TS,

From your postings here, it sounds like you're a very grounded person so it must be pretty bad for you to not be able to handle it. For the life of me, I can't see a painless solution here. It's either a quick and painful one (if I were in the position, this is when I'd have to come up with some kind of ultimatum) or a long and painful one (just keep quiet and endure). Taking holidays to get away is a short-term temporary reprieve. Not a solution. I feel for you and I hope things work out soon. I'd go absolutely nuts if I were you!

By the way, this thread has turned from one from you asking for advice into one where you give advice