Thanks for ur opinion

I think the case 1 u mentioned above will only applied after I get married next year(really thinking of getting a baby only after a year of marriage). Anyhow, my bf is not a senior manager YET, but going to be, perhaps next year after he had finished getting his certs and trainings.
What we agreed on is, most of his saving will be gone(house renovation, furniture, wedding expenditures, honeymoon and etc) after married, therefore my saving will served as emergency need. And we'll save again, let say 50k a year(luckily car & house loan has paid off, but no travels within this period for sure

). After ard 2years(1st baby is born), at least we got 100k family fund as back up...
By then, I'll quit my freelance job to take care of the baby, will only resume after the 2nd baby is born (this might take me at least 3-5years)... Within these years, family expenditures will solely depend on him, kinda worried if he remains his ranking and never get promoted. After 5years ard25k/mth but after tax and EPF deduction left RM16k/mth only

(tat's y we might register a company to "run off" tax since I'm a freelancer, he can be my sleeping partner

well risky I know...). High maintainance on children is very obvious nowadays, what I've planned is I afford my own expenditures with my saving even with zero income in tat 5years period...By excluding a women spending I believe he could gives our family a comfortable life, of coz, there are still little saving

Since you've paid off home and car loan, even at present salary level and based on 1 income I'm sure can be comfortable. For living in KL, say family with 2 kids, monthly expenses are probably around:
Still got plenty leftover for entertainment, savings, insurance premiums, kindergarten, etc.