It's not his parents but his siblings. We bought a house recently & the parent assume that we're going to stay together to look out for each other. So the siblings move in, gave a minimal rental & we shared almost everything. It really doesn't matter to me whether they want to give me money or share things at home. It's just that they've been very selfish and never contributed anything to be part of the family. They're simply treating my house as a hostel and it's worse than having a housemate.

I know I'm outnumbered because of the way I think. I know I sound very selfish to most of the people. I really won't mind visiting them as long as we don't stay together. Just that I think they've been taking things for granted just because they think they're staying with their brother, not outsiders & my other half is not good at making things clear enough. Of course I don't expect them to change, I really just hope that they'll aware that we ought to have our own life & we're not suppose to rely on our closest kin as long as we can be independent about it.

I know everyone is going to blame me if I ever voiced out, the parent's going to blame me for being selfish & definitely my other half & I are not going to be happy.

I just want to be understood.

I strongly agree with what you say. I tried hard enough, I think. I really don't understand how the siblings communicate & I've stated my stake to my spouse clear enough that I am not going to let anyone ruin our relationships. I understand his responsibilities although I don't agree with the way he deals with it.
We'll see how it goes. If things still don't improve, I'll just have to do something.
Thanks anyway 

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Added on April 7, 2008, 3:14 pm

yup, that's what I told my spouse & he agreed with me too, but he's just not brave enough to break the news.