Hi allornothing, thanks for your kind reply. You sound like more understanding my situation than others (sorry no offense to others' replies in this thread). Yeah living in a city is not an easy thing, especially if I wanted to maintain my current living standard even after married. Yeah he's not slowing down anyhow but always hoping for improvement  he's aiming his promotion end of this year after he completed his credit hours working in consulating workforce, waiting to be promoted to the manager level and getting RM15k (allowances included) a mth is not a prob after all.

Well from my side, of coz I won't directly let go all my tuition classes(which gv me 6.5k income a mth) right after married, will continuing teaching until I conceived. Hope can save more money b4 stopping and definitely will back to tutoring life after my baby grown up to 2-3years old  wish tat I've planned well  what do u guys/gals think?

haha. if you put it that way then it goes to what i said earlier lor......
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ok, now if you put it that way then i don't have disagreement.

get a girl who spends more than you can afford = stupid.
get a girl and make her think that you can afford when you cannot = also stupid.

for me, i always encourage healthy spending habits and finance monitoring.

and you're right about food and entertainment part. just that it has to be controlled.

i find that a lot of people some how love to get into relationships but later complain they cannot afford it and such. if that's the case, then again - stupid guy. can't afford, don't commit la.

Just wondering are Malaysian girls willing to accept that the house has to survive on dual income?

The girls I've dated in Malaysia more or less expects the guy to be the sole bread winner after marriage,
where else girls abroad are more independent and still want to pursue a career after marriage/birth.

hmm definitely guys can spend on themselves since they r earnin da money wat
but u know wat, my fren who drivin a sports car and spend >RM30k in modifying his car owiz expect his gf to share their outing expenses 
and da gal is only earnin around rm1.7k per month

so unless you are doing biz its impossible to reach 10k ...

Is 8k in total per mth personal loan... for starting up a business but partner ran away, he was the one who bear all the shits

No... not dare to do any scouting work now coz still paying debts(which only goin to clear end of this year), 450-500k hse is the loan only coz I'll pay 100k down payement d

Anyway, rgd the furnishing part, we r not buying everything new but will move some of his current condo(bought and paid off by his dad) such as his mini theater set, washing machine, fridge, dining table set, mattress for guest room etc  Hopefully can save a lil lor...