity and general knowledge while this new school is filled with pathetic people who can't help themselves including me. Which is why i'm always teased, because i'm more mature, smart and knowledgeable than the rest of them.
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post May 10 2008, 03:11 PM

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QUOTE(campsol2k @ May 10 2008, 03:09 PM)
first of all,u need to be confident to yourself... its the key of everything. Dont feel that your are pathetic guy. if u dont want to be lonely then make friends, and learn how to mix the crowd...
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but when i'm confident i felt like i'm going to be "over-confident" to the point that i'll start embarrassing myself. And how do i make friends if i don't know what to say?
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post May 10 2008, 03:16 PM

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QUOTE(gurase @ May 10 2008, 03:15 PM)
do volunteering work. help others and u will find meaning. thru there u will also be able to socialise with other volunteers and widen ur network.
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Well can you recommend me some good volunteer programs?

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post May 10 2008, 06:34 PM

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Please guys, be serious. I don't care about your afros. I'm looking for some real-life outside comfort!
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post May 10 2008, 06:48 PM

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QUOTE(Shooterz @ May 10 2008, 06:38 PM)
close LYN .. go outside ?
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i know that.

But the thing is: how?
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post May 12 2008, 06:13 PM

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first.. care to share.. why you dont have friends ?

I have friends. But i don't have "real" friends. I want a real friend, someone who can come with me to hang out together, go to raves together, and all that. I'm tired of doing things alone. I want to experience life and enjoyment with someone.

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are your "friends" avoiding you because of something ?

Maybe. I don't know why.

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do you have any self confidence problem ?

Yes. I have a problem with confidence. Whenever i woke up, i have all the confidence but when i reached school, i lost the confidence and lost the social ability to converse socially because i'm scared that i may embarrass or hurt someone, or be embarrassed myself.

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are you somebody special that don't fit into the general "social" outline the society has set ? ...
Maybe. Maybe because i think different than others. Maybe because i have an open mind. I don't know.

Please, i need someone. Atleast give me a hug.

This post has been edited by TwoThirdsMajority: May 12 2008, 06:19 PM
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post May 12 2008, 06:54 PM

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QUOTE(kb24 @ May 12 2008, 06:45 PM)
do u have any hobby or sport that u like? From sport & hobby, i'm sure u can get to know lot of new friends.. coz there have same interest with you, which  will give u some topic to chat about..
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well i love listening to every dance music genre, and because of that i wanted to try DJing...but i don't have any money to buy turntables and mixers sad.gif

Sports? I don't play sports. I'm a MU fan, but i lost interest in watching football matches since 2002.

But i love reading books, but i'm too scared to reveal it because the people around me consider books as "geeky".

This post has been edited by TwoThirdsMajority: May 12 2008, 06:55 PM
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post May 13 2008, 04:51 PM

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QUOTE(JinXXX @ May 13 2008, 10:26 AM)
have you heard of PC based DJ software ? you can try that its cheaper and you can use your own mp3s to mix smile.gif
maybe you can start a blog.. release your mixes online and share with people..  smile.gif
at least that will give you some meaning in life a purpose..


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Well i do use Mixmeister and i do release my mixes online. But what i want is a real DJ experience. One which includes a Turntable, a mixer and a CDJ.

And i'll post it online when my blog is available. I have trouble logging to Blogger today.
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post May 14 2008, 04:12 PM

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QUOTE(yuan415 @ May 14 2008, 11:36 AM)
anyway,u have friendster,tagged,facebook,flixster,or any thing similar?if u shy to go make frens outside,den juz try making frens online la...
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Well, i stopped using Friendster because it has become so boring lately. I still use Facebook but only to join groups and applications.

QUOTE(yuan415 @ May 14 2008, 11:36 AM)
or those magazine which can people put their photos n hp numbers to make frens also can,i once posted my photo n after being published on the magazine,almoz 100+ people keep calling n sms-ing me within few weeks!
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Well, i once had my photo & profile on an issue of Gempak, and i was so ugly in that.

QUOTE(yuan415 @ May 14 2008, 11:36 AM)
or u have an idol?join their fans club~make frens n discuss about ur idol there,like my idol ~~ Jolin ~~  drool.gif
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Well, i don't mind looking for a Malaysian Emma Watson fan club.
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post May 14 2008, 05:58 PM

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QUOTE(PinkyWhite @ May 14 2008, 11:00 AM)
lets be friend ^^
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Good. so when can we hang out?
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post May 15 2008, 04:11 PM

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QUOTE(~^Alice^~ @ May 15 2008, 06:51 AM)
Change your signature to something that has to do with Pakatan Rakyat.
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Umm, 2 be honest i support UMNO. Why should i support Pakatan Rakyat? Even if UMNO & BN is ruled by SIL and Dollah doesn't mean that we're all pathetic idiots. I support UMNO, it's my right. You can't shove your political beliefs down my throat. Sorry.


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post May 16 2008, 12:39 PM

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Alright, i've decided to do something of myself. I want to help people. After watching the film "Charlie Bartlett" and reading books by Freud and Nietzsche, i've decided to help people with their problems. I wanted to become like a counsellor. I think i could solve my problems by solving others, because i finally realise that no one is normal. Everyone has their problems. And maybe, i won't feel lonely anymore.

So what do you guys think? Should i become a student helper/counsellor? And how do i approach the principal to hire me as the school's counsellor eventhough i'm still a student?
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post May 16 2008, 02:27 PM

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QUOTE(vey99 @ May 16 2008, 02:13 PM)
You tell me you don't care about afros, even though we extend an invitation to you to join our /b/rothahood.
I invite cos you're said you're lonely.

And then when someone suggests PR to you, you reply in a tone that is far from sociable.

AND YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT BEING LONELY!
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Well it's not the tone. I just want to believe whatever i want. Sorry for acting in an unsociable tone, but i'm a libertarian when it comes to politics. I don't mind making friends with PR folks. If Mahathir can be friends with Nik Aziz, why can't other people do the same?

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Helping others so that you won't feel lonely?

*Cough* *Cough*.

I help people sincerely from the bottom of my heart.

Not cos I'm lonely/bored/lulz.

Good luck.
Well helping people to reduce self-loneliness works. Have you seen the movie Charlie Bartlett? Charlie was lonely when he entered to a new school for his final year, but when he offered counselling sessions to students with problems, he's now the most likeable student in the school, and he soon realises how much all of his troubles have gone when he becomes a counsellor. I think you should watch Charlie Bartlett, it's way better than Juno.

And yes, i too help from the bottom of my heart, because i realise there are people worse than me.

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post May 16 2008, 03:18 PM

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QUOTE(vey99 @ May 16 2008, 02:37 PM)
Well if the show inspired you, by all means do so. Counselling is not easy. Important that you learn to listen to people with an open mind. Most of the time you are there to guide them, not tell them what to do. Cheers.
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Well thanks for the advice dude.
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post May 17 2008, 04:38 AM

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QUOTE(kotarosan @ May 17 2008, 01:49 AM)
u deserve to be who u are. only fcking idiot supports umn0.

*do u look like monkey? usually umn0 supporters got monkey look
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Dude how rude are you?
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post May 17 2008, 01:47 PM

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QUOTE(kotarosan @ May 17 2008, 07:28 AM)
im telling you the truth. we deserve what we get. if you get what u dont deserve, you will get avenged later.


Added on May 17, 2008, 7:33 ammaybe ur dad earn money from corruption from his position in umn0 (say so!)
then you inherit his gene, his attitude that make you like him, an umn0 supporter.
soon you and him will get avenged.

check newton 3rd law (scientific evidence)
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Um, no.

My dad did not receive money from UMNO.

We at UMNO may be corrupt, but blame Khairy & Dollah.

I'm a libertarian, and i'm on Mukhriz's side for eff's sake.
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post May 18 2008, 04:46 AM

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QUOTE(GunBlaDeR @ May 17 2008, 09:24 PM)
Your school does not have any clubs? Any uniform bodies?
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The clubs and uni bodies here sux like shiyte

 

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