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Responsibilities vs Privacy of space, Just need some opinions, thanks~
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lunacy
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 Apr 7 2008, 11:48 PM
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well , i am guy , stay with my wife parent cos i just working , salary wise not bad but still not enof to own a house, moreover i from johor , my wife from kl , i working at kl , so no choices to stay with them . come to worst , we just had a kid .
well , staying at ppl house is not nice , morever i am a guy , so some ppl will look down on me . y wife prarent still considerate good , they treat me very good but i still felt that no privacy , althought i live at 3rd floor... i always in the room ...
worst come is we are married bcos of kids , after knowing for 1 one . how we know each other ? one night stand , she offer me sex .
after few times of sex , we finally steady . and now after the kid born , we had alot of argument , especially with kid and money problem ...
erm , i think i will be divorce with her soon, not now , bcos of kids ...
right now i still stay at her parent place , obviously her parent don know ... towards this gals , i had no feeling d , we din have sex for almost a year , a proper one ..
so stay with other half is terrible , worst when couple are fighting ...
so i considerate poor or damn ??
i deserved that or not ..blamed on being poor ...hahah ....
wan to divorce also no money , gals over here maybe u will say that i am bad , actually is to do both of us good , do u willing to live with a person for 30 40 years that u do not have any feeling ??
well, i plan to do that , cos no other way for me...kids ,parents pressure, money , realiti
This post has been edited by lunacy: Apr 8 2008, 12:01 AM
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lunacy
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Apr 8 2008, 07:12 PM
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QUOTE(yee_voon @ Apr 8 2008, 04:25 PM) Yup, agree too.. u don't really need to buy a house, can always rent one. hmmm, even rent also not enof money ... how ?? too much of commitment .... never mind la ... let it be lo ... to be a guy , u must learn to give in sometimes....hahaha .... |
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lunacy
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Apr 8 2008, 09:41 PM
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QUOTE(yee_voon @ Apr 8 2008, 09:25 PM) Well, work it out slowly.. but the most important thing is to voice it out to your wife.. I realize that guys usually don't voice out (especially typical Asian, hehe).. but actually, voicing out is a good way to release your tension, it's also a good way to let her know what you're thinking already voice out everything i can ... but seriously , i don thini of any , not angry anymore , in fact no feeling d ... cant help to say even anger also don have d , no to say love ... |
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lunacy
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Apr 11 2008, 12:51 AM
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QUOTE(yee_voon @ Apr 10 2008, 08:44 AM) Maybe it's really nothing much you can do..  .. Just take whatever necessary actions you can do minimize the hurt for everyone..  Life still goes on, so you have to do things that mean the best for you, but you should also consider the feelings of people around you. All the best, yah? need to see if she wan to do thing best or not ..one hand doesnt clap .... |
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lunacy
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Apr 11 2008, 10:42 PM
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QUOTE(yee_voon @ Apr 11 2008, 08:38 AM) yup..I know how you feel. Just take it easy, if she still doesn't want to do anything, just do whatever you have to as long as you can cover your kid's feelings..
Added on April 11, 2008, 8:39 amIt's fine tolerating their presence as long as you don't stay with them, that's the max I can take what is think is that , now kinds still very small , so he doenst know if we divorce . now don divorce then wait until when ? wait till the child getting bigger ? lets say 10 or 20 years old ? then we will be 40 50 years old d , still wanna divorce ? divorce during that time i think even hurt to child ... cos that time they are old enof to know , odvoisuly now they din know |
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